I fell in love with much younger man

Guest over a year ago

I am so glad I found this thread. 3 years ago i was at a low point in my life had a serious injury & was out of work & very depressed. Went out for a drink one night & sat next to an adorable young man. We started talking & immediately just hit it off. I left after a few drinks & some flirting & thought well that was a pick me up. Pretty much forgot about it until a few days later I got a friend request on facebook from him. At first, for both of us, it was strictly a hook up thing. I was not in a healthy space for a relationship & he had recently broken off an engagement. This went on for 3 years & while it was obvious to both of us that we were spending more time together & feelings were developing I don't think either of us wanted to bring it up due to the age difference. I am 48 & he is 32. I am a young looking, attractive 48 but I am still 48. Last week, for some reason, we both came clean with our feelings for each other. I always had a lot of insecurity about the physical aspects of being 16 years older & wondered why when he is so attractive he didn't have a line if women his age at his doorstep. His answer was a complete surprise - he told me how much he was enjoying an older woman - he mentioned how I was smart, worldly, independent, still beautiful & that I would give him advice but not try to change him like younger women always did. He said after spending time with me he did not think he could go back to dating women his age. This was the first time I became aware that my age was not a liability I could do nothing about but actually an advantage. I wanted to share this with all of you because it was what I needed to hear to feel confident enough to give this relationship a go. Sure, there are going to be tough parts (meeting his parents - yikes) but I'm going to give it my best. My friends, his friends & my family know him & think we are a natural pair so the age thing doesn't eve. Come up anymore.

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Guest over a year ago

I wish you the best of luck!! I was with my ex for 6 years. He left 3 months ago because now he wants kids some day. I am 53 now. I hope it works out for you.

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Guest over a year ago

It's so refreshing to see so many other women dating younger men. For the past three years i have been dating man twenty years younger than me, Now I am 45 and he is 25. When I meet him I tought he was 28 with his full beard. Turned out he was 22 and it was after we had sex that found out his age. I wasn't serious at first, I held back, but now that we are on third year, I cant keep denying that I am in love. I wish I would have been serious about it from the beginning. He totaly is still crazy about us. He wants to get married and have a family. I am nervous that I cant get pregnant at this age. I too look younger than my age. I am told between 28-32. I have been using Estee Lauder since my early twenties and good genes. I feel grateful. It took time to get used to being the older one, with my ex-husband I was the younger one by fifteen years. I divorced my husband because he had a thing for young black women and cheated for the 3rd time. I decided to try a younger black/latino man and loved it. I could never want older again. I immediately got divorced.

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Guest over a year ago

I just posted here (48 year old dating 32 year old). I see the biggest concern is that these young guys might want children someday. So my last relationship with a man my age ended when he broke up with me after 5 years. He swore he didn't want children throughout our relationship we were both in our 40s. Within 6 months of dumping me he had a 26 year old girlfriend who he got pregnant & they now have a baby. Many men in their 40s still want children & end up with 20 something women because they can. So I am not going to worry about that issue because damned if you do damned if you don't. My younger guy says he does not want children but so did my 44 year old boyfriend. I'm not bitter on the contrary quite happy. My point is ladies we might as well enjoy these wonderful young men. Our male counterparts are doing the same.

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Guest over a year ago

Thank you:) for sure that's a big issue.

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Guest over a year ago

Thank you for wishing me luck. I appreciate the support here.

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Guest over a year ago

Thank you for wishing me luck. I really appreciate the support here. I hope you find a younger man with kids. Maybe you would like that too. ;0

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Guest over a year ago

Hi, I am the guest below this comment with the man who is twenty years younger. I am so happy for you. Go for it! You are still in time to have children. An opportunity to love a younger man is blessing.

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Guest over a year ago

Not really, but it would not be a deal breaker. Thanks. I am not interested in a man at this point. I really thought this one was making true promises, and he was adament about not wanting kids. Honestly, I cannot see him as s parent. No one can. Inthe end, he told me that as much as he loves me, he could not handle living with old age from his 40s until he himself is old. That hurt me so badly. People guess I am in my 30s. People thought I was just a few years older than he is. My mother drives, hikes and is active and will be 89 in March. I never expected to fall in love with him, but I did. We had so much fun together

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Guest over a year ago

OK, from a younger guy's perspective: When I was in my early 20s, I fell in love with a divorced women who was in her mid-30s. My friends knew and I took a few verbal jabs. My mother met her and liked that we were serious, which was a shocker. The problem was that I knew I wanted children eventually, and since she had her tubes tied years earlier, with little chance at a reversal. Prior to her telling me this, I was trying my best to get her pregnant! Unfortunately, I made the painful decision to move on, as I didn't see a future without having biological children.

I think I made the wrong choice.

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Guest over a year ago

What does being with a black guy matter?

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Guest over a year ago

Well im 41 and ive got preagnant witrh a 23 year old guy...which was a surprise to me, i wasnt expecting but i misscarriage :-( we both were devastated and now i wonder if it is still possible for me to have a baby with him...if its not too late or if ill have a misscarriage....it killed me inseide when he said maybe it is becayse of ur age ypu lost the baby...i know he wants to have one and what if its too late for me at this point...

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Guest over a year ago

Wow. I think he is going to regret it, too, which makes me feel even worse. I hope he finds someone else to have kids with and I hope he has a happy life.

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Guest over a year ago

Menopause occurs between ages 45 and 50 usually. It is different for everyone but a doctor could tell you more

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Guest over a year ago

6 years was my 2nd longest relationship. He had every reason I always had for not wanting kids but did a complete 180. I have no kids and no longer can. He also told me "I can't handle going through old age twice, starting in my 40's" he is 18 years younger. His family loved me and thought we were great together. When we last spoke he said he still loves me and may have made the biggest mistake of his life but doesn't want to string me along. I am heartbroken and after loving and loaing 6 times, I am not dating ever again

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