I fell in love with much younger man

I am in a similar situation except that this is a triangle. I am unhappily married to a very good man who loves me so I have not been able to divorce him because of how much it will hurt him and the kids. 6 months ago I fell in love with this young man who works in the same office as me. It started with harmless flirting before I suddenly realised that I was thinking about him all the time. I try to hide it and even hide away from him but to no avail. He is 30 but very mature and sensitive. I like everything about him and I have never felt this way about any man in my life before. My husband is the only man I have ever made love to and I have always struggled because I don't find him sexually attractive. I married too young but have been dutiful and never cheated in the 20 years. I feel I am going crazy right now as I feel I ought to let go but can't. I have never connected with anyone like him. I am 20 years older.

I was 30 my wife 22 I found my older woman 3 months after I married my wife.
I saw Mae 7 years earlier 1 day at the grocery store she walked in blonde hair tight bun white lace blouse half bra you could see her nipples blouse was open 3 or 4 buttons. Black mini skirt black stockings seam up the back shiny black stillettos.
I went up and down they aisles checking her out. I waited outside I was 23 then she was much older I could careless. I drove over to her big black cadillac as she put her groceries in the trunk. I told her she was beautiful. I figured she was married but I had to tell her. She thanked me I drove away never asking her name.
7 years later I am directing traffic married 3 months and I find my older woman I tell her to put on her blinker direct her into the coffee shop and I watch her get out of the car hair done up makeup perfect gold blouse white skirt high heels I am watching her she is watching me .
I finish and go in the shop for a coffee and to check her out and when I go to look for her she is hanging out of the booth checking me out. After seeing her looking at me I left I got her license plate number and got her info.
I was off the next 2 days so when my wife left for work the next morning I got the phone book I looked up her last name found it under Mr. J ......... Icalled she answered I told her I was the cop from yesterday. She asked me if I wanted to come up I said yes but were was her husband she said he left her for a younger woman years ago.
I said I would be right up since she lived 3 blocks up the street from me.I got there we went right into the bedroom and made love. We were lovers for 22 years. She was 38-years older then me yes 68-year-old woman I was 30

I'm 41 years old woman but many have said I only look 25 years old and I would say I have pleasing personality. I'd came from unsuccessful relationship and had a 12 years old daughter. I met a guy in one of the online site (not a dating site) we became great friends but he's only 23 years and still studying while I'm still practicing my profession, we became very open with each other. He makes me feel so special and wanted me always feel happy and in a very short time I fell in love with him and I didn't hide my feelings to him. We keep ourselves honest with each other, at first he said we feel the same and he love me from head to foot and age is just a number. But I'm always bothered and afraid because my feeling is getting deeper and deeper. He never had in any relationship and he want when he choose someone that will be his one and forever and he will decide after 2 years. He want our friendship continue like a true great friends forever but I can't imagine what I will feel when he find the one for him. He always said he love me always, until one day he feel so lazy to communicate though he still send messages from time to time but not like the same. He started to limit our communication. I felt so hurt but because I love him so much and I don't want to lose him I accept the situation that we are not the same as before and now just an ordinary friend. I always made him feel I'm supporting him in all his dream. Though deep in my heart, I'm still wishing him to tell me to wait for him and we will be together someday. But I found out that he already had other on his head and that is the attribute he is looking for a dream wife. I want him to be happy and I don't want to become selfish I understand he still have lots of good opportunity to come. I love him so much I want to forget everything and move on but I also don't want to forget him either, I don't want him gone in my life. I really don't know what to do I still hoping he will find me in his heart.

If he has another woman on his mind you need to moove on even though that can be quite painful and hurtful but better now than later on....im in love with a 23 year old guy and im 41 just like you and we have been the greatest friends and lovers too but the truth is he has so much life to live yet and although i not consider myself old on the contrary, im very youthful and like you i have been mistaken for a much younger woman...the fact is that we still have that age gap between both of us...and i know he wants to have kids and i misscariage from him in november last year and it was devastating to me and him....:-( so what i want to say is love doesnt look to age diferences but those diferences will come up eventually in time. and in the future ...to me the wake up call was the misscarriage and him telling me maybe it happened cause im older :-( ....i dont look like it but my inside is still..! Keep in your heart as a special someone but if he is not into you like he was before we need to moove on!

Im in the same situation I need to let him go, bud i can't I love him so much my life is pointless without him i need help i feel suicidal

thank you very much, but I'm so afraid to let it go I don't know how and where to start I'm not yet ready to lose him. He told me that I might misinterpreted his love, we are caring friends and will always be. But I love him with all my life and I can't remove the hope inside me, the "what if" he can love me someday.

So hang on there, to that beautiful friendship that you both have, hope is surely the last thing to die....and if it warms your heart to think maybe one day he will realize your the woman of his dreams so hang on to that thought :-)

Whoever you are, thank you so much you lighten up the burden inside me. And if my "what if" doesn't work out and he choose someone else I hope on that day my heart is ready to accept.

Same is my feeling I don't want to give up and still hope that he will love me someday even though he affirm that we'll never be couple. Everyday every minute that words echo to my ears and hurt me so much because I love him so dearly and I want to spent my life with him. He also became so distant and limit our communication but I keep calming myself and pretend that I'm alright just to keep us. But I never thought to commit suicide so never think of that. Allowing ourselves to get hurt is enough, end our life for someone who cannot love us back is worthless.

Your welcome! It is conforting to know we arent alone with this kind of inner strugles and yes it is ok to fill our heart with hope....if he has to be yours he will,,,,if not im sure your heart will be strong enough to allow you to move on...have a blessing positive day!!!

Gosh, i feel like im reading my life here. Only difference is i still see and talk to my guy. I feel like i know a future is probably impossible but god, hes all i think about and want.

Thanks for that ☺️

It certainly depends on the maturity of the 'Aged' Lady and The 'Aging ' younger Man....When we're younger ladies, we (perhaps) never thought there would ever come a time when we would be hungry, no starving, for fun companionship, and last but not least, the enjoyment of feeling the unrestrained desire shown for us, and the forever hard Member that convinces us that our younger man feels what he feels for us, at that moment..Really, what else matters?

Kind of sucks the life out of you. I still see my guy too. It's been 3 years. I'm now 57 and he's almost 31. After 3 years my heart still pounds when I hear his ringtone.

No it's not if you love each other I like older women and I'd love to be in a relationship with a much older woman if I had a choice all things equal between a 25 year old and a 45 year old I'd pick the older woman