I'm 16, I started my period in may 2011, but now I haven't had it for nearly a year, is that normal?

 

I think a physician would ask you first: What is your height? And what is your weight? If you're too skinny your period will stop, i.e. you can't even become pregnant. This phenomenon is often seen in young female athletes for whose performance weight is an issue.

Should you be worried? If you are underweight: yes! If it is something else: yes!

I'm about 5foot4 and just under 8 stone

Can you translate this into centimetres and kilos? These measurement units were set as standards in the 19rh century. Only some strange Anglo-Saxon countries resisted. But why should I? OK. 5"4 is 162.56 cm (at least here we can still do some old-fashioned maths). That's the smaller girls. And 8 stones is 51 kilogramms. (I was 55kg at 170 cm for many years and that was regarded as clearly underweight.) So that's a borderline case. To me, that looks slightly underweight, but not really very much. But you know, there is a "critical mass" for women to ovulate regularly (= and have their monthly period). The other thing you mentioned was that your period began, but it also began to stutter before it stopped for a whole year. All of this this is unusual. If it isn't because of your low weight (have you tried eating more and gaining some weight?) I'd try and see an endocrinologist. Where do you live and how old are you? (Ah, I just noticed: you are 16, by that age you should have a regular period.) Do you have an email address?

I have tried gaining weight but it's difficult as I have a high motabalism! (and i don't really want to gain weight) I live in nottingham.

Tell me about high metabolism! My son would eat half a loaf of bread an hour after dinner (when he also really tucked in).

OK, so you don't want to gain weight. How would you describe your appearance? Very slim (I guess you are too young to remember Twiggy, but you could google her up), slim, average? Whom would you like to look like most?

What is your relation with your schoolmates, girls, boys? Have a boyfriend? Are you well lubricated when you have sex? Or didn't you have any yet?

How would you describe your family situation?

Let's try to take it from there, OK?

I'd say I'm slim. I don't know really. Alright I guess, I have quite a few friends, mostly girls, don't have any close guy friends. I've never had sex. I hate my family situation, my parents are together but my dad drinks alot and is stressy, and my parents argue quite a bit. 

No, at the beginning you didn't say your were slim. And we never defined what was slim. I only tried to give some guideline. You know, I am a German who spent two years in South Wales. I made it all the way to Yorkshire - but not any further north. But I am a liberal European. Don't be afraid. I am very grateful for your honesty! I think this can help a lot in solving your problem - I'm surprised myself that I triggered on your famyily situatuation. [I have difficulty typing as I only just had an eye operation.] But the family situation was some predicament that made it necessary for me to think further about your sitiuation. Don't you think also that is where the problem is? If you come to the same conclusions, there are only two things: (a) you have to find another place to stay - and that you should have no guilt feelings? Let's skip the friends (Girls/Boys) situation for a moment (although it's very important - as is sex.) As I suspected the family situation is the most important, Do you belong to an ethnicity where cultural values are very important - or even decide whether you live or not? How is the boyfriend/fiancé situatuion regulated? By whom? Do you like that? Is it in accordance with any law? If you like to have a boyfriend: Why don't you have one? If you want some time out: I offer you some time in the Ticino. No strings attached. But we have to arrange the time. .

 

Let me hold your hand!

I appreciate your help but how is all of this to do with my absence of my period?!