Okay. I am 23 years old. I live by myself and work as a waitress at a local restaurant. I also was going to school during the day and decided that wasn't for me so I stopped. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months. He is great except for the fact that 3 months after being together, I found out I have genital HPV which causes genital warts. I had a few tiny ones and had them removed with acid by a practioner. It happened 3 times since then and again, had them removed. I have been dealing with that and the fact that it is very disheartening to find that kind of information out even though it is completely treatable.
Also, last night I found out I am pregnant. Like I said, my boyfriend is great. He is completely supportive and a solid rock. I am very confused and very scared and am on and off crying all the time. I sang and toured in a band and am a natural musician but I am a waitress. That doesn't really pay a lot of bills. If music did, that would be amazing.. but reality says it's not. I'm sorry I am writing a book here people but I really need some advice. I am so scared I am going to make the wrong decision here and I guess it helps to get an outsiders point of view. My boyfriend is a bartender and isn't very responsible although today he promised that he would make everything okay financially and I had nothing to worry about if I decided to go through with the pregnancy. I had an abortion when I was 19 and DO NOT want to go through that again. I was taking birth control but I guess that is not always effective.
I am confused and really scared. I also just found out that if I have an outbreak of genital warts.. (which is very common during pregnancy due to stress).. then when it comes time to have the baby, I will have to get a c section so that I do not spread the HPV to my child.
This is a lot to take in all at once and I am just worried. I love kids. I work with children with autism and disabilities as well and I know I would be a great mom. I also live in NJ which is one of the most expensive states to live in. I'm just scared I won't be able to support my child in the way I see fit. I'm sorry I am babbling so much. I just need some help. If anyone can , please.. I would appreciate it more than you know..
Also, last night I found out I am pregnant. Like I said, my boyfriend is great. He is completely supportive and a solid rock. I am very confused and very scared and am on and off crying all the time. I sang and toured in a band and am a natural musician but I am a waitress. That doesn't really pay a lot of bills. If music did, that would be amazing.. but reality says it's not. I'm sorry I am writing a book here people but I really need some advice. I am so scared I am going to make the wrong decision here and I guess it helps to get an outsiders point of view. My boyfriend is a bartender and isn't very responsible although today he promised that he would make everything okay financially and I had nothing to worry about if I decided to go through with the pregnancy. I had an abortion when I was 19 and DO NOT want to go through that again. I was taking birth control but I guess that is not always effective.
I am confused and really scared. I also just found out that if I have an outbreak of genital warts.. (which is very common during pregnancy due to stress).. then when it comes time to have the baby, I will have to get a c section so that I do not spread the HPV to my child.
This is a lot to take in all at once and I am just worried. I love kids. I work with children with autism and disabilities as well and I know I would be a great mom. I also live in NJ which is one of the most expensive states to live in. I'm just scared I won't be able to support my child in the way I see fit. I'm sorry I am babbling so much. I just need some help. If anyone can , please.. I would appreciate it more than you know..
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I am also 23 and Preganant!...
I do not currently have a job, due to redundancy..
My boyfriend of 5 years is very supportive also. and We have decided to keep the baby, even though financially it will be tough! But I do not want to go through an abortion.. My sisters are very supportive and I am sure that with our love and commitment! My baby will be heathy, loved and Beautiful!
I hope u can give this a chance.. Just like mee!
Good Luck
xx
I do not currently have a job, due to redundancy..
My boyfriend of 5 years is very supportive also. and We have decided to keep the baby, even though financially it will be tough! But I do not want to go through an abortion.. My sisters are very supportive and I am sure that with our love and commitment! My baby will be heathy, loved and Beautiful!
I hope u can give this a chance.. Just like mee!
Good Luck
xx
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This may be too late, but I just wanted to let you know that I am 23 and pregnant. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6yrs. He had a really good job but 2 weeks before we found out we were having a baby he got laid off and wasn't getting unemployment for 4 months and I am a full time student and don't work. It was the most stressful time of my life. Of course we decided to keep the baby regardless what anyone thought because we were the ones who got into this there really is no easy way out. Telling my parents was THE hardest thing I ever had to do in my life. Once they got used to the idea they were totally fine. Now, I think my mom is actually excited. I am now 33 weeks pregnant with our son. Due to poor economic status he still hasn't gotten a job and I am still a student and not working. Even thought there is anxiety about bills and finances and everything, I couldn't be happier with my decision. After all, I am going to be a mother and It may be hard at first but everything eventually falls into place.
This may have been too late for you, but hopefully it will help other girls our age with their decision.
I hope that you made the right decision for you and don't let anyone influence your decision. Its between you and the father if he is present. But dont leave him out of the loop if he is there.
This may have been too late for you, but hopefully it will help other girls our age with their decision.
I hope that you made the right decision for you and don't let anyone influence your decision. Its between you and the father if he is present. But dont leave him out of the loop if he is there.
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dear friend,hi how are you?
i realy appriciate your concern regarding the future child,you will surely be a good parent.listen having the child or not should be your dicision only coz you are the mother and you have to take care of yourself and your kid,right? so just relax and think on all aspect,i understand your worry regarding raising the child..with a waitress job its realy difficult,but if your boyfriend is enough supportive ask him to find some more payful job!!!
you can also think of having ur child later when you complete your schooling and get some better job..then you can give your child a better future!!
no matter wat i say or what others say,its you who is going to decide wat will happen,talk to your boyfriend discuss about the future plans!
take care bye!!!
i realy appriciate your concern regarding the future child,you will surely be a good parent.listen having the child or not should be your dicision only coz you are the mother and you have to take care of yourself and your kid,right? so just relax and think on all aspect,i understand your worry regarding raising the child..with a waitress job its realy difficult,but if your boyfriend is enough supportive ask him to find some more payful job!!!
you can also think of having ur child later when you complete your schooling and get some better job..then you can give your child a better future!!
no matter wat i say or what others say,its you who is going to decide wat will happen,talk to your boyfriend discuss about the future plans!
take care bye!!!
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I am in the same boat now i know you mad your choice allready but i hope this helps me and others make a better choice. i had an abortion at 18 and now at 23 a am preg. again, and not bye someone i see or hope is my life long partner. he causes me more stress and only cares when we are in front of ppl although no one even knows. it hurts to feel alone when i am not. i told my one friend who knows a rather not deal with him at all than to deal with his mess and let downs. its my choice and i cant do have it and not to mention i dance so time i start showing, which by the way i have in my breast, i cant really work.
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previous Guest, the Dancer. you are a m***n.
Your baby is gonna be proud your a dancer. psssh!!!!
How bout taking responsibility and get a real job, and quit the emotional BS. He's still with you aint he. Why do women always look for more then the obvious.
Your baby is gonna be proud your a dancer. psssh!!!!
How bout taking responsibility and get a real job, and quit the emotional BS. He's still with you aint he. Why do women always look for more then the obvious.
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I see you posted this in 2009. Hopefully you did not have the baby and got an abortion. You barely know your boyfriend of 3 months and you trust him when he's a bartender around women. How immature.
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I know this topic is long since past, but.... I can't believe anyone would say "I hope you got an abortion." I am pro-choice, but I would NEVER say that to ANYONE. Abortion has it's time and place and I respect that; however, it is not something that should be done simply because a situation might be a little hard. If you feel that you genuinely are not capable of raising a child and are not able to go through with adoption for whatever reason, then I can't talk you out of it, but I would never encourage it, as if it is less of a big deal that having a difficult time raining a child. Whoever posted this, I assume you have never actually had an abortion, because MOST people that have had one, would never do it again. It is an incredibly difficult thing to go through. If you feel that are you mature enough and have the resources you need to be able to raise a child in a good environment, that is all that matters. My mother was 16 and single when she got pregnant with me and thank GOD she didn't get an abortion. Regardless of the fact that there was not father present, my mother was determined to make it work and she has been the best mother in the world. She was incredibly lucky to start dating the man I call my father when she was pregnant. He has been there since day one, married her when I was three and officially adopted me. Things can work and abortion is not exactly an "easy way out". Never listen to people that are so one sided, on either end. It's ultimately up to you and no one should ever find it their place to tell you otherwise.
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Sigh.
I'm also 23 and pregnant. I just found out yesterday. My boyfriend isn't too thrilled even though he would be 26 by the time the baby would be born. I don't know what to do but I also don't want to go through an abortion. I graduated from college a year ago, and just now landed my first full time job with benefits... I know a lot of girls have it much harder than me, but my boyfriend swears he's not ready. We've been together over a year now. Help.
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Hello, I am 23 years old and recently had an abortion in feb 2011 and just found out I am pregnant by my best friend that I've known for 12 years. My first pregnancy was by him as well so you can say we've been through alot, no the first time he told me he didn't want it...and now he wants me to make the decision and he will be by my side either way, but we both like to party and I know i'm mature enough to leave all the partying but I'm afraid he says he'll be there but when it comes Down to it he'll leave me to take care of the baby alone.. So I'm so confused and don't know what to do... I wanna keep it but I don't think I can handle it alone but I don't wanna get another abortion because I know the effects it can have on my body considering my first was the beginning of this yeAr.. So please I just want some advice on what would you do?
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I am 23 and possibly pregnant! When I was 22,I found out I was Pregnant for the first time. After discussing with my boyfriend at the time our future and plans, we decided to get an abortion. It took a huge toll on me emotionally more than it did physically. Im not happy that I did it and yes I regret it, but that is something I will have to deal with. Me and my ex are no longer together and I have moved on. I am nowengaged to my bestfriend of 8 years and he is my rock! He was even there when I went through the abortion. He was against it but once again my ex and I made the final decision on that matter. Anyway I may be expecting again. If I am, I plan on keeping the baby and so does he. There is no way I can deal with another abortion neither would I choose it again. I plan to give my baby the support and love that I know I can. Good luck to all the soon to be moms!
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I am 23 and also pregnant ! :-) Have had a steady, great job for four years now and so has boyfriend of 6 years. I was on BC for years and quite frankly got sick of it so I stopped taking it. We did not try for children nor did we prevent, we just let God do everything. It took nearly 10 months, and now I'm finally 5 weeks pregnant! We are both ecstatic!
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Congratulations I hope all goes well for you, when you have been on birth control for a long time it can take a while for your body to get back to normal again but it's worth the wait as you have found out. :-)
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And just who the hell are you? If she decided to keep the baby I'm sure she is very happy in her decision. It is in no way your place to tell another person how to live their life, especially when you don't know her. You're the one who is being immature. she was just asking for advice, not a crude, judge mental opinion. Get a f*****g life.
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