What's WRONG WITH ME, I JUST CAN'T CUM

I can come multiple times with ease with most of my partners.  There are two keys to it:

Stay well-well hyrdrated in the days leading up to it.  Drink at least 1.5 times your recommended water (which is half your body weight in ounces). 

Learn how to work your kegel muscles.  And use them. Don't be afraid it's pee. It may feel like a similar situation, but just let it go and trust that it's not. If you pee prior to sex and you're well-hyrdated, it won't be pee. Trust me. ;)  

PS. Put down a towel first.  AND RELAX!!!!!! And it will cum! :D 

Hello,

Honestly many people doubt this, but i have alot of friends that are girls, and have had some girlfriends with the same problem. Some girls have trouble reaching a full climax with just vaginal sex.  It may sounds weird, but try anal sex, suprisingly enough for me it helped girls reach their first climax, along with alot of my friends (females) said thats how they reached their first climax. But its under your own discression, and it always depends on the experience of the male

I am 50 and have never had a problem with having a orgasm. I have been with the same partner for 6 years. We have always had great sex. Now it takes awhile and I can get wet, but can never cum. I think I am broken. We have tried many different postion and toys, even a little kinky, nothing seems to work. I am I to old. I am very interest in sex just can't get any relief. What's up with that?

What do you mean it only took her masterbating to be able to cum? Like masterbating alone? Or berofe sex? During? I have been with my bf for about 5yrs and I can't cum and I'm tired of it I want to feel what the other girls feel! The amazing feeling and all that I'm so :(

Im in my late 20s and i never experienced an orgarsm until like a month ago when my boyfriend introduced to a vibrator. It was an amazing experience. I would recommend getting something like the rabbit vibe or the butterfly kiss. They both work your clit and your Gspot at the same time....

Reading these replies really helped. I tried some things you guys mentioned and I felt myself building up. I've never had an orgasm before but today I know I got close,telling my husband what to do with his hands while stroking myself, and it was amazing. even though I wasn't able to get it today, I'll keep working on it and one day ill finally have an amazing orgasm! So my advice is, if you can't get excited on your own like me, don't feel afraid to ask your significant other to help. It's definitely worth it!!

For some reason I can't cum either and say I cant

binnyjinny I am in that same situation as you!! I lost my virginity to the love of my life, my senior year of high school I was 18 at the time. I cant help but feel every time we make beautiful love, he assums he didnt perform well enough to make me cum! :( and it makes me sad to see him feel like he "wasn't good enough" even though he rocks my world every time (even the quickies)! i just want to have an orgasm and to show him that i can cum on him. if i can do that i have succeeded!!  when i ride him cowgirl style, my clitoris rubbs agains his skin and its sensational after that i cant move and i get super sensitive down there... he has to pry me off because i wont move to the next position. is that when i had an orgasm or cummed?

 

1st off don't feel weird I'm 24 and I can't cum. Me and my boyfriend have had great sex. Heavenly. It is so great. But I wouldn't worry about it. You need to talk to your boyfriend before anything. In sure he would understand what is going on. Some guys can't cum either. Not until they are older though. Sometimes it depends on how experienced you or you partner are. You should think about it and find out if he fits your sexual needs and you other needs. If not try to find someone a little more experienced. If so well maybe he isn't doing what he should be to make you cum. A lot of google answers help also. So just remember you are not alone in this :-) hope I could help

Hey im 15 and i cant cum im having sex with my boyfriend hes 17 almost 18 :/ but help im turning 16 soon so help

youll know, trust me. itll fell like the best thing ever. i had my first orgasim when i was 16 and trust me, noone can teach you how to cum. its diffrent for everyone..... 

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im 16 years old and i tried everything to cum but it don't seem to work and i hate having sex with my bf because i don't feel exactly normal. i hate having this problem, when i told my boyfriend this he just look at me and said he didnt care but come on every guy wants a girl to cum. I wish there was a cure for this, somebody help me !!! Dump him. If he doesn't care, just dump him. He is using you for sex, obs if he doesn't care about you. Im 16 myself, and i recently broke up with my boyfriend because of some sh*t but when we had sex, he'd make me cum by stimulating my clit while banging. Or not, (i liked this better) after he came, he'd give me a lick. Man, it used to be amazing. Maybe i should call him back. After all, he said sorry. Thank you! :D

I AM ALSO 18 ABOUT TO BE 19 AND I HAVE THE SAME ISSUE FOR ME I CANT PLEASE MYSELF JUST BY TOUCHING MYSELF OR PLAYING WITH TOYS OR BY PENIS PENETRATION WHAT DOES HELP IS WHEN I HUMP SOMETHING LIKE GRINDING ON A TUB MY HAND OR THE COUCH ITS ALL ABOUT CLITORIS FOR SOME GIRL AND I THINK THAT IS YOUR PROBLEM TRY GETTING COMFTABLE WITH YOUR BODY

Get screwed in the ass your g spot is there

This is how what you do , you will have to, " Release from your head before you can release from your body" , what do I mean, start by deciding to let go of many of the role playing, try letting go a little bit of  acting , or faking, write down your fantasies, and try to experience them fully in your head..., see them live them ...etc...

You will need to learn to empty your head, until your head can be even a tad here...The more Present you will be, the more Real you will  be, the more Relax you will be .... then ...and only then ... " A LET GO" = Orgasm,,, would be able to happen. Buzz me back if got a question.