Ok I am happily married and I have an 11 month old son. But I just found out something and I feel really bad inside right now. I just found out one of the guys I dated in high school that ended bc his mom died and he moved away well we stayed in touch for a while but anyways. I just found out that he came back and he is now dating one of my worst enemies from high school!!!!! And I'm jealous and angry is this normal????? :-(
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TOTALLY! Especially when you have stresses in you life NOW! Because back then there weren't all these stresses or pressures and you look back fondly about the "good ole days!" when perhaps they werent' even that great! It's called looking at the past through rose colored glasses!
I will tell you a story about me - like you didn't see that coming!! ;-) XD - I had the LOVE of my life when I was 17 - 20 years old! He got married - which broke my heart! Then a few years later I was married had my first child and I heard he was a MAJOR alcoholic! I was talking to my mom about him and she said "well that's a good thing you didn't end up marrying him then!" I quickly replied out of the blue "he would have NEVER had a drinking problem if he had stayed with me!!!!" I couldn't believe that I still felt that way about him, and was actually happy and interested in the fact that he might be "single"! Because when he and I were together, we didn't have a care in the world, we rode around on his motorbike - he looks like a younger Dennis Quaid (SAME smile etc) - and you know that song Strawberry Wine? That reminds me of what was! And then when your faced with stresses of being a GROWN up! It SUCKS! But I quickly forget that he decided to marry someone else!! etc. and ALL that came with that! It's just easier to remember the good! Also honey, even though you are married and a mother, you are STILL a teenager! So even though your role is an ADULT! Your heart and actions are still classified as a young person! ALL ages and sexes have regrets and "what ifs?!" As long as you know your place that's all!
I will tell you a story about me - like you didn't see that coming!! ;-) XD - I had the LOVE of my life when I was 17 - 20 years old! He got married - which broke my heart! Then a few years later I was married had my first child and I heard he was a MAJOR alcoholic! I was talking to my mom about him and she said "well that's a good thing you didn't end up marrying him then!" I quickly replied out of the blue "he would have NEVER had a drinking problem if he had stayed with me!!!!" I couldn't believe that I still felt that way about him, and was actually happy and interested in the fact that he might be "single"! Because when he and I were together, we didn't have a care in the world, we rode around on his motorbike - he looks like a younger Dennis Quaid (SAME smile etc) - and you know that song Strawberry Wine? That reminds me of what was! And then when your faced with stresses of being a GROWN up! It SUCKS! But I quickly forget that he decided to marry someone else!! etc. and ALL that came with that! It's just easier to remember the good! Also honey, even though you are married and a mother, you are STILL a teenager! So even though your role is an ADULT! Your heart and actions are still classified as a young person! ALL ages and sexes have regrets and "what ifs?!" As long as you know your place that's all!
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Well I know my place and I love my family. I just wanted to know and now I do. Thanks alot. And oh yea i'm having surgery tomorrow i'm having my gallbladder taken out i thought i would let you know. But It just was eating me up
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Good luck honey, you will be fine!!!! And take it easy and listen to everything they say OK?
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OUCH!!
Well, I am...well....I guess I am confused, and Hurt. NOT mad, but Hurt.
Honey, I love you and you should know that.
BUT!!
1. You could had come to me over this, it would not had hurt as bad.
2. Why, why would you feel something for a EX? Why would you not talk to me over this? I mean, I am a guy, a very very wierd one, and I wear my emotions on my sleve, but still. My EX, got into a relationship, and I not once doubted or felt anything about it...
Maybe, your not sure about me or us....I am not posting anything else to this, and since you would not answer me in person, maybe you'll tell me on here. All I know is WOW!! I never seen this coming, I mean Did I do something? I don't know, I ll just go...and deal with this...on my own... :-( %-) :-( :'(
Well, I am...well....I guess I am confused, and Hurt. NOT mad, but Hurt.
Honey, I love you and you should know that.
BUT!!
1. You could had come to me over this, it would not had hurt as bad.
2. Why, why would you feel something for a EX? Why would you not talk to me over this? I mean, I am a guy, a very very wierd one, and I wear my emotions on my sleve, but still. My EX, got into a relationship, and I not once doubted or felt anything about it...
Maybe, your not sure about me or us....I am not posting anything else to this, and since you would not answer me in person, maybe you'll tell me on here. All I know is WOW!! I never seen this coming, I mean Did I do something? I don't know, I ll just go...and deal with this...on my own... :-( %-) :-( :'(
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You know I agree with you on this...
But, there is no "What Ifs", No old feelings, and believe me I had my share of relationships. So maybe you can answer my question, how is it when I see an EX. I don't care, or when I hear about them, and I say "Thank god we did break up."
Here is my problem with this entire subject...
My life was planned out, 5 year college, etc.
I had everything, friends, popularity, and ofcourse "Bad Boy Style"
But then... Teenmom got pregnant, and instead of being a "Boy", I stood up. I threw away everything. Yes, I could had been that guy, "She is a w****, not my kid."
But no, I didn't even accuse her of cheating, I said, alright, I guess I ll be a Daddy. Instantly, I gave everything up.
Not once did I question "What if" Nor do I feel anything for any of my EX's, and to me, I wish I had never met them. If I could, I would never dated them at all.
I mean, at 17 years old, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with Teenmom. (For other guys, playing one hole for the rest of there life...well...wouldn't be great) I didn't care, because to me, Teenmom, was the answer to my prayer. She was the one, and I knew it. I do NOT question it.
So how is it I feel this way, no doubts, nothing, just love for her. Yet, she is jealous over an EX? What am I not doing right, or is it even me? I dont know.... :? :(
But, there is no "What Ifs", No old feelings, and believe me I had my share of relationships. So maybe you can answer my question, how is it when I see an EX. I don't care, or when I hear about them, and I say "Thank god we did break up."
Here is my problem with this entire subject...
My life was planned out, 5 year college, etc.
I had everything, friends, popularity, and ofcourse "Bad Boy Style"
But then... Teenmom got pregnant, and instead of being a "Boy", I stood up. I threw away everything. Yes, I could had been that guy, "She is a w****, not my kid."
But no, I didn't even accuse her of cheating, I said, alright, I guess I ll be a Daddy. Instantly, I gave everything up.
Not once did I question "What if" Nor do I feel anything for any of my EX's, and to me, I wish I had never met them. If I could, I would never dated them at all.
I mean, at 17 years old, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with Teenmom. (For other guys, playing one hole for the rest of there life...well...wouldn't be great) I didn't care, because to me, Teenmom, was the answer to my prayer. She was the one, and I knew it. I do NOT question it.
So how is it I feel this way, no doubts, nothing, just love for her. Yet, she is jealous over an EX? What am I not doing right, or is it even me? I dont know.... :? :(
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Hi Honey! As I'm sure you are aware we women are built and act TOTALLY different! Your wife loves you VERY much honey! I know this because of what she has told me and how she puts things! I study people, I listen, I read, and I HEAR! And what she has been telling me is that she is TOTALLY stressed out! With her family issues, her health, debt etc. - I'm not saying you don't of course - BUT she is VERY stressed! And when we are stressed we grab onto those days that we "Thought" we were stress free! And we tend to look at that time period as a better time than it was! This is NOT about you honey, it's about her stress! Don't take this personal - I know it's too late! We just think differently, she KNOWS you're her guy and the man she loves and the father of her child! She is just trying to remember when things weren't so stressful! ALSO it ALL depends on how the relationship ended! IF you were the one to walk away, that is one feeling! IF you were the one that was dropped - there is a sense of "having your day in court" This is what I call trying to get retribution or getting back at that person! This isn't about you honey! I promise! She loves you VERY much! IT's about the challenges of growing up and surrounded by stress - I am 45 and STILL feel the same way! And I am glad you came on here, because I think you should be commended for "stepping up to the plate" as a TRUE man! And just know that once you get through all of this "c**p" you will come out stronger - unfortunately it's just part of growing up, THAT and paying taxes!! ;-) Big hugs honey! And just talk, because you can really start putting your head in the sand so you don't have to worry your partner! You guys WILL make this honey, you've already gone through what most "adults" go through in a life time! So just remain side by side! HUGS to both!
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