8 years ago a woman I had stopped seeing about two weeks prior called me to inform me that she had been diagnosed with HPV, and that I should be on the look out for genital warts, that I might also be infected. Sure enough, a couple of weeks latter a tiny wart appeared, I saw a doc, the wart was removed.
I haven't had sex since that episode 8 years ago (no just due to the infection, its a long story). I havn't had any other warts either.
So I was symptomatic one time 8 years ago. Nothing in 8 years. I understand that HPV is incurable and "untestable" in men.
Anyway, I have this date coming up. Should something develop, I feel compelled to tell my potential partner the stuff I've said above.
What do I say? How do I say it? Anybody had any experience in this department? From what I've read, there isn't really any safe way to have sex short of wrapping your entire body in latex. Is it beyond the realm of possibility to expect that someone would still be interested in having sex with someone who discloses what I've said above. How to proceed?
Any thoughts greatly appreciated.
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Hi, I can totally understand where you're coming from, having been diagnosed with hpv six or seven years ago. It can really make someone nervous about getting out and dating because of the dread of having "the talk" with a new potential partner for the fear of getting rejected. I must admit, I still am hesistant to go out and date. However, it is not out of the realm of possiblities to hope that someone would still date someone with hpv; I speak from personal experience. My last ex-girlfriend and I went on a few dates and things started to spark between us, so I told her I had to tell her something on the third or fourth date. I still remember clearly where we were: in the middle of a small stream sitting on a big rock facing each other and holding hands. After I told her, a tear rolled down her eye and she didn't say anything. After a long moment of silence she looked at me and said, "It doesn't make me think any different about you". We discussed that maybe we could get closer after she got the vaccination shots. So take it from me, it's very possible that someone will still want to date you even after knowing what you have!; especially since the hpv vaccine is widely available: so don't think that with hpv your chips are down! Good luck!
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