Please, bear with me..
Okay. I am 23 years old. I live by myself and work as a waitress at a local restaurant. I also was going to school during the day and decided that wasn't for me so I stopped. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months. He is great except for the fact that 3 months after being together, I found out I have genital HPV which causes genital warts. I had a few tiny ones and had them removed with acid by a practioner. It happened 3 times since then and again, had them removed. I have been dealing with that and the fact that it is very disheartening to find that kind of information out even though it is completely treatable.
Also, last night I found out I am pregnant. Like I said, my boyfriend is great. He is completely supportive and a solid rock. I am very confused and very scared and am on and off crying all the time. I sang and toured in a band and am a natural musician but I am a waitress. That doesn't really pay a lot of bills. If music did, that would be amazing.. but reality says it's not. I'm sorry I am writing a book here people but I really need some advice. I am so scared I am going to make the wrong decision here and I guess it helps to get an outsiders point of view. My boyfriend is a bartender and isn't very responsible although today he promised that he would make everything okay financially and I had nothing to worry about if I decided to go through with the pregnancy. I had an abortion when I was 19 and DO NOT want to go through that again. I was taking birth control but I guess that is not always effective.
I am confused and really scared. I also just found out that if I have an outbreak of genital warts.. (which is very common during pregnancy due to stress).. then when it comes time to have the baby, I will have to get a c section so that I do not spread the HPV to my child.
This is a lot to take in all at once and I am just worried. I love kids. I work with children with autism and disabilities as well and I know I would be a great mom. I also live in NJ which is one of the most expensive states to live in. I'm just scared I won't be able to support my child in the way I see fit. I'm sorry I am babbling so much. I just need some help. If anyone can , please.. I would appreciate it more than you know..
Okay. I am 23 years old. I live by myself and work as a waitress at a local restaurant. I also was going to school during the day and decided that wasn't for me so I stopped. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months. He is great except for the fact that 3 months after being together, I found out I have genital HPV which causes genital warts. I had a few tiny ones and had them removed with acid by a practioner. It happened 3 times since then and again, had them removed. I have been dealing with that and the fact that it is very disheartening to find that kind of information out even though it is completely treatable.
Also, last night I found out I am pregnant. Like I said, my boyfriend is great. He is completely supportive and a solid rock. I am very confused and very scared and am on and off crying all the time. I sang and toured in a band and am a natural musician but I am a waitress. That doesn't really pay a lot of bills. If music did, that would be amazing.. but reality says it's not. I'm sorry I am writing a book here people but I really need some advice. I am so scared I am going to make the wrong decision here and I guess it helps to get an outsiders point of view. My boyfriend is a bartender and isn't very responsible although today he promised that he would make everything okay financially and I had nothing to worry about if I decided to go through with the pregnancy. I had an abortion when I was 19 and DO NOT want to go through that again. I was taking birth control but I guess that is not always effective.
I am confused and really scared. I also just found out that if I have an outbreak of genital warts.. (which is very common during pregnancy due to stress).. then when it comes time to have the baby, I will have to get a c section so that I do not spread the HPV to my child.
This is a lot to take in all at once and I am just worried. I love kids. I work with children with autism and disabilities as well and I know I would be a great mom. I also live in NJ which is one of the most expensive states to live in. I'm just scared I won't be able to support my child in the way I see fit. I'm sorry I am babbling so much. I just need some help. If anyone can , please.. I would appreciate it more than you know..
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It definately does not sound like you want an abortion so definately dont do that (unless your absolutely positive you want to) There are SO many programs out there that can help you out financially- you got WIC, medical aid, Welfare (dont be afraid to take advantage of this until you get on your feet-that's what it's there for...and SO many other programs to help expecting mommies...just gotta find them
And there is always adoption...with open adoption you can find and select a couple that you are comfortable with and if you want you can even know your child to the degree that you and they agree on....
But it sounds like you are just scared and if you pull your resources together you can do it. Sure its a big responsibility but you can handle it and I am sure that once you have your child in your arms it will all seem worth it.
As fars as the HPV- lots and lots of moms give birth with this every day...your baby will be just fine. And if you have to get a c-section its really not that big of a deal...some women even prefer it.
Good luck to you and take care of yourself. Get a hold of a social worker so she can point you in the right direction in your area. I hope I helped a little.
And there is always adoption...with open adoption you can find and select a couple that you are comfortable with and if you want you can even know your child to the degree that you and they agree on....
But it sounds like you are just scared and if you pull your resources together you can do it. Sure its a big responsibility but you can handle it and I am sure that once you have your child in your arms it will all seem worth it.
As fars as the HPV- lots and lots of moms give birth with this every day...your baby will be just fine. And if you have to get a c-section its really not that big of a deal...some women even prefer it.
Good luck to you and take care of yourself. Get a hold of a social worker so she can point you in the right direction in your area. I hope I helped a little.
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