im male and 21 and cannot mastrubate still...

Hi Andrew,

Let's just verify some things. Pre-cum, it's clear and slippery (almost like mucous), not everyone has it. It just oozes out of the urethra (tip). Semen (ejaculate) usually white/off-white in color, somewhat thick, may squirt a short distance or flow out of the urethra.

When you say gel, I tend to think more of semen than I do pre-cum. If you had a wet dream then you should have ejaculate (semen) in your pants. It will turn watery after a little while, that's the nature of semen. It comes out thick and then gets "runny."

I'm not sure what is going on because I don't understand what you are seeing.

Not everyone can ejaculate by traditional masturbation techniques. You need to find a way that works for you.

I do think that you should talk to a doctor, just to clear up what is happening. Do you have a brother/parent/friend that you would be comfortable talking this over with?

Post back with more questions/concerns. I really just don't think that we're thinking the same things.

thx for ur reply... yeah dude as u said it is transparent and looks like mucous and im sure its not the cum.... during ma wet dreamz, it was like f*****g a gal and later wen i woke up, i saw my pants were wet.... but it was watery, so i taught it was just a piss... but no sign off white semen in ma pants!!!! but i can identify if it is pre-cum... btw cant share these things wid anyone, coz dont have a bro and friends dont have much knowledge abt this, and definitely not wid ma parents :-( ... so online ppl like u are the only help for me..... ive got wet dreams only twice and both the time same things happened [precum n p*****f]!!!! wen ppl say they mastrubate wid hands and such things, i cannot believe, cos nothing like that happens to me, wen i try..... so it is possible to cum, if am able to precum???? orelse is thr any prob. wid me :-(

Semen does not have to be white, it will usually be when you get older, but if it has been a few minutes or so since you've ejaculated it turns more clear and gets watery. This may be what you saw when you woke up. Your wet dream sounds right, so does what happened.

Different glands do different things. Pre-cum comes from the "Cowpers gland." Semen comes mostly from the prostate and seminal vesicles. So, while I would think you should be able to ejaculate if you can pre-cum, I can't say for sure that there isn't something wrong.

When you say you start to piss, do you actually? I think the first time I ejaculated I thought I was going to urinate and was surprised when it wasn't urine!

Try masturbating again and don't stop even if you feel like you have to "piss." Do it somewhere where if you do, it won't matter, maybe in the shower.

Otherwise, I know you can't just talk to someone about this. Talk to your doctor or someone you really trust. Your friends, should be able to help you. Are you really 21?

yeah dude am 21.... i was tooo disheartened abt this, now feeling better after ur replies.... really thx bro..... i can only do these in wet dreamz, not by hands or something.... i hope i stop watching porn movies, so i can get wet dreamz... this dec. ill try to consult a doctor as u said n clarify myself....... and also ive heared if u cannot ejaculate there may be nerve problems or neck break something like that???? am also little worried that may be some dis orders like that???? %-)

yeah dude am really 21..... i was too disheartened abt this, after ur reply am feeling much better..... thx bro for ur help... as u said ill consult doctor this december... so if i stop watching porn movies, ill get wet dreamz more???? coz i think thats the only way i can judge, wether am ejaculating or not..... coz am not gud wid ma hands like others... and also i have further doubts like non ejaculation might be cause of nerves, neck break of penis something like that? am worried abt these toooo %-) and so if there is nerve block or neck break is it possible to pre cum? waiting for ur reply....

It could be psychological, your not ejaculating. There is no neck to break in your penis but it could be a lack of stimulation. Some guys can orgasm and ejaculate without touching their penis.

If you don't ejaculate by masturbating, your body will eventually need to "relieve" itself and you'll have a wet dream. How long that takes I can't answer as everyone is different. They also tend to stop as you get older.

Check with your doctor. A urologist might be a better choice as this is their area of expertise.

Hang in there.

okie bro.... btw is there something like some guys will ejaculate after 30min or so? is tat true??

30 minutes after what? After starting to masturbate? Or during sex?

Yes, it's true. Some can go for hours.

mastrubation alone..

hmmm ok k k fine.... thx for ur concern on me....

dude... finally i saw white watery thing coming out??? is that the sign off semen... i tried wid hand :-)

Your 21 and you've never cummed? I'm 17 bro and I've been at it since I was 12 lol. But anyway, do you know what an orgasm feels like? I think you stop to early when you Jack off, keep going until you get this intense feeling and you ejaculate. As your jerking pre-cum will come out because youre excited. Don't confuse that with actual cum. Hope that helped? Any questions bro?

Hi Derago21:

Here are some tips on masturbation that may help you reach orgasm:

Masturbation is relaxing, pleasant, enjoyable, harmless, healthy, normal, and contributes to restful sleep if done before bedtime. Masturbation relieves pain from overfilled seminal vesicles. Frequent masturbation prevents wet dreams. Regular ejaculation is associated with better prostate health. Masturbation is a great stress reliever.

One may masturbate as much or as little as one wishes. One may do it in any place where one has privacy. There is no upper or lower age limit for masturbation.

The internally lubricated movable nerve-laden foreskin and its gliding action is an important aid to masturbation.

Circumcision was introduced to unforeskin the penis and make it impossible to masturbate. It did not stop masturbation but it made it harder to do.

How one does it depends on whether one has an internally lubricated movable foreskin that glides up and down the shaft or whether you have been unforeskinned.

If you are foreskinned, then all you need to do is glide your foreskin back and forth. The foreskin is internally lubricated with lymphatic fluid and glides without friction. The numerous nerves inside the foreskin are stimulated by the motion and generate pleasurable sensations.

Long and vigorous masturbation can cause the foreskin to become edematous and swollen, which is painless and not a cause for alarm. The edema usually goes down within about 24 hours. Pulling back too hard is apt to stretch the frenulum and may tear it.

If you are unforeskinned and the skin is taut and immovable, then you will need some lubrication and you need to slide your hand up and down the shaft. You will likely injure yourself without lubricant. Friction burns are common when a male without foreskin masturbates without lubricant. Some lubricants are baby oil, vegetable oil, personal lubricant, soapy water, and saliva.

It is common for an unforeskinned male, who has been deprived of his internally lubricated foreskin, to have friction burns if he does not apply external lubricant.

There are many myths about masturbation, which simply are not true.

Masturbation does NOT cause insanity.
Masturbation does NOT cause you to go blind.
Masturbation does NOT cause sleeplessness.
Masturbation does NOT cause hair to grow in your palms.
Masturbation does NOT change hair color.
Masturbation does NOT cause baldness.
Masturbation does NOT cause impotence.
Masturbation does NOT prevent fathering children.
Masturbation does NOT slow down puberty.
Masturbation does NOT stunt your growth.
Masturbation does NOT suck out the nutrients.
Masturbation does NOT lower your testosterone.
Masturbation does NOT raise your testostorone.
Masturbation does NOT cause gynecomastia.
Masturbation does NOT cause pain in the testes.
Masturbation does NOT cause premature ejaculation.
Masturbation does NOT affect height.
Masturbation does NOT cause penile curvature.
Masturbation does NOT affect penis size.
Masturbation does NOT decrease stamina.
Masturbation does NOT cause muscle weakness.
Masturbation does NOT reduce muscle mass.
Masturbation does NOT cause weight gain.
Masturbation does NOT cause pimples.
Masturbation does NOT cause acne.
Masturbation does NOT cause loss of blood.
Masturbation does NOT cause blood to flow from the urethra.
Masturbation does NOT cause your body to smell like a fish.
Masturbation does NOT make your bones softer.
Masturbation does NOT slow the growth of your penis.
Masturbation does NOT make your penis weak.
Masturbation does NOT make your penis smaller.
Masturbation does NOT release hormones.
Masturbation does NOT make you sexually weak.
Masturbation does NOT cause nerve problems.
Masturbation does NOT cause memory problems.
Masturbation does NOT cause cancer.
Masturbation does NOT cause back pain.
Masturbation does NOT cause stomachache.
Masturbation does NOT cause body aches.
Masturbation does NOT cause headache.
Masturbation does NOT make you thin and skinny.
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Masturbation does NOT cause prostate cancer.
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Masturbation does NOT cause blurred vision.
Masturbation does NOT cause hair fall.
Masturbation does NOT cause death.
Masturbation does NOT cause infection.