Going soft just before ejaculation

Hey man, I am having the same problem. I'm 22 and I've been in the same relationship for almost 2 years and i have only came once during intercourse. Its been really getting to me and i think I have it figured out. I have been pleasing myself for the past 7 years and so when it came time for someone else to do it, it wasnt what i was used too. It took about 2 months before i could even climax from a ha****b or even oral sex. I have the same issue, when it comes time for sex, i go soft about 5 minutes into it. It makes me feel like less of a man, like there is something wrong with me and it makes her feel like less of a woman since she has never had a problem like that. I always tell her its not her, its me.

I know its me and I know its a physical problem.

I tense my legs right before I climax...I actually have to do that in order to climax. When I've tried that while on top, I get crazy cramps in my calves and it hurts so much its instant boner kill. I also tend to use a firm death grip when I masterbate So when we have sex, I cant really feel the awesomeness of a wet vagina, its not as tight as my fist. It feels great when I first go in but after about 5 minutes it feels like im humping air.

SO. i have decided that im going to quit masturbation all together and me and my gf talked and she said she won't get so upset if it doesnt happen. When she gets upset like that, it tares me apart and only adds to the problem, not only is it physical, its also psyhcological since all I think about during sex is whats going to happen if I go soft. I hope soon my penis will get used to vagina. I'm also considering getting one of those Fleshlight toys, the ones that are supposed to be the closest thing to the real deal. If i can start using that and actually come, maybe i can retrain my penis, bring back that sensitivity I had when I first masturbated to skinimax when I was like 15. Ill let you know if this helps. Its going to take alot of willpower though.
Let me know if you've had any breakthroughs too.

Later man, good luck.

This is with regards to what rybear I was wondering if you found a fix since I have a similar problem.


thanks

Hey rybear I also have pretty much the exact same symptoms (including the lack of sensation). I have no idea how this happened but it has been happening as long as I can remember. The only thing I can maybe think of is accutane, I took that when I was 16-17 years old. Do you take accutane?

here is a suggestion from a woman whose man was having this problem when we met, but rarely anymore.... have your girlfriend put her fingers on either side of your penis  as it goes in and out of her to create more pressure, it could be the sides or even just one finger giving pressure on the back side - seems to do it for him!

Hi, im a woman, my man has the same problem we have tried penis rings and a vibrating penis ring which works but only for so long is there a Solution to this for long term? as i feel i don't want him to have sex with me then keep getting upset and thinking that i'd  get fed up with him and leave him. which i have told him i wouldn't and love him, and he's my life. Just wish he would go to see a doctor for his own mind set.

Ok hear is a solution ,stop

masturbating  for one month and go for a 1km run every day, and at the end of the month you will not have a problem.

:-)

ok so my problem is im 18 and i just today had sex with my current girlfriend and this was my first time doing it and i got aroused but once we put it in we went at it for a while maybe 3-5 minutes then i went soft but didnt feel as if i came and when she went to adujust i was soft. and the problem for my situation is she put me in her without the condom so im hoping that its possible for me to go soft without ejaculating. hopefully so. i mean i do smoke so i think that could also be part of it. hopefully you guys can help me out

My boyfriend has the same problem and it's killing me, i can get him hard but when we go to put it in he goes soft within seconds. It's a killer, we've never had sex because of it, and i love him but I'm starting to get impatient and need my needs to be ful"filled" ;);) In oral he doesnt go soft and he finishes, but sex... We dont get close, PLEASE HELP

It could be high blood pressure.....it can kill erections. In older guys it common.

I'm 45 and really starting to have this problem big time. Although things work fine enough for me when I'm by myself, I'm in a new relationship and would like things to be more normalized. Although with a cialis or viagara, I don't have the problem of going soft (I still do if I don't take one) For some reason I just take forEEEEEEEver. It's becoming discouraging because even as a young guy I took a long time, but I could still have that happy moment without too much effort.I guess this is just what sex is like over forty. But for you young guys having this problem, I would go to a doctor.I'm just going to throw this out there: I'm not a huge conspiricist with food changes through GMO, or chemicals in food, but I'm really beginning to wonder if this is, since it's affecting young bruhs too, a food chain/household chemical exposure/antibiotics in beef type situation????Does anyone else feel this may be the issue?

slip him a viagra

Come see me if you need a release:)

I'm 62 and have never had mine go soft during sex. Until my wife went to Europe for over three weeks. Being used to having sex four or more times a week. I tried to satisfy my self by masturbation. Found out that it has reduced the sensitivity on my penis to the point it goes soft before climaxing. I do last an hour and a half but no climax for me just the limp penis. So I think the masturbating has hurt my ability to maintain a hard erection. So no more hand jobs for me. Just my two cents worth

I'm taking accutane now and Experiencing the samw symptoms. I was perfectly fine before taking accutane. How can we reverse this?