hello everyone,
it is kind of weird to ask this but my boyfriend takes his time to ejaculate..i mean taking time like 2 hours or a little more..he is always hard during this time...
my question is that do you think he does not find me enough sexy,that is why he does not rush into"ejaculating" ? well he says that he really tries hard not to come and keep the pleasure but im just curious for your opinions..
thank you
bye
gudi
it is kind of weird to ask this but my boyfriend takes his time to ejaculate..i mean taking time like 2 hours or a little more..he is always hard during this time...
my question is that do you think he does not find me enough sexy,that is why he does not rush into"ejaculating" ? well he says that he really tries hard not to come and keep the pleasure but im just curious for your opinions..
thank you
bye
gudi
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lol im very shure that he wouldnt think your not sexy enough.
thats not usually the cause
dont look too much into it really.
he could be just savoring the moment ya kno?
some guys try to hold back to get that added burst that they want.
all guys are different when it comes down to that stuff.
i do find it kind of odd that hed wait THAT long but thats my guess.
dont worry about it
and if it does become a problem ( i kno i wouldnt lol ) but talk to him
it may be awkward but maybe there really is something wrong.
but DONT worry yourself too much!!
BloodxLust
thats not usually the cause
dont look too much into it really.
he could be just savoring the moment ya kno?
some guys try to hold back to get that added burst that they want.
all guys are different when it comes down to that stuff.
i do find it kind of odd that hed wait THAT long but thats my guess.
dont worry about it
and if it does become a problem ( i kno i wouldnt lol ) but talk to him
it may be awkward but maybe there really is something wrong.
but DONT worry yourself too much!!
BloodxLust
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I wouldn't be complaining by any means, LOL
The usual problem is just the opposite - men getting done much quicker than women. So there's a lot of advice out there for them to take it slow, alternate between oral and vaginal sex, etc. So maybe he's had past experiences with women who weren't satisfied by his quickness or if you're his first and he was nervous about finishing too soon, maybe he's read up on this advice.
You said yourself he says he's trying NOT to finish quickly. So what I said above makes sense to me... But since you're here questioning it, that makes me feel like you don't fully believe him.
Either you guys have trust issues or your own lack of self-confidence (maybe he doesn't find me sexy). Which, I find it hard to believe he's not attracted to you if he's making it last longer - I'd think the opposite. He really cares for ya and wants to make sure you're well satisfied before himself. If he thought ya weren't attractive, I'd imagine he'd want to get it over as quick as possible - just get his piece of the action and go. Or maybe not even be interested in sex with you at all - he could just as easily masturbate or, sorry to say, have an affair. So if he's purposely and willingly spending hours with you - I'd say it's pretty safe to strike out the possibility that he doesn't find you sexy.
There's something else I've heard and *might* apply here. That circumsized men, without their protective hooding, get a little desensitized from the rubbing of their clothing over the years and don't get as much pleasure and take longer than an uncirumsized man.
I have only been with one uncircumsized man myself and while his head was indeed more sensitive than any circumsized man I've given oral to (and one man is not enough evidence that it is true for all cut or uncut men), when it came to vaginal or anal sex, there was no difference in timing to really note because every man has gone different lengths of time with me. Some were quick, some were slow - and there's been different lengths of time with the same guy with so many variables in play.
So, if I were you, I'd be happy and enjoy the extra time! But if it's causing problems such as you're getting bored or becoming sore from so much contact and your drying up or something - then talk to him about it further.
Ask him why he's putting effort into lasting longer. Tell him he doesn't have to try so hard if you're not interested in going so long. If he's doing it for your pleasure and you're not pleased... well, yea, new plan needs to be placed, lol. But there's also the idea that prolonging himself gives him more pleasure and a more intense orgasm when he finally orgasms - just the same as women.
In any case, you need to be talking to him directly and not so worried about the rest of the world's opinions. If he's happy and you're happy with your sex life - who cares what we think about how long ya take?
And if you're not happy, well - the two of ya need to talk about why and what to do about it. Find out what you're both looking for to be sexually pleased and find compromises (sometimes go long, sometimes have a quickie).
Ok, so that's my 5 cents worth! Keep the change... :-P
The usual problem is just the opposite - men getting done much quicker than women. So there's a lot of advice out there for them to take it slow, alternate between oral and vaginal sex, etc. So maybe he's had past experiences with women who weren't satisfied by his quickness or if you're his first and he was nervous about finishing too soon, maybe he's read up on this advice.
You said yourself he says he's trying NOT to finish quickly. So what I said above makes sense to me... But since you're here questioning it, that makes me feel like you don't fully believe him.
Either you guys have trust issues or your own lack of self-confidence (maybe he doesn't find me sexy). Which, I find it hard to believe he's not attracted to you if he's making it last longer - I'd think the opposite. He really cares for ya and wants to make sure you're well satisfied before himself. If he thought ya weren't attractive, I'd imagine he'd want to get it over as quick as possible - just get his piece of the action and go. Or maybe not even be interested in sex with you at all - he could just as easily masturbate or, sorry to say, have an affair. So if he's purposely and willingly spending hours with you - I'd say it's pretty safe to strike out the possibility that he doesn't find you sexy.
There's something else I've heard and *might* apply here. That circumsized men, without their protective hooding, get a little desensitized from the rubbing of their clothing over the years and don't get as much pleasure and take longer than an uncirumsized man.
I have only been with one uncircumsized man myself and while his head was indeed more sensitive than any circumsized man I've given oral to (and one man is not enough evidence that it is true for all cut or uncut men), when it came to vaginal or anal sex, there was no difference in timing to really note because every man has gone different lengths of time with me. Some were quick, some were slow - and there's been different lengths of time with the same guy with so many variables in play.
So, if I were you, I'd be happy and enjoy the extra time! But if it's causing problems such as you're getting bored or becoming sore from so much contact and your drying up or something - then talk to him about it further.
Ask him why he's putting effort into lasting longer. Tell him he doesn't have to try so hard if you're not interested in going so long. If he's doing it for your pleasure and you're not pleased... well, yea, new plan needs to be placed, lol. But there's also the idea that prolonging himself gives him more pleasure and a more intense orgasm when he finally orgasms - just the same as women.
In any case, you need to be talking to him directly and not so worried about the rest of the world's opinions. If he's happy and you're happy with your sex life - who cares what we think about how long ya take?
And if you're not happy, well - the two of ya need to talk about why and what to do about it. Find out what you're both looking for to be sexually pleased and find compromises (sometimes go long, sometimes have a quickie).
Ok, so that's my 5 cents worth! Keep the change... :-P
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Thank you both.
You are so kind to reply me.
Well I think as well that he is just trying to enjoy the moment with me.
That is not his time first time for sure.He is very experienced in sex.
but we do a lot of foreplay which is good..
anyway thank you so much and if it will be necessary i will talk to him directly.
have a nice week
g.
You are so kind to reply me.
Well I think as well that he is just trying to enjoy the moment with me.
That is not his time first time for sure.He is very experienced in sex.
but we do a lot of foreplay which is good..
anyway thank you so much and if it will be necessary i will talk to him directly.
have a nice week
g.
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