I give My WIFE so much and get NOTHING in Return... What do you think is the problem?

OMG I thought was the only one who went through this situation.

We split now we have six months away from each other.

That wasn't a healthy relationship. This people is sick. My ex drove me nuts, I ended up sick with depression and lack of energy.

Trust me you better alone!

Sara

I was best friends with my wife before getting married about 5 months ago. Now she is my worst enemy, as she shows me no love physically or mentally. She is never emotional. Her parents always bail her out, if she has a problem with anything like if her car breaks down she calls them to help her. She does not ask me or tell me about these things until afterwords.

I know she was a relationship years ago when she was being cheated on and her parents have always been there for her. She is 30 years old and all she does is work, drink vodka, wine, any alcohol she can get a hold of, eat, sleep, and sh*t. Oh, I forgot, she watches E, and the style network and john & kate plus 8 and all that fun stuff.

She is very fun when we go out in public to dance, have a cocktail, socialize with others but no verbal communication at home. A couple of other examples are for her birthday I spent over a 1000.00 at the pool bar, bought her over 2000.00 worth of jewelry, had her cake specially custom made for her, had every piece of jewelry engraved with something meaningful, wrote her numerous meaningful cards, sent her flowers and gifts ALL week to her work, took her family to brunch. MY birthday, no card, no gifts, no love, no emotion, she wanted to take me for a drink. I told her not to get me anything for my b-day but "really"???

This past x-mas I put up stockings for he, myself, her 3 kittens and hand-wrote each and everyone's names on them in glitter-paint and hung them above the fireplace. She never had a real x-mas tree so I took her to purchase one and then took her to the store to buy x-mas ornaments so we could have our own, as I had mine from the years past before we were married. I waited till she got home from work to hang the 1st ornament together and then we decorated the tree. I invited her family to come to our home for x-mas if they wanted too. Her mother asked if she could have her daughter for x-mas because it would be the first x-mas where she didn't have her all to herself at her home with her stepfather. My answer was "we are married, this is our first x-mas together and we were going to have x-mas at our house if you would like to come over you are more than welcome". Her mother had a tantrum of sorts about it and tried guilt-tripping my wife in to going to her aunt's house for x-mas because she was sick. Turns out they didn't end up going to the sick aunt's house but to her grandmother's house. Her mother is a total control freak if you can not tell. She is one of the reasons I do not think my wife has grown up yet.

x-mas presents, I bought, picked out, paid for all of our presents to give to all of her family members, my family members and she helped wrap I think 4 presents out of 40. I bought my wife over 2000.00 worth of jewelry, stuffed her stocking full of wonderful surprises, wrote her a few different cards, made her sit for a self portrait of us underneath the x-mas tree, hung lights outside and in, made x-mas dinner. My wife bought / made me nothing for x-mas, not even a card. The only stocking that was empty was mine. Is there something wrong here or what? My wife is a beautiful woman and I have no lack of self confidence as far as my personality and looks go. I own my business and she works as a professional. She does tell me things about her boss screwing everyone at the office except her and the receptionist. Which he also makes blow-job jokes to her as well. She works in a different city about 30 miles from home.

I cant wait till she gets home so I can see her beautiful face and kiss and hug her. But when she gets home she gives me a verbal hello and doesn't run by any means to hug and kiss me. I hug her tight and kiss her then she hits the refrigerator for a cold vodka drink or glass of wine. She always wants to go out and party with her friends and never wants to do anything with me. She has had a wall up since I met her but it has slowly been coming down and on our marriage day I thought that had all changed but apparently not.

Another thing that she did prior to us getting married was told me she wanted to live in her old house that her parents had in foreclosure. I did not want to move there but I went along with it but then in the middle of the move she decided she did not want to be there. She then asked me to rent a house in the city for us and then I did so, only for her to move in about 2 months after. I sat here waiting for her for 2 months before she moved in and lived 30 minutes away. When she finally moved in she had her stepfather and a person she calls uncle come to move her cats and furniture in. I have paid thousands of dollars for her to fix her 1996 car while she drives my new vehicle. She said she would pay me back for the costs but has not paid me anything to date. It was 1250 which was supposed to be paid back in October... This was before we were married.

I was very happy that she was finally here, it was a few months later we got married. I am a very happy person who loves to help others and I even sit on a nonprofit organizations to help individuals in our community. I am very positive, self-motivated, respectful, overly nice to everyone, I'm a great listener, I give this woman a massage every night, make her dinner every night, buy her flowers every other day, let her put thousands of miles on my vehicle for her to drive to work in another city where goes goes to business lunches with other guys who he says are just business associates so I do not question it. She also has her 2 best friends as she calls them in that city that she sees once or twice a week. One is a 45 year old woman who drinks a lot and has parties at her house frequently and the other is a 41 year old large black man. I am not prejudice but with my wife being 30 and these being her 2 best friends when I can tell in our city she is not even comfortable around black people? This is odd to me also.

She is the "facebook" queen. She is always on there and has 405 friends as of today's date. She says she knows all of these people, her profile says she is looking for "men" for friends, does say she is married but her profile and "wall" is private. I do not have facebook and am not that familiar with it but she spends hours daily on it. But she can not sit and talk to her own husband for more than 5 minutes without standing up and leaving. She always says she is going to go move into her parents house "the vacant one that is in foreclosure" when we get in verbal arguments. \

She is breaking my heart daily! Please tell me what you think about this situation and any suggestions you may have! Is there anything else I can do to assist her in putting her wall down or whatever the problem is???

Thank you!

yittle wrote:

I was best friends with my wife before getting married about 5 months ago. Now she is my worst enemy, as she shows me no love physically or mentally. She is never emotional. Her parents always bail her out, if she has a problem with anything like if her car breaks down she calls them to help her. She does not ask me or tell me about these things until afterwords.

I know she was a relationship years ago when she was being cheated on and her parents have always been there for her. She is 30 years old and all she does is work, drink vodka, wine, any alcohol she can get a hold of, eat, sleep, and sh*t. Oh, I forgot, she watches E, and the style network and john & kate plus 8 and all that fun stuff.

She is very fun when we go out in public to dance, have a cocktail, socialize with others but no verbal communication at home. A couple of other examples are for her birthday I spent over a 1000.00 at the pool bar, bought her over 2000.00 worth of jewelry, had her cake specially custom made for her, had every piece of jewelry engraved with something meaningful, wrote her numerous meaningful cards, sent her flowers and gifts ALL week to her work, took her family to brunch. MY birthday, no card, no gifts, no love, no emotion, she wanted to take me for a drink. I told her not to get me anything for my b-day but "really"???

This past x-mas I put up stockings for he, myself, her 3 kittens and hand-wrote each and everyone's names on them in glitter-paint and hung them above the fireplace. She never had a real x-mas tree so I took her to purchase one and then took her to the store to buy x-mas ornaments so we could have our own, as I had mine from the years past before we were married. I waited till she got home from work to hang the 1st ornament together and then we decorated the tree. I invited her family to come to our home for x-mas if they wanted too. Her mother asked if she could have her daughter for x-mas because it would be the first x-mas where she didn't have her all to herself at her home with her stepfather. My answer was "we are married, this is our first x-mas together and we were going to have x-mas at our house if you would like to come over you are more than welcome". Her mother had a tantrum of sorts about it and tried guilt-tripping my wife in to going to her aunt's house for x-mas because she was sick. Turns out they didn't end up going to the sick aunt's house but to her grandmother's house. Her mother is a total control freak if you can not tell. She is one of the reasons I do not think my wife has grown up yet.

x-mas presents, I bought, picked out, paid for all of our presents to give to all of her family members, my family members and she helped wrap I think 4 presents out of 40. I bought my wife over 2000.00 worth of jewelry, stuffed her stocking full of wonderful surprises, wrote her a few different cards, made her sit for a self portrait of us underneath the x-mas tree, hung lights outside and in, made x-mas dinner. My wife bought / made me nothing for x-mas, not even a card. The only stocking that was empty was mine. Is there something wrong here or what? My wife is a beautiful woman and I have no lack of self confidence as far as my personality and looks go. I own my business and she works as a professional. She does tell me things about her boss screwing everyone at the office except her and the receptionist. Which he also makes blow-job jokes to her as well. She works in a different city about 30 miles from home.

I cant wait till she gets home so I can see her beautiful face and kiss and hug her. But when she gets home she gives me a verbal hello and doesn't run by any means to hug and kiss me. I hug her tight and kiss her then she hits the refrigerator for a cold vodka drink or glass of wine. She always wants to go out and party with her friends and never wants to do anything with me. She has had a wall up since I met her but it has slowly been coming down and on our marriage day I thought that had all changed but apparently not.

Another thing that she did prior to us getting married was told me she wanted to live in her old house that her parents had in foreclosure. I did not want to move there but I went along with it but then in the middle of the move she decided she did not want to be there. She then asked me to rent a house in the city for us and then I did so, only for her to move in about 2 months after. I sat here waiting for her for 2 months before she moved in and lived 30 minutes away. When she finally moved in she had her stepfather and a person she calls uncle come to move her cats and furniture in. I have paid thousands of dollars for her to fix her 1996 car while she drives my new vehicle. She said she would pay me back for the costs but has not paid me anything to date. It was 1250 which was supposed to be paid back in October... This was before we were married.

I was very happy that she was finally here, it was a few months later we got married. I am a very happy person who loves to help others and I even sit on a nonprofit organizations to help individuals in our community. I am very positive, self-motivated, respectful, overly nice to everyone, I'm a great listener, I give this woman a massage every night, make her dinner every night, buy her flowers every other day, let her put thousands of miles on my vehicle for her to drive to work in another city where goes goes to business lunches with other guys who he says are just business associates so I do not question it. She also has her 2 best friends as she calls them in that city that she sees once or twice a week. One is a 45 year old woman who drinks a lot and has parties at her house frequently and the other is a 41 year old large black man. I am not prejudice but with my wife being 30 and these being her 2 best friends when I can tell in our city she is not even comfortable around black people? This is odd to me also.

She is the "facebook" queen. She is always on there and has 405 friends as of today's date. She says she knows all of these people, her profile says she is looking for "men" for friends, does say she is married but her profile and "wall" is private. I do not have facebook and am not that familiar with it but she spends hours daily on it. But she can not sit and talk to her own husband for more than 5 minutes without standing up and leaving. She always says she is going to go move into her parents house "the vacant one that is in foreclosure" when we get in verbal arguments. \

She is breaking my heart daily! Please tell me what you think about this situation and any suggestions you may have! Is there anything else I can do to assist her in putting her wall down or whatever the problem is???

Thank you!