I Have A Major Masturbating Issue/Problem and I'm Really Worried and Scared.

Hey, I know this post was a while ago and I don't know if you still have this problem or not, but I can help you. I'm going through something almost identical. I'm turned on by women in certain clothes and women with muscles who are more muscular than me but still feminine. Practically, I could never be in a relationship with a girl like that because I would be embarrassed. However, the clothes fetish is very counterproductive because the girl(for the most part) is usually naked for sex. Here's what I've been doing and it has helped me tremendously. First off let me say this: My girlfriend is hot and sexy, but nothing like the types of girls I fantasizes about and still fantasize about. She also rarely wears any of the types of clothing I like and even now, a naked girl does nothing for me. My girlfriend naked is starting to turn me on now but still not like it should. I'm also assuming you probably masturbate on a frequent basis. So here's what you do if you want to kick this by yourself: 1. Stop masturbating for a week. A week will give your body enough time to clear out all of the unnatural desires it has. It's basically like resetting your body. 2. Pick one fetish and start ridding yourself of it. This will take a lot of mental discipline and the only way I can suggest to do this is by associating something unpleasant with the thought of your fetish. Like every time you think of the fetish, have something repulsive to one of your senses on hand and soon your fetish will be gone. I used to like girls in jean skirts until the movie Superbad and you had the one on her period. After that, I stopped liking Jean skirts on girls. 3.Find a substitute for your sexual release. Start working out whenever you feel the urge, go running, do crunches. Anything that can channel that sexual energy into something else. Sometimes it's overwhelming and trust me it will be, I know. Just don't allow yourself to be near your bed, computer, or whereever you masturbate when you start feeling those urges. When they start to overtake you, run and get to a safe place. Than you need to confront them! Confronting your feelings is how you're going to overcome them! If you just keep running, they will catch up to you, but sometimes running is your only option. 4.Find someone to help you through. Having somebody to talk to is a must. This is my hardest thing because Im very closed and I don't want to pay for a Psychiatrist. Even if it's just a friend, find someone! Trust me though, I had the same fears and worries you do. I still masturbate occasionally, but I'm trying to stop and reset my body. Even without fully accomplishing that, I've still had a very awesome and healthy sex life! Typing my own advice out has even helped me. I wish the best of luck for you man and hope this helps if you haven't already solved your problem.

Hey Tommy,
I don't know if you got over this. I'm a 16 year old girl. My boyfriend had the same problem as you did. He talked to his doctor and he said it was normal and you should get over it in a couple weeks. I'm sorry if this is late. Just trying to help. =) I hope everything worked out for you.

Lol tommy I see ur problem.....do u ever get nervice when u see a naked girl? And if u do that's fine but when a guy gets nervice there penis tends to drop that's the way my bf was when I first had sex with him I'm a 19 year old girl but I can see when guys stare at me and that's normal lol but don't worry about it if so but if our not worried than idk what to say all my friends say they have never had a guy sag when they pop open there bra and instead they get hard and get laid idk but try having sex and see what happens I know or atma young age but just wait and see where life takes you

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Hi Zander:

That's right and it causes guys to masturbate differently

Maybe Erectile Disfunction?

In this day and age of internet porn, excessive masturbation is destroying young men's social lives. This is not a joke. It is an enormous power to have access to many different audios and visuals of millions/billions of naked women at a push of a key. various shapes and sizes...lots of choices. This is the primary desensitizing factor for guys especially if they're young. the problem is over-stimulation ultra heightened senses desensitization. reward and responsibility is out of sync (simply, rich rewards for little to none responsibility). you obviously won't be able to find your girlfriend attractive if you are looking at porn stars everyday. let's be honest, porn stars look much better than your average girl-next-door because they're suppose to....it's marketing. not only that......you can instantly choose anything that is tailored to your desire: big/small tits and asses, young/old, blonde/brunette/redheads, various ethnic groups, various outfits etc. In conclusion, it's not totally your fault that you're in this situation. the solution is to do things in moderation. reduce your porn intake and masturbation output. try it (don't lie to yourself) to see if it works. sometimes it's deeply psychological. You can see professional as your last resort.