I was with a girl and she told me about her first experience(s): Boyfriend #1 and she decided to have sex. Both were virgins, wanting it and ready. He had a condom and they thought he entered her vagina. She says she got really wet. He came. Apparently it was over quickly. She said there was no blood and was not sore after it was over. They never attempted again. Boyfriend #2 was drunk and decided it was time for them to try one night. She was not in the mood, but permitted it. Basically date rape. She says it hurt, there was a lot of blood and she was sore the next day.
My confusion is this: Is it possible for the Bf#1 to be "too small" or "too short" to break the hymen when he entered her? Could they have been too ignorant to know that he was never actually entering her, but riding on the out side? (I find it hard to believe since he fingered her previously, so she knew what penetration felt like.) Will the hymen break every time during the first intercourse, or can it survive for the second time which may be rougher? Could the Bf#2 have been rougher when she wasn't ready and caused her vagina to bleed?
I am looking for females to give me actual experience answers, not myths or bogus stories. It seems odd to me she would not know if BF#1 actually entered her or not. And for him to not see himself entering since he was suppose to be standing with her laying on the bed. Like it says, I am confused.
My confusion is this: Is it possible for the Bf#1 to be "too small" or "too short" to break the hymen when he entered her? Could they have been too ignorant to know that he was never actually entering her, but riding on the out side? (I find it hard to believe since he fingered her previously, so she knew what penetration felt like.) Will the hymen break every time during the first intercourse, or can it survive for the second time which may be rougher? Could the Bf#2 have been rougher when she wasn't ready and caused her vagina to bleed?
I am looking for females to give me actual experience answers, not myths or bogus stories. It seems odd to me she would not know if BF#1 actually entered her or not. And for him to not see himself entering since he was suppose to be standing with her laying on the bed. Like it says, I am confused.
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Yes it could have very well happened that way. Some girl's hymen can be broken very easily and some are more elastic making it harder to break because it's easier to stretch (some girls are born without one and some just never bleed, ever). But yeah it could have been that way. And you say you want stories from experience and whatever. Ok here we go, true story, BF#1 it didn't happen, but BF#2 it did (if it helps BF#2 was a lot bigger than BF#1). So my story is the same as your girlfriend, so it could have very much so happened the way she said.
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Can somebody help me. I have been married for four years now. I and my husband have a very lovely relationship. Unfortunately we have not been able to have penetrative sex. When he fingers me I enjoy it a lot and get orgasms. But when he tries to penetrate me I feel it will hurt and automatically I contract myself. I dont know if I have vaginismus or not because I enjoy pentration with the finger. Can anybody help me on this..Thanks in advance.
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Rosebabe,
This should probably be a separate listing or thread, instead of riding on this one, but here goes.
Yes, it could be vaginismus.
Certainly, you've identified it for us in your posting.
You say when he attempts penetration, you contract.
Certainly, you are not relaxed. You are not receptive.
This needs to be address by a doctor/counselor.
The reasons could be many... anything from your husband being large, to too rough or too quick...
to your fear of pregnancy, and pain, or loss of control. Certainly, there is a big difference between fingers and a penis both in size, control and feeling given and received.
I think some frank discussion with your doctor is in order.
This can be dealt with and overcome, if you want to. It starts with your doctor.
This should probably be a separate listing or thread, instead of riding on this one, but here goes.
Yes, it could be vaginismus.
Certainly, you've identified it for us in your posting.
You say when he attempts penetration, you contract.
Certainly, you are not relaxed. You are not receptive.
This needs to be address by a doctor/counselor.
The reasons could be many... anything from your husband being large, to too rough or too quick...
to your fear of pregnancy, and pain, or loss of control. Certainly, there is a big difference between fingers and a penis both in size, control and feeling given and received.
I think some frank discussion with your doctor is in order.
This can be dealt with and overcome, if you want to. It starts with your doctor.
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i guess she has an elastic hymen that's why when she had sex with her 1stbf it doesn't bleed, and maybe on her 2nd bf she was just force that's why it bled.
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