Couldn't find what you looking for?

TRY OUR SEARCH!

I don't want to start a political/religious debate AT ALL, but I would like to know would you donate/sell your eggs/sperm in order for another couple--unknown to you--to conceive?

Is that even considered in the realm of ethics?

Mr Aire and I were discussing this and really not sure.

Loading...

Too bad you just did.
My opinion? Why not. I'm not using that stuff, why shouldn't someone who wants/needs it take advantage?
Reply

Loading...

Yes I would.
Reply

Loading...

No. I wouldn't want to father kids I couldn't father. (you know what I mean?)
Reply

Loading...

With so many unwanted children, I think adoption is the way to go. No, I wouldn't donate. I couldn't sleep at night knowing my genes were out there somewhere.
Reply

Loading...

You wouldn't be fathering them ... the male recipient of your donation would be. Just because you create a child does not mean you father them. But I do see what you mean, viewing it from your perspective.
I was adopted. I would never consider my biological parents, should I ever meet them, to be my parents. Ever. Whatever their reasons, they gave me up. That wasn't just for back then, but forever. In terms of who is my parent, those that expected me cannot be, those who selected me will forever be.
Then again, my older brother was adopted, too, and he would consider the biological tie - very strongly as well. Interesting.
Reply

Loading...

I guess what I am saying is that I couldn't give up my kids, born or unborn. JRJO is exactly right, too. There are a lot of babies out there who need parents, first take care of them.
Reply

Loading...

I know you feel that way, particularly because you define yourself as a father - that's why I said I saw what you were saying earlier. Just to make it more interesting....
1) I'm a nonparent, others here are. I'm curious how the various groups feel about both perspectives (do most nonparents have my view, or the opposite, etc.)
2) Would it make a difference if you knew the recipient? For example, your best friend was infertile, their spouse was not - would you "let" yourself or your spouse donate if you would know the child as it grew up?
3) Adoption is often a very time-consuming, expensive process. Does anybody know the time and financial differences between surrogacy, adoption (domestic and abroad), and anonymous donation?
Fascinating topic.
Reply

Loading...

1) I wouldn't have a problem donating an egg anonymously. I don't have children right now, although I may want one in the future. Perhaps not having a child right now influences my view somewhat, and I don't know if it would change or not if I had one.

2) Donating to someone I know would actuallyseem a lot more bizarre and I'd be less inclined to do that. Again, I don't know why; I am not a selfish person but I can just see some issues down the road. I'd like to say I could but I can't. I think it would kill a friendship.

3)I have no idea of the costs involved with any of those options. At some point, whether or not I give birth to a child we'd like to adopt an older child. Obviously, this would be when we both feel we can be responsible parents who are willing to invest the time and love necessary. There seem to be so many children in this country who get bounced around from foster home to foster home that never have a permanent sense of family because a lot of people want to adopt babies. There a ton of great children out there who need a home and stability and if it's possible I'd like to help at least one.

Reply

Loading...

:1:
But you mentioned selling your 'goods'. How much money are we talking about here?
Reply

Loading...

:1:
But you mentioned selling your 'goods'. How much money are we talking about here?
It's $5k for eggs and $20k to be a surrogate mom.
I'm not sure about the sperm, though.
The $20k sounded really good until Mr Aire reminded me I would have to give birth. $20k isn't enough at that point.
I think donating to a stranger would be less bizarre than someone I knew.
Unless I had a sister I was super-close to, then I would donate to her.
Reply

Loading...

With the availability of sperm, I'm guessing about $5/qt.
Reply

Loading...

Wow, its gone up. It was $2k in college (I know because some desperate friends were looking into it)
I have no children and I think thats why I say I couldn't. I would also always wonder about my genes that are out there living...and someday I want children and if I gave up my one chance to have a child that would upset me. However, that turns the tables doesn't it? If then I couldn't have kids I would definitely do everything in my power to adopt. I've seen some people have absolutely wonderful families because of adoption.
For my sisters though? Probably. Interestingly too, I'd be more willing to serogate than to donate.
Reply

Loading...

I know a handful of people involved in both and from what I see, time-wise and cost, the fertility treatments cost tons more and take longer than adoption.
As for surrogacy, I think the last stat I saw was even for all the talk about it, there are only about 1,000 surrogate births a year in this country. And the legalities of it are far from cut and dry. Pretty scary if you ask me.
Reply

Loading...

Did insurance cover some of that? I've had only one friend who went the fertility route, so my understanding is quite limited. She had to pay a lot for the initial tests, but once it was determined she would "have problems" her insurance company picked up half (but her half was pretty expensive). So she paid for the diagnosis and half the treatment; I can't imagine this is 'normal'?
Reply

Loading...