I have been smoking pot since i was about 16 and have been practiacally permanently stoned through 15 years (and i mean a LOT of pot) I gave up 3 weeks ago and have not had good sex with my partner since. I was blaming him and blaming my lack of focus on the act etc, but actually it is obviously the pot (in fact i think that these last few weeks have been the only - very few - times i have actually had sex sober)
I have been a moody cow and have wanted nothing more than to get stoned and shag like bunnies, but i know that will only exagerate the problem and it will NEVER get better if I do that.
I am starting to worry that it will never be good again and I am scared that I am doomed! does anyone know how long it takes to get over this or if it really is the pot that is the problem or what!
Also, any tips for hightening sensation (without drugs) might help as I feel that might be one of the problems. i dont know what to do and he knows there is something wrong (he is also giving up but seems not to worry too much about it)
PLEASE HELP ME! I AM GOING MAD WITHOUT ORGASMS!!!
I have been a moody cow and have wanted nothing more than to get stoned and shag like bunnies, but i know that will only exagerate the problem and it will NEVER get better if I do that.
I am starting to worry that it will never be good again and I am scared that I am doomed! does anyone know how long it takes to get over this or if it really is the pot that is the problem or what!
Also, any tips for hightening sensation (without drugs) might help as I feel that might be one of the problems. i dont know what to do and he knows there is something wrong (he is also giving up but seems not to worry too much about it)
PLEASE HELP ME! I AM GOING MAD WITHOUT ORGASMS!!!
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I think my best advice to you would be to try sex without any sort of enhancement for awhile and see how that goes. Have you done that for awhile? i think that you'll need to be sober for awhile before you notice a difference. Do you think that'd be worth it?
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I have been trying and still am not smoking pot. I just cant feel right. Now I am finding that he is just not trying anymore. I think it is causing a real relationship crisis. We have been together for years and I love him to bits, but i just dont seem to get turned on at the moment. The worst bit is that i cant really talk to him about it. How do you tell the love of your life that he cant turn you on? I dont know what to do. We are hardly talking at the moment and i am feeling proper depressed. I know that most of it is missing the pot and i am not going to smoke it again, it just stops me from caring and I dont want to be in that place anymore. but I do want our love life to be better and i just dont know how to make that happen.
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What is it about marijuana and sex? I was thinking that this is all my fault, that my boyfriend can't get hard when he is with me. I also told him that he is cheating on me, which obviously was not true. Then he confessed me that he was taking marijuana and that once he stops, his sex drive is low. I don't know what was the worst thing - because he was taking this without telling me, because he let me blame him or because he can't get hard. I can't still talk to him because I have this theory that marijuana took my place in his life.
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You need to be real with your partner, otherwise your relationship is doomed.
As for pot withdrawl it will take time to get over but you will, marijuana is a very easy thing to get over compared to smoking, heroin, cocaine etc but that doesnt mean its fun to quit. 90% of this is in your head, its not fair for you to ruin your relationship because your better at communicating your problems online than you are to your partner (a deeper relationship issue than your lack of orgasm).
I recommend a healthy excercize routine, meditation, and eat lots of citrus
As for pot withdrawl it will take time to get over but you will, marijuana is a very easy thing to get over compared to smoking, heroin, cocaine etc but that doesnt mean its fun to quit. 90% of this is in your head, its not fair for you to ruin your relationship because your better at communicating your problems online than you are to your partner (a deeper relationship issue than your lack of orgasm).
I recommend a healthy excercize routine, meditation, and eat lots of citrus
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I have finally plucked up the courage to talk to him about it. it wasn't easy and he didn't take it all that well but after talking for a long time we both had issues that needed to come out and we sorted it. i am not suffering from so much of the withdrawl now and feel much more alive! it is quite scary how much of a dream world i had been living in for years and years. talking is the best and pretty much only option in this case and i had forgotten how well we can both communicate.
thankyou all for the advice and help. I am exercising and eating better and we are trying to spend more quality time together as this was the main cause of the problem rather than the pot - although being in a foul mood for quite a long time after giving up didn't help! it feels like we are building a new life, and in some ways we are! I am finally a bit happier and feeling stuff again rather than letting it all blow over my head, it is mad how pot can stop you from recognising your own feelings, i would truly recommend this to full time smokers - living in a daze is really bad for your mental health! :-D
thankyou all for the advice and help. I am exercising and eating better and we are trying to spend more quality time together as this was the main cause of the problem rather than the pot - although being in a foul mood for quite a long time after giving up didn't help! it feels like we are building a new life, and in some ways we are! I am finally a bit happier and feeling stuff again rather than letting it all blow over my head, it is mad how pot can stop you from recognising your own feelings, i would truly recommend this to full time smokers - living in a daze is really bad for your mental health! :-D
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