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Loosing one's virginity is a big deal, well.....it was for me anyway. Some can allow their virginity to be taken and go on with their business like it was no big deal while other's stress and cry and feel bad or funny or guilty, i was one of those girls. A ton of thoughts and feelings went thru my mind, such as, am i pregnant, am i gonna get found out about, is my bf gonna talk, am i gonna talk to the wrong person, is my mom gonna find out, and so on. I felt horrible after, tho i apparently didn't mind when it was actually happening. I did not resist nor did i try to talk myself out of it. I remember by bf at the time asking me if i was ok and is this ok and can he proceed, every answer from me being "yes".
What you are feeling is natural for you. You had your virginity taken, and tho by choice, it still bothers you. It's ok for you to feel emotion, just don't let it take you over. You are feeling sick and scared because you feel that you may have let your virginity go a little to early, it's ok. The first question to you is this, did your bf wear a condom? This is one of the most important things that you have to have happen when you have sexual intercourse, whether it be the first time or the 30th time. If he wore a condom, the chances of you being pregnant are slim, providing there was no abnormalities in the condom such as a tear or an outdated package. Did he put it on correctly, did he take it off correctly? If your sure of this stuff i would say you not pregnant.
If, for some odd reason, protection was not in place (condom or pill for you) you will always, always, always run the risk of getting pregnant ot contracting a sexually transmitted disease, known as an STD. But remember, a birth control pill does NOT prevent an STD. Seeing that it has only been a week since this took place, it is much to early to tell if your pregnant. This all depends on when you had your last period and how far along you were into your ovulation cycle. Ovulation will occur about 2 weeks after the FIRST day of your LAST period. Then there are only a few good days in that time frame when you could conceive. There is not a hugh window when conception can occur and that is why many women who are trying to get pregnant watch their calenders and take their temperatures so they can try to conceive on one of those fertile days. Also, if you had unprotected sex a few days BEFORE your estimated ovulation time, you could still end of getting pregnant. Sperm can live a healthy existance inside of us for days after ejaculation has occurred. So...if we are that close to ovulation and we have unprotected intercourse with ejaculation (he cums inside) we could still get pregnant as those live sperm can make their way to the ovum and conception can occur. It's almost like they lay waiting for the right opportunity to successfully get to their final destination, resulting in pregnancy.
You will not know if your pregnant for some time longer. Some Home Pregnancy tests can pick up the pregnancy hormone BEFORE a period is even missed. HPT's go for about 20.00 and you usually get 2 tests in a box. Don't get one from the Dollar store either.
So...listen. The first thing you need to do is to try and calm down a little. I know it's hard, but you must really concentrate on it. Whaat you are feeling is normal for many of us, while some just don't care. They see it as "no big deal" to loose their virginity. It is a big deal and it is serious. Some countries believe that a women must be a virgin on her wedding nite or she is considered garbage in the eyes of her future husband and her potential in laws.
Here in this country, we are allowed to make our own decisions, right ot wrong, we are allowed to do that. You will not be stoned or whipped or beaten because you decided to let your virginity go. It was your decision, it's your body and your heart. Young love is a wonderful thing and i remember hardly being able to wait to have sex for the first time. It was ok, i had no idea what i was doing, there was no fireworks or bells and whistles, just some pain and a little blood. After it was over i remember thinking...ok, so what's the big deal? I was madly in love with my bf and i thought it was going to be forever now. I wound up getting pregnant and had an abortion. Then i got pregnant again, but it wasn't his yes i had yet another abortion. We got back together and i got pregnant again, this time we got married and divorced 11 years later. We have 3 children together, the oldest being 35, 33 and 30 tomorrow.
I hope you don't think bad of me because of what i said to you, and if you do, that i can't help. What's done is done. I am only trying to help you see what could happen and to help you deal with your emotions right now. You just need to sit tight and wait for a while longer. Make the decision whether or not you choose to want to have sex again. You don't have to, you can wait until your ready again, or maybe you are ready again now. Have a heart to heart with yourself and keep your bf out of it for now. Answer your own questions because you are in control.
Please let me know what your feeling and thinking. I am here to help you if you need it. Just calm down and take a deep breath, and have that conversation with yourself for a minute. I'm here for you hon, ok?
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If you are worried about this, the next time you can always not have your bf ejaculate while inside of you. Have him pull out beforehand.
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I'm probably blowing everything way out of proportion but I just want to know what other people think.
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