I fell in love with much younger man

I am 39 and my kids father, the love of my life is 12 years younger than me 27 years old. From the moment I set eyes on him I fell in love with him and every moment thereafter I just fell deeper and deeper in love. Everyone disapproved of course and I hated the looks we would get in public. I always felt insecure, not good enough, not pretty enough, not young enough, just not enough standing by his side but he loved me passionately and didn't care what anybody had to say. We moved in together, we planned a future, we had a baby and things just fell apart. When he started living an adult life with me and his friends were doing otherwise, he started verbally abusing me. It was so apparent he felt stuck in the situation. One night he came home drunk and told me that he would always love but he just couldn't love me anymore. So I let him go, I told him to leave and spent my pregnancy alone. Although he had the keys to the house he never attempted to come back. I cried so much. It was the biggest devastation that has ever happened to me, especially because I had been single for so long and already had my share of heartbreaks - I thought he was the answer to my prayers. But I went from the highest point in heaven to the lowest point in hell. It's 3 years later, we never got back together. He turned out to be a great father but I never had the space I needed to fully let him go. Because of our co-parenting arrangment I have to see him almost every day and I have to hide how I feel. There were a few times that I didn't and told him how I felt but he has told me many times that he cares for me and appreciates that I'm a good mother but he just doesn't love me anymore. I've never been the same - broken, joyless and the sadness became my core overshadowing everything in my life. I never stop thinking about him, every day I think about him and every day I remind myself that he doesn't love me. Everything has become like looking through a storefront glass - looking at everything I wish I would of had.

Great points mentioned I agree totally

NOT with a black guy? But u spread your legs and had sex with that black guy tho smh. Such an insensitive comment.

I wish we could talk more, personally. Me too in love with 18 years younger man. We both re so in love.

hows this going as im in the same situation now .. im 47 he is 28 and im crazy about him..i have tried to finish with him because of age but then he makes me happy so why should i, i am divorved wit 3 children, i know he wants children so thats a problem there, but should i just enjoy it for as long as it goes, because i dont wont him not to have those experiences in life as i already have,,what you think???Oh i should mention he is from India and i am Irish..

U really need to let him go before he hurts you. I havr just had to let go. And i feel stupid and insulted because he started dating someone younger and never told me. With time i will forgive myself. Do what is right for you

My dear. He doesn't love you. Its ok. Its not the end of the world. U sound like a kind haerted person. Yes it hurts. Allows to go through the emotions. Before your know it you would have forgotten all about him. Cry if you have too. But always remember he doesn't love yoi anymore and yoi cant force anyone to love you. I know your pain. I have felt it. I promise you all will be well. Just remember to love yoirself. And if you loved him with all your heart then give yourself a pat on the back. Its his loss.

Yes thats great thank you, you made me happy while readinhg your story i am 42 years old and had a bf of 26 years old, yes i am so scared to be love him so much but when i reaf your msg you made me strong to undergo and love him more..thank you so much

I'm just embarking on a relationship with the same age gap! I've known him for two years and 4 months ago it went from close friendship to an intense emotional intimacy and now we are about to take the final step. We both want a long term relationship and I am so happy. I hope it works out for you.

Hi ! I am about to start a physical relationship with a guy 16 years younger than me. We were platonic friends online for 18 months then the last six months have become intensely emotionally involved and spent many hours on the phone and Skype. I am
47 he is 30. He is an old soul and I am
A young one and we have discussed everything - family, lifestyle, religion, friends, children, commitment and the way we love and what we need from a partner, how to
Negotiate the inevitable Compromises and even what kind of dog we want. It's been like a long loving and mature way to assess our compatibility, but with so much laughter and fun along the way! He wants to
Marry me. I am so happy but also so scared - I've never wanted something to work out as much in my whole life, he says the same. any words of wisdom from any of you? My biggest fear is just learning to accept his love and not being scared of the future, if he will leave me for a younger woman etc. he has had a ltr before and only a few other partners and really
Seems to not be that hunting alpha male type which is perfect for me. He is super smart sensitive, incredibly funny and devoted. I am
In love with him! Please let me know if there is anything I can do to make this work. He just wants me to be kind, loving and present which is what I want to give.
Clare

I have a crush on someone who is much younger. I don't have the nerve to tell him as we are in the same study group and see each other every week. Sitting next to him just makes my heart beat super fast. I don't know if he likes me or not, and I do not want to ruin the peaceful friendship.I never had this kind feeling for any other guys. I hope to do something to help him in some ways. D, I hope one day you an feel even i am trying hard to hide my feeling for you.

I am a young 65 year old woman. I have feelings for a 27 year old man. I think I feel young in my mind, since I never had a relationship. He is a performer, and I have helped him alot. He could not wait to see my sister and I at his show. Then, he was not friendly. The next day I was crying hysterically. He sent a text to apologize and that he had a cold all week, etc. However, he associated with others. I had to take extra meds. I suffer from bipolar illness. I have another show to go to on Valentines Day since I sold 2 CDs for him. He promised extra hugs and kisses. Said we were friend and family. We know his family. Is he just a user and am I an enabler. Cannot be in pain anymore. Feel down and think about suicide but will not put my sister through that again.
I should not support him anymore in his career. I need to move on and end it on a friendly note. Please learn from my situation. I go to therapy which helps until I see him again.

this is amazing. I loved your story. I hope you find a solution.
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I'm a single, healthy and attractive 58 year old women. I just lead a regular life. I was taken by surprise when a 25 year old man made his interest known. I've enjoyed our immense connection. I know it cannot last forever. But, it's one of the most meaningful relationships I've ever had. I'm young at heart and he is wise beyond most. Love looks at the heart.

Sorry to hear about your heartbreak! In time you will get over him. Please be determined to move on and get on with your life. These kind if situations happen all the time with people of the same age. We can't help loving who we love but there is no obligation for them to love us. Dry your tears and try to be happy. Don't let life pass you by. I know how you feel because I am in a dilated situation but I am determined to I've on after 6 months of lovesickness. Good luck.