masturbating at age 50 years

Good for you. I am 68 and do it once a week. Started at 14 and did (and do it) through marriage.I respect and love my wife. I can not f**k her any more(weak erection) but I finger and sometimes "eat" her on a pretty regular schedule. No problem!My problem is why is considered masturbation a sort of "lesser sex"? I always enjoyed it more than sex at vagina.Tirmonia

I am female, age 53, husband is 58, and I stopped frequent sex for almost 10 yrs due to illness and had dryness due to illness, menopause, painful intercourse and dehydration. However myself and husband grew apart and he almost slept with a lady friend of ours. We decided to revive our sex life, repair our distant physical relationship. It worked. I thoroughly recommend the wife tries the following:

Aquaglide gel. Very lovely quality gel which can be put on genitals or lips and a tiny amount makes things very silky. Some gels can be put on the clitoris and tingle but that can delay orgasms.
Good quality silicone vibrating love egg.
Use gel to slip inside your wife's intimate area, then use a remote control to turn on with several vibration patterns and intensity. This helps to tone the vagina, helps with menopausal dryness and muscle tone so with me I have less weak bladder problems, easier orgasms and good muscle skills. We also use oral sex gels in delicious flavours and find at our age we still get a lot of enjoyment out of that and I'm less dry and less self conscious if my intimate area is Strawberry flavoured. Menopausal dryness can often just be a delayed reaction which makes initial touch or entry painful so that its instantly a turn off but actually the gels can get you past the bump in the road and then even with my extreme dryness condition I can produce a lot of my own lubricant as long as initial touch isn't painful. And the gels make the mouth less dry, less bad breath and very sensual. We've made a vow to physically connect daily, even if we don't go all the way sexually every day. We're having sex to full orgasms about 4 or 5 sessions a week (multiple orgasms for me since the gels and toys) and that's not bad for a couple in mid late 50s. I have a lot of physical disabilities too. Including a lack of grip and arthritic joints. I have got 2 bits of equipment that help me masturbation my husband. A silicone jelly Ribbed sleeve to go on a penis with water based lubricant and a Tenga egg you can see these on Bandar a, Ann Sumner or Lovehoney online shops. At our age, women like to be turned on mentally and emotionally so it's important that men woo and seduce their lady. They can send flirty texts emails, and tell her what they enjoy about their sex life. Help bathe, dry her with warm towels and massage Lotion into dry skin etc.
Using a bit of gel on the clitoris in round motions with a thumb, then slowly inserting fingers at the same time can improve arousal. Being able to talk is so important. Men will answer any direct questions, and if you ask if you can watch or join in is almost always welcome. Husbands can be embarrassed for you if group find things difficult to bring up. I asked my husband lots of intimate questions about what he fantasised about and hot Jim to show me any point he watches and at first it was awkward, but not now. Many men can have a normal sex drive at 50 but assume their wife no longer has a libido if they seem a bit dry. You have to reassure a husband that it's just physically drier than it used to be, but the mental desire is still there, and a lot of men are happy for a wife to watch if she is enjoying the show.

I am female, age 53, husband is 58, and I stopped frequent sex for almost 10 yrs due to illness and had dryness due to illness, menopause, painful intercourse and dehydration. However myself and husband grew apart and he almost slept with a lady friend of ours. We panicked, but decided to revive our sex life, repair our distant physical relationship. It worked. I thoroughly recommend the wife tries the following:

Aquaglide gel. Very lovely quality gel which can be put on genitals or lips and a tiny amount makes things very silky. Some gels can be put on the clitoris and tingle but that can delay orgasms.
Good quality silicone vibrating love egg.
Use gel to slip inside your wife's intimate area, then use a remote control to turn on with several vibration patterns and intensity. This helps to tone the vagina, helps with menopausal dryness and muscle tone so with me I have less weak bladder problems, easier orgasms and good muscle skills. We also use oral sex gels in delicious flavours and find at our age we still get a lot of enjoyment out of that and I'm less dry and less self conscious if my intimate area is Strawberry flavoured. Menopausal dryness can often just be a delayed reaction which makes initial touch or entry painful so that its instantly a turn off but actually the gels can get you past the bump in the road and then even with my extreme dryness condition I can produce a lot of my own lubricant as long as initial touch isn't painful. And the gels make the mouth less dry, less bad breath and very sensual. We've made a vow to physically connect daily, even if we don't go all the way sexually every day. We're having sex to full orgasms about 4 or 5 sessions a week (multiple orgasms for me since the gels and toys) and that's not bad for a couple in mid late 50s. I have a lot of physical disabilities too. Including a lack of grip and arthritic joints. I have got 2 bits of equipment that help me masturbation my husband. A silicone jelly Ribbed sleeve to go on a penis with water based lubricant and a Tenga egg you can see these on Bandar a, Ann Sumner or Lovehoney online shops. At our age, women like to be turned on mentally and emotionally so it's important that men woo and seduce their lady. They can send flirty texts emails, and tell her what they enjoy about their sex life. Help bathe, dry her with warm towels and massage Lotion into dry skin etc.
Using a bit of gel on the clitoris in round motions with a thumb, then slowly inserting fingers at the same time can improve arousal. Being able to talk is so important. Men will answer any direct questions, and if you ask if you can watch or join in is almost always welcome. Husbands can be embarrassed for you if group find things difficult to bring up. I asked my husband lots of intimate questions about what he fantasised about and hot Jim to show me any point he watches and at first it was awkward, but not now. Many men can have a normal sex drive at 50 but assume their wife no longer has a libido if they seem a bit dry. You have to reassure a husband that it's just physically drier than it used to be, but the mental desire is still there, and a lot of men are happy for a wife to watch if she is enjoying the show.

I really feel it's a shame when women lose all interest as I did too. But my interest came back when I realised how much it affected my husband and its well worth trying to revive bit. Libido does return once sexuality becomes a habit again.

I have problems with grip. I gave used Tenga eggs and silicone sleeves with felt on my husband as well as flavoured oral sex gel. Sex can get difficult for us due to mobility issues and extra weight gain. I did findginternalky I was dry and sore. However, I tried vibrating egg toys, small bullet vibrators smaller than a finger and gels. Toys with remote controls are heavenly and great fun. If your wife is well lubricated at her entrance you can stimulate outside where she is OK and gently put fingers in with lots of gel, shell probably start liking it again. I had several real problems including dryness, stabbing pains and weak bladder all imported using internal vibrating balls eggs and a Kegel exsrcises.
You might find that if you court your wife mentally, seduce her, send naughty texts, offer oral sex with fruit flavoured gels, tell her how much you'd like to go inside, she might just change her mind.

Anyway, try a penis sleeve or a Tenga egg even a vibrating penis ring or wand attachment. If there is firm pressure around vase as well as top of your penis the elections will get bigger and more firm. Or, what does it for my hubby, is introducing oral sex again after a break of 15 yrs or so.

I would ask him if he gets erections daily, if he has ever thought about masturbation when they happen, and I might tell him the thought of him pleasuring himself turns me on, ask if next time I can watch or participate or watch pornhub together.

Although a lot of men prefer to wank as its quicker and easier, more convenient in between lovemaking sessions and can go to sleep earlier. Most of my male friends masturbate early in the morning before a shower while their lady is asleep. If they woke them up and had to see to their needs too, they'd be late for work.

This makes me sad. I was like your wife until a month ago. I changed the subject, kept postponing sex, even physical affection dwindled until my husband looked elsewhere.

I am female, age 53, husband is 58, and I stopped frequent sex for almost 10 yrs due to illness and had dryness due to illness, menopause, painful intercourse and dehydration. However myself and husband grew apart and he almost slept with a lady friend of ours. We decided to revive our sex life, repair our distant physical relationship. It worked. I thoroughly recommend the wife tries the following:

Aquaglide gel. Very lovely quality gel which can be put on genitals or lips and a tiny amount makes things very silky. Some gels can be put on the clitoris and tingle but that can delay orgasms.

Good quality silicone vibrating love egg has been a great addition.
Use gel to slip inside your wife's intimate area, then use a remote control to turn on with several vibration patterns and intensity. This helps to tone the vagina, helps with menopausal dryness and muscle tone so with me I have less weak bladder problems, easier orgasms and good muscle skills. We also use oral sex gels in delicious flavours and find at our age we still get a lot of enjoyment out of that and I'm less dry and less self conscious if my intimate area is Strawberry flavoured. Menopausal dryness can often just be a delayed reaction which makes initial touch or entry painful so that its instantly a turn off but actually the gels can get you past the bump in the road and then even with my extreme dryness condition I can produce a lot of my own lubricant as long as initial touch isn't painful. And the gels make the mouth less dry, less bad breath and very sensual. We've made a vow to physically connect daily, even if we don't go all the way sexually every day. We're having sex to full orgasms about 4 or 5 sessions a week (multiple orgasms for me since the gels and toys) and that's not bad for a couple in mid late 50s. I have a lot of physical disabilities too. Including a lack of grip and arthritic joints. I have got 2 bits of equipment that help me masturbation my husband. A silicone jelly Ribbed sleeve to go on a penis with water based lubricant and a Tenga egg you can see these on Bondara, Ann Summers or Lovehoney online shops.

At our age, women like to be turned on mentally and emotionally so it's important that men woo and seduce their lady. Sex can become like a physical need for men, a scratch to be itches and too much like a bodily function that ladies become scornful of it which is a turn off for both. To help, they can send flirty texts emails, and tell her what they enjoy about their sex life. Help bathe, dry her with warm towels and massage Lotion into dry skin etc.
Using a bit of gel on the clitoris in round motions with a thumb, then slowly inserting fingers at the same time can improve arousal. Being able to talk is so important. Men will answer any direct questions, and if you ask if you can watch or join in it's s almost always welcome. Husbands can be embarrassed for you if you find things difficult to bring up. I asked my husband lots of intimate questions about what he fantasised about and got him to show me any porn he watches and at first it was awkward, but not now. Many men can have a normal sex drive at 50 but assume their wife no longer has a libido if they seem a bit dry. You have to reassure a husband that it's just physically drier than it used to be, but the mental desire is still there, and a lot of men are happy for a wife to watch if she is enjoying the show. Love can dry up without intimacy.

I am a lady, also unwell and in pain like your wife. I couldn't bring myself to have sex often dye to a lot of problems and pain, plus can't use my hands. It was difficult to talk about for both myself and my caring husband. I found it difficult because it meant admitting I was letting him down, he could not talk because he didn't want to make me feel pressurised. However, we drifted apart, and Ialmost lost him. We started opening up and talking about it, and accepted that there must be compromise as I am not very mobile. However, we tried to start again, sometimes I can relax and be gently pleasured. I plan my medication around it, and find I don't need painkillers if we've had good sex and I go to sleep right away. I am still able to kiss and do things orally, so we mostly do that. We have also tried sex toys, and a vibrating egg is perfect for relaxing and massage vibrators can be used on sore muscles and joints. I hope you can ask your wife if she is open to receiving some pleasure and she'll feel close to you, andpossibly help with her own and mood. It's normal to feel irritable and lash out when in pain, but most of the time it's not personal. I know what you mean about your wife fretting over small annoyances, I used to do this too. Now St bedtime, I look forward to a cuddle or sex. We have some sort of activity with orgASMs (one for him, 2 or more for me) 4 or 5 times per week, other 2 or 3 nights we kiss and cuddle and read then fall asleep. Get your wife to understand how an ordain releases endorphins and oxytocin more powerful than morphine or other painkillers and the more you have, the more you desire. A woman who has not had one recently quire quickly forgets how to feel aroused even with a 3 or 4 day gap, which is why it's important to keep doing it, or lose the will to start it up again. On painkillers I do experience dryness and numbness and can take a short time for arousal but a long time to orgasm so I use ordinary water based lube, and also use stimulating gels and try to time lovemaking around painkillers so I'm not too knocked out.

My boyfriend is 50 and I am 65, I love sexual intercourse but he has been having a problem with staying erect during sex. He has been masturbating a lot and gets upset when I try to talk to him about it. He says he rarely achieves orgasm but he doesn't want me to massage his penis because he says it's soft and shrinks. I think he should stop masturbating.

I am 66 years old and still masturbate at least once a day. I have a special young lady that I fantasize about every time I masturbate. I don't see anything wrong with masturbating. I started at a young age and continue to do it. I haven't had sex in about three years so masturbation is the only way I can satisfy myself.

Wtf is this reply? Ever heard of NoFap?

Im 54 & masturbate as Much as ever also Married,I love sharing my thoughts with a another Married guy into Masturbation

Im 54 ~ Married ~ Enjoy Masturbating often weekly ~ Relaxes me so much ~ I enjoy it alot

I masturbate all the time I am 56 years old and married but I don't have an orgasm when I have sex. So after I have sex I go off too myself and masturbate.

Hate to tell ya but jacking off DOES NOT relieve stress!! It IS NOT a medical necessity it is a personal choice to indulge in the participation of it. It is not mandatory in a mans life.

Signed:
A wife of 28 years who's husband does not masturbate UNLESS he is with me! His work schedule doesnt give him 5 minutes to himself. If it was a dire need he would have been dead long ago. We have sex everyday at least once. He is 54 I just turned 50.

Well I to am 57 year old married man, and I masturbate once a week. My wife doesn't know I don't think she does. I think it's normal. The problem I'm having is I want to swallow my on cum. Jerking off in my hand then swallow it. I wonder if it's normal.