if a boy is soft can he produce pre-cum or does it vary from man to man?

I'm a virgin and me and the person that I am involved with tried to have sex. It did not work because my hole was too tight. My friend called me because she found out that she was pregnant and she didn't know what to do. When she called me it spooked me out. I just want to know if a boy is soft can he produce pre-cum or does it vary from man to man? i only ask that because he did not nut until i gave oral..

Also, is there a chance that I could get pregnant if he was not hard and I didn't feel anything on my hands when I touched his penis?