After University I had 2 kids, shortly after my partner and I separated (we were never very compatible).
I was living in a small town with no opportunties. I had an education and a degree yet I was waiting tables. I couldn't keep an apartment and was always struggling financially. I did my best to provide for my children but ended up having to move back in with my parents.. my kids did not suffer any from this, the money I saved paying rent I used to put them in extra-curricular activities. But I had no life, never much money, no privacy, and no prospects of a decent job.
I met and fell in love with a man who would stay in town for work and he asked me to move in - he lived 4 hours from my small hometown. It was a bigger city with more opportunities. I could not bring the kids because of the custody arrangement and if I were to go to court to fight it they would be awarded to their father (said every lawyer I talked to).
In this new city I have a really good job, a beautiful home and a loving man... but my life feels empty without my children. I struggle daily with the fact that they're not with me and wonder if I have made the right choices. They are 8 and 9 years old and I travel to see them once or twice a month, I talk with them several times a week on the phone and FaceTime and I organize their birthday parties from afar. My family (from my hometown) has also taken to spending time with them in my absence in order to keep the connection going.
I am wondering if there are any moms with similar stories who could share them with me...
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Hi Guest,
This will sound harsh - and it is meant to.
You did not have to leave your children. You CHOSE to leave your children - big difference.
You are a mother. As parents we all make sacrifices for our children.
"But I had no life, never much money, no privacy, and no prospects of a decent job." It's all about you. At least your children had a mother though. Facetime and phone calls won't make up for what YOU and THEY are missing.
Don't get me wrong, I'm glad you found someone. But don't try to fool anyone, including yourself, that you HAD to leave your children.
No. You took the easy way out.
Good luck to you and your kids.
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