I fell in love with much younger man

You're spending too much time trying to analyze things!!!
Do you like him or not?

Hahaha @njoynlife, I'm very good at overanalysis. To answer your "?": Yes, I like him in the sense I have romantic feelings for him. I kind of...always have since we became friends.

I dd a Google search and this link popped up and I am so glad that it did!  I'm 50, with a boyfriend who is my age, we have been together 20 years and I love him we're great friends but I am falling in love with a man who is only 27.  Sometmes I feel uncomfortable when we go out, but he is incredible, sexy, funny, sweet and treats me so well.  My 20-year relationshp is stale and he doesn't make me happy anymore, just angry most of the time and frustrated (he doens't have a job, keeps me in poverty, homelessness and a whole other series of problems - I am tired of being the only one working long hours and a job for low pay just to keep us poor and unhappy).Anyway, this younger man makes me feel alive.  We haven't had sex yet, but we flirt outrageously, and we are so much into one another, calling/texting/going out all the time.  He makes me feel like I am me again and he is loving my passionate, sweet and loving affection.  We have amazing times together, sharing, laughing and enjoying one anothers company.  The only downside is some of the dirty looks we get - it doesn't happen often - but once in a while, it really bothers me.  Still, I really love him in my life!

No! You both are in love with each other and as long as you keep communication completely open with each other and love each other to the fullest,marry each other and you will be amazed at what a wonderful,joyful life you can have.

Well so what if you are much older!! As long as you both feel the same toward each other and even if you would marry that would make you both happy but do not worry about what people think because it will always be something and I kinda think maybe they are jealious!! If I were in your shoes (which I have been) then I would go for it/all the way to the alter. You will be amazed at what a joyfull,happy life you would have together!!!

I understand how so many of you ladies feel and have experienced being with a younger man!  I am 49 and my younger boyfriend is 27.  We are both nurses and we actually first met when I was working on a hospital floor and he was a nursing student.  We were just friendly then but we connected and interacted with each other until we started dating a couple of years after meeting.  He didn't care about my age, the fact that I had kids his age or that I couldn't have any more kids.  I have had younger men flirt with me before I hooked up with my man but I didn't entertain them.  But my man has changed so much and I am so glad that I let him into my life!  He's handsome, sweet, caring, very intelligent, hard wokring and great in bed!  i tell any older woman who is being pursued by a younger man that if he seems like he has a lot of what you want in a guy, don't let his age stop you from taking a chance!

Athough, I'm 42- I have friends who are in early 30. I never really considered it being an age gap before.  I am in a relationship with someone 11 years my junior.  He started early with kids and family. I'm a late bloomer I guess.  Never really gave it any thought.  Others have said similar here.  If it's 30 and 48--that is soooo sooo different that 17 and 30. You guys are both in a demographic that's pretty much the same age wise.  That over 30 thing.  Hes a fully emotionally developed man who is mature enough in age to make a decision.  His brain isn't still developing.  I noticed in other countries--older woman and younger man were not stigmatized AT ALL.  I have been mistaken as his mom though. OUCH!  My insecurities are the primary issue.  Not him seeking a younger woman, but my living in fear he would is our biggest problem.  We too, keep it quiet from others. Nice posts everyone.  Thank you OP. Very insightful viewpoints.  Thread is a year old, but home all is well with everyone. 

Good to see you post Edie:). I wish more people would post on this thread

Ooops..that last post was by me little Edie.  I forgot to login

I am also with a younger man. He is 23 and I just turned 47. My two sons are 21 and 25, which makes my fiancée right in the middle. My boys don't care much about the age difference. They want to see me happy, but they don't like him as much. I'm thinking it is more of a jealous thing, because my boys and I are very close. I have lived my life for them, but now it is the time to go for what I want. My man loves me so much. He fell in love with me at first sight when he came knocking on my door 5 years ago. I kept pushing him away so many times because of our age difference and thought he would eventually find someone else more his age. He wanted to marry me at age 19, but I knew he needed to grow up and I was so afraid of his love for me. We had our ups and downs in the last 5 years, but he never gave up on me. His mother loves me and she is 7 months younger then I. We tease about it sometimes and have a good relationship. My father has come to love my man too. He sees how much I love him and he grew to love him as well. I believe our love is so strong, it has no boundaries. He doesn't even care what people think and he will even kiss me in public. We do PDA a lot, but we try not to do it in front of my boys or his mother. I think that is still weird for them. My man is my soul mate and best friend. He understands me better then my ex husband did. I just can't wait to marry him. I'm not afraid anymore. You are not strange to feel the way you do and there isn't anything wrong with you. If he loves you with all of his heart and soul, I say go for it. Just let go and be yourself with him. You deserve to be happy, so enjoy it. Life is to short to over think things. I'm so happy that I have an amazing man that loves me for who I am and he never gave up on me.

That is so awesome! We are in similar boats here. It is wonderful isn't it to be loved deeply by a younger man?:)

Yes it is the most awesome feeling ever. I never felt this kind of love before. He says we have true love and we belong together forever. What tears me up is when he tells me that when I die I will still not be alone. That he will lay on my grave every day, because love never dies, not even in death. He is such a romantic. I love him so much!

If there's chemistry and you are both of legal age, treat like a healthy relationship.

Why do you disqualify your experience with him as not one of his growth experiences? He is growing with you, you are growing together. Do not think for a moment that because he is younger than that you are not learning as well. We have come to this life to learn how to love unconditionally. Period. However, age has nothing to do with experience. Different ages can have wonderful experiences together. It depends on his character, and your compatibility level. Stop analysing and enjoy the gift of love and friendship. It sounds more like you are afraid to love. You would be experiencing fear and creating obstacles even if he was the same age as you. So stop it and learn to love completely and without conditions.

Im 42 hes,32. I fell hard for him . It wasn't just sex..it was the chemistry. Well he left me for his ex his age. Im so hurt. I think he disregarded my feelings bc im older. I also ignored the signals bc i figured hes younger.. He never saw me as long term and i regret getting involved bc im on the losing side now. Id be cautious..30 is a funny age for men if they have no children. Men dont always follow the heart and instead the opportunity they think is logical.