Hi,
I have been with my girlfriend about 8 months now and were getting along just great except for one small problem. She gets incredibly wet when having sex and often before. She cant usually feel anything throughout sex and usually causes me the same issue, she gets really embarrassed and frustrated about it which is understandable. We have tried positions and allsorts but just cant seem to find anything that works. I eventually decided to bite the bullet and ask you guys, you previously helped me with other problems so i thought it would be worth a shot. After reading around on the net there doesnt seem to be any solutions but surely there must be something.
Thanks
I have been with my girlfriend about 8 months now and were getting along just great except for one small problem. She gets incredibly wet when having sex and often before. She cant usually feel anything throughout sex and usually causes me the same issue, she gets really embarrassed and frustrated about it which is understandable. We have tried positions and allsorts but just cant seem to find anything that works. I eventually decided to bite the bullet and ask you guys, you previously helped me with other problems so i thought it would be worth a shot. After reading around on the net there doesnt seem to be any solutions but surely there must be something.
Thanks
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Hi honey! She is experiencing Female Ejaculation! And proberbly she doesn't know much about it, so becomes SO embarrassed that she starts "closing down" with the embarrassment!
Some women Ejaculate and others don't! The Ejaculate is similar to Prostate Liquid, and comes from a glad called Skenese Gland! And it comes through the urethra, so many women and their partners actually think it is urine! IT IS NOT!! So please tell your girlfriend to read this and put her mind at ease!
Also about penetration issues, this is VERY common, especially among women who can ejaculate from Clitoral stimulation, basically it is the exact same thing that you experience after you ejaculate! It is ALL about the body climaxing and then going into a state of "downtime" = for the lack of a better word!
All you need is to work together and reassure yourselves that there is NOTHING wrong or embarrassing here! In fact I'm sure there will be people putting their two cents in about how it turns them on etc etc.! Many women can NOT ejaculate and feel really bad and beat themselves up about it! So tell her to "embrace" her femininity and just figure out a way of not "getting there" till after or during actual intercourse OK?
Good luck and health to both of you!
Some women Ejaculate and others don't! The Ejaculate is similar to Prostate Liquid, and comes from a glad called Skenese Gland! And it comes through the urethra, so many women and their partners actually think it is urine! IT IS NOT!! So please tell your girlfriend to read this and put her mind at ease!
Also about penetration issues, this is VERY common, especially among women who can ejaculate from Clitoral stimulation, basically it is the exact same thing that you experience after you ejaculate! It is ALL about the body climaxing and then going into a state of "downtime" = for the lack of a better word!
All you need is to work together and reassure yourselves that there is NOTHING wrong or embarrassing here! In fact I'm sure there will be people putting their two cents in about how it turns them on etc etc.! Many women can NOT ejaculate and feel really bad and beat themselves up about it! So tell her to "embrace" her femininity and just figure out a way of not "getting there" till after or during actual intercourse OK?
Good luck and health to both of you!
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thanks,
she is often very wet before any physical stimulation at all thats all, and how would we work on her "holding out". Sorry im not very experienced at this sort of thing. We talked about it and she said she sometimes finds she gets very wet when in conversations and normal life, almost uncontrollable.
she is often very wet before any physical stimulation at all thats all, and how would we work on her "holding out". Sorry im not very experienced at this sort of thing. We talked about it and she said she sometimes finds she gets very wet when in conversations and normal life, almost uncontrollable.
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Hi honey! Most younger people don't realize that the BRAIN is the BIGGEST sex organ we have! So thus she will get easily stimulated by things that are just normally stimulating! Even her clothes rubbing against her! There isn't much she can do about her own stimulation issues - as she can't really control that part of her brain!
I truly think that her biggest thing - right now - is to realize that this is HER normal and it is TOTALLY natural! And she needs to get over that hump of feeling shame with it! Because SHAME also comes from the brain and can TOTALLY interfere with her sexual health! As far as I'm concerned honey, it is up to YOU to help her feel like the TOTAL woman she is! And that this ISN'T affecting you at all! Even though it might be right now, because you aren't so aware of it either, I promise you that if you enable her to feel "Complete and like a natural woman" that she is, then everything else will fall into place!
Do you guys do ANY type of foreplay - in particular clitoral stimulation? Also she might have a problem talking to you about ALL of this - due to this new information for her, and the fact that she has probably been beating herself up about it for a LONG time! And those hangups can be embedded into her psyche! So I would tell you to tell her to talk to me! We can have one on ones, and I can help her further, THEN you guys can start communicating together - because I can help you too of course, and then it will be just like couples counselling right? This ISN'T a problem that has to be a problem - if that makes sense? It is just communicating and being there for each other and giving each other a HUGE support! I promise you honey it WILL come together, just needs a little patience and tenderness that's all!
So if you ask her to log on here too, then I will be able to talk to her and reassure her AND you that this will be OK?
I truly think that her biggest thing - right now - is to realize that this is HER normal and it is TOTALLY natural! And she needs to get over that hump of feeling shame with it! Because SHAME also comes from the brain and can TOTALLY interfere with her sexual health! As far as I'm concerned honey, it is up to YOU to help her feel like the TOTAL woman she is! And that this ISN'T affecting you at all! Even though it might be right now, because you aren't so aware of it either, I promise you that if you enable her to feel "Complete and like a natural woman" that she is, then everything else will fall into place!
Do you guys do ANY type of foreplay - in particular clitoral stimulation? Also she might have a problem talking to you about ALL of this - due to this new information for her, and the fact that she has probably been beating herself up about it for a LONG time! And those hangups can be embedded into her psyche! So I would tell you to tell her to talk to me! We can have one on ones, and I can help her further, THEN you guys can start communicating together - because I can help you too of course, and then it will be just like couples counselling right? This ISN'T a problem that has to be a problem - if that makes sense? It is just communicating and being there for each other and giving each other a HUGE support! I promise you honey it WILL come together, just needs a little patience and tenderness that's all!
So if you ask her to log on here too, then I will be able to talk to her and reassure her AND you that this will be OK?
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It's kind of nice for me to hear about a girl having that problem.
When I was first married, I had the problem. I would come while I was doing oral on my wife, without anyone touching my penis. Then when I went inside, I still came again in about three strokes or less. So for years I concentrated on doing her orally until she was screaming and moaning, to be sure she got pleasure before I went inside. Eventually I was able to time it so that we could come together after I went inside and that was just an amazing feeling.
So I feel it's something that the two of you simply need to work out as a timing issue. I'm pretty sure she has little or no control over the way that happens.
There is a good description on the Web MD site of what happens to a teenage boy to cause unwanted erections and ejaculations that are so embarrassing because they can't be controled. They say it's partly the brain but mostly a completely involuntary thing that's controled by the same system that controls breathing and heartbeats ect. Your concious brain has almost no control over that system.
I haven't searched their female section to see if they describe anything similar happening to girls but this sure sounds like it.
When I was first married, I had the problem. I would come while I was doing oral on my wife, without anyone touching my penis. Then when I went inside, I still came again in about three strokes or less. So for years I concentrated on doing her orally until she was screaming and moaning, to be sure she got pleasure before I went inside. Eventually I was able to time it so that we could come together after I went inside and that was just an amazing feeling.
So I feel it's something that the two of you simply need to work out as a timing issue. I'm pretty sure she has little or no control over the way that happens.
There is a good description on the Web MD site of what happens to a teenage boy to cause unwanted erections and ejaculations that are so embarrassing because they can't be controled. They say it's partly the brain but mostly a completely involuntary thing that's controled by the same system that controls breathing and heartbeats ect. Your concious brain has almost no control over that system.
I haven't searched their female section to see if they describe anything similar happening to girls but this sure sounds like it.
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i agree and we are working on it, to talk about it and everything. At the moment were only 17 and this is the first partner for both of us. I think her main issue is not the wetness more that she cant feel anything. This makes sexy a problem. We are due to have some time alone at the end of the month and i thought about maybe getting one of these vibrating ring things :s dont know much about them but thought it might help her feel something.
Thanks
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Don't go there just yet OK? What IS happening is this, she is at a CONSTANT state of climax!! And her body is becoming numb to all of this stimuli! MORE stimuli is NOT the way to go right now OK? Her brain is overwhelmed! Is she on the pill?
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yes and we use condoms to be doubly safe, do you have any suggestions to work around the problem?
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Actually I do, I think the pill she is on is wrong for her! I wonder if it is just progesterone or a combination!? I am really thinking she is on a Progesterone pill only! THUS the increase in her "Sex hormone" What she needs to do is ask her doctor to do a blood workup for her hormones! I REALLY think that her male hormones are way up there - Testosterone and Progesterone! When those come back, she needs to talk to her doctor about getting on a different pill! There are SO many out there, and I think this is a BIG reason for her having such problems! Actually I'm almost 100% sure of it! When she changes the pill, she will probably feel/see a difference within the first cycle! And also GOOD for you for caring so much about her AND using a condom too! Just be there for her through this OK?
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i dont mean to sound like im moaning im just trying to help her, apparently she is on the tablets yasmin dont know if that helps at all. Also she said she had this even before starting the pill just not as bad, are there any pills that may be able to decrease the amount? Thanks bambi27 for your help so far and in the future, your a star. Also do you have msn or an email so i could contact you directly and maybe we could talk about ways to get round it and things
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Hi hon! No can do! We have to keep it on here OK? Also it helps others to read the questions and answers! No one knows who you are, so that's the greatest thing about it, you can ask away and with complete annonymity!
As you have just stated, her being on Yaz HAS helped her somewhat with her problem, so this shows that it IS hormonal! Now she just needs to get the right one! There are SO many that is the problems, I have a thought that your girlfriend might be reacting to the progesterone in the combination pill. So I think it might be a good idea to see if she can tolerate progesterone pills NOT combination some of the names of progesterone are:
1. Norethindrone - the following brand name pills contain this hormone:
•Ortho Micronor
•Errin
•Aygestin
•Nor-QD
•Camila
•Jolivette
•Nora-BE
2. Norgestrel - the following brand name pill contains this hormone:
•Ovrette
She will still need to be checked up by her doctor! As I think she should be seen by a gynecologist! And have a blood workup! This is definitely hormone related! Also ask her if she is wet ALL the time OR at certain times of the month! What I would suggest is for her to write on a calendar - when she menstruates, when she has signs of increased wetness etc. I think this will show the doctor and myself exactly which hormone is behind all of this! NOTE: With progesterone only pills, they are a little less protective then a combination pill, and they can actually stop periods all together!
The MAIN objective is to get her checked up on! As this is affecting her quality of life, then doctors will take this seriously! A gynecologist is the correct doctor to ask questions of! Believe me they have seen EVERYTHING and heard everything! So she shouldn't be embarrassed aboutt hat!
As you have just stated, her being on Yaz HAS helped her somewhat with her problem, so this shows that it IS hormonal! Now she just needs to get the right one! There are SO many that is the problems, I have a thought that your girlfriend might be reacting to the progesterone in the combination pill. So I think it might be a good idea to see if she can tolerate progesterone pills NOT combination some of the names of progesterone are:
1. Norethindrone - the following brand name pills contain this hormone:
•Ortho Micronor
•Errin
•Aygestin
•Nor-QD
•Camila
•Jolivette
•Nora-BE
2. Norgestrel - the following brand name pill contains this hormone:
•Ovrette
She will still need to be checked up by her doctor! As I think she should be seen by a gynecologist! And have a blood workup! This is definitely hormone related! Also ask her if she is wet ALL the time OR at certain times of the month! What I would suggest is for her to write on a calendar - when she menstruates, when she has signs of increased wetness etc. I think this will show the doctor and myself exactly which hormone is behind all of this! NOTE: With progesterone only pills, they are a little less protective then a combination pill, and they can actually stop periods all together!
The MAIN objective is to get her checked up on! As this is affecting her quality of life, then doctors will take this seriously! A gynecologist is the correct doctor to ask questions of! Believe me they have seen EVERYTHING and heard everything! So she shouldn't be embarrassed aboutt hat!
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sorry i didnt make that very clear, since being on the tablet her problem has got worse not better. However with my limited knowledge of
Alevel Bio and common-sense, i agree it could still suggest hormonal activity. She is on her last set of pills and then needs to go back to the docs anyway. We spoke about how it was all linked and she wants me to go with her to the docs, we also decided it would be worth talking to her about it. Thankyou so much for your help, after reading some posts on other forums i started to think it was an incurable condition. I think it would do her alot for her self confidence if we could get it sorted.
Alevel Bio and common-sense, i agree it could still suggest hormonal activity. She is on her last set of pills and then needs to go back to the docs anyway. We spoke about how it was all linked and she wants me to go with her to the docs, we also decided it would be worth talking to her about it. Thankyou so much for your help, after reading some posts on other forums i started to think it was an incurable condition. I think it would do her alot for her self confidence if we could get it sorted.
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Then definitely she will need to be put on a progesterone pill only! NOT combination! Still have her write everything down OK? And please let me know how you guys make out!! Good luck and health to both of you!
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Jasmin is a horrible pill that intentionally causes interference in the menstrual cycle, making it occur once every 2-3 months and all sorts of other side effects. I don't know why it is even allowed on the market, as it's very unhealthy. She really should have her doctor do a workup and put her on a different pill.
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We have found it!!!!!
as you may have guessed by now after a long search we have finally found the reasoning behind the problem. it would appear my girlfriend has a latex allergy. we recently tried latex free condoms as a long shot and the problem was magically resolved. no irritation, no pain, and no excessive wetness. thank you so much for all your help i thought i should tell you what the issue was out of courtesy. once again thanks!
as you may have guessed by now after a long search we have finally found the reasoning behind the problem. it would appear my girlfriend has a latex allergy. we recently tried latex free condoms as a long shot and the problem was magically resolved. no irritation, no pain, and no excessive wetness. thank you so much for all your help i thought i should tell you what the issue was out of courtesy. once again thanks!
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