my boyfriend used to give me oral sex now he doesnt...?

Ridiculous. True love has nothing to do with pleasing someone sexually.

Let me make it simple: SELFISHNESS!

Yes it does. Its a great part of it. If you love someone as much as you say or act. Then satisfy them All the way. You will feel much better they will love you even deeper because ya'll would have a stronger bond. And she will never want to be without you.

I feel the exact same way

I hear ya .My man says he loves it but barely does it .so sick off asking for it so quit .but he lives for me to give him head and says it's so important to him .what The hell about my wants and desires .
So I just take care of it myself
He says you don't need a vibrator you have me ta well obviously he doesn't like going down on me and 2 minutes don't cut it

I love going down on my woman, I love to smell her panties when I don't have her near however lately we have been arguing about everything under the sun. I'm emotionally drained. We still have sex but to go down is a very emotional attachment. When I'm emotionally depressed I truly believe I just don't want to go down.

My partner has not given me oral for about 4 years. At first I went through a lot of pain and frustration and many hours on google trying to figure out how I was going to get through my life with this person without having this pleasure in my life. I asked him many times but he refused, it was like a tap he just turned it off.
Now four years later our sex life is really sad, I don't really care about making him happy because of the rejection he has put on me and I have come to the realisation that I can survive without this in my life. I don't give him pleasure anymore and I don't really touch him anymore and neither does he.
Obviously this is not the best but as a woman we have to manage a situation such a rejection or else it could make you go insane. I don't want to split up but I would consider going outside the relationship but unfortunately I would not have the self assurance to do this because of the way I have been rejected by my partner.
Life goes on and you have to learn to manage the cards that have been dealt, my partner will never change, it is really tough, cruel and sad to know that pleasure is gone and that one person can do it lies next to you at night non caring. It is a slippery slope downhill.

girl im in the same boat !!!! i feel like maybe hes lazy idk but then again maybe there is someone else ?? but yes definitely makes me wanna find someone else on the side.

Same with me. We've been together for a year and literally I have NO desire to have sex I try to make myself get in the mood or even when I am its just for a short period of time then its gone and I don't feel even doing it anymore. When we do its like he wants head and then straight to sex I get no head and I don't even cum sex just became boring we've talked about it but still not much has changed.

I’m in the same boat . My bf went down on me near every time we had sex & seemed to really enjoy it but for the last few months he hasn’t . I would give him blow job near every time & lots of times I’d give him blow job til he’d come then he’d go asleep . I’ve recently stopped giving him oral or even touching him until he touches me . I’ve told him why but have had no answer why. .

Definitely works both ways . I’ve said these exact words to my bf bit he says nothing back .

I feel the same way. Like so I have to look at the back pages just to get some oral? I give him oral when he asks but he never returns the favor. He's made me giving him oral sex a turn off and it's quite annoying.

Ah man. I was hoping to find some kind of answer here but I guess it's comforting to see that lots of people have the same problem.
for me; almost 2 years in to a great relationship, and he's done it twice in the last 8 months :(
Both times after I had mentioned the day before that I was upset about it and asked if there was any reason. I asked about 3 weeks ago on my birthday when my hopes that he would do it then were met with nothing, and he said he'd never heard of the idea of 'birthday sex' or the idea that sex on your birthday was meant to be a special treat.
He is a wonderful person and I feel in almost all ways like we are impossibly good together. One of the only ways in which we aren't similar is that I'm a bit sentimental and like to do nice, kind of silly things for people. He is an anti-romantic and I get a bit sad thinking that if I want to be with him I'm saying goodbye to the idea of getting nice surprises, romantic gestures, somebody remembering anniversaries or (it looks like) oral sex..

Girls, why do you stay with these assholes?
I am one of those who believe that if your guy isn't enjoying your body and doesn't feel pleasure out of your pleasure, then the problem is much deeper that sexual and he is a generally selfish person, and even if the relationship still seems ok, it will only be a matter of time till he drops you in other ways too. Besides, pleasure and psysical connection is a damn important aspect of life, don't waste your time on m****s.
I've recently been thought this myself and after a couple months of sufferring and feeling inappropriate, I decided to break up with him. I don't regret it for a second because I know my needs and I felt so clearly what this can do to someone's feelings. I ended up feeling ugly and stupid, and this was all because he stopped going down on me, while still enjoying great oral from me. Leave the selfish bastard and find someone who can actually make you feel wanted. Life is too short to waste it living with frustrations that can so easily be fixed. But it is human nature to suffer over those who reject us. It's up to each and every one of us to break this circle.

wow. I dont think any of you ladies are gonna like my answer. stop with the I'm finding a side piece or I'm cutting him off. I've been with my man for 13 years 2 kids and it's still all about me every time were getting down to business. usually like 2 to 4 times a week and it doesnt end till I'm screaming and soaking wet. I usually have to grab his hair and pull him away from my p***y as he usually wont stop till I'm already trembling all over. he will do absolutely everything to make sure that when we are done I'm curled up in a ball trying to stop my legs from shaking as hes messaging every inch he can get his hands on before snuggling me to dreamland. even when hes so tired that he just wants to sleep if he even has a hunch that I want it hes all over me. now he doesnt fo Down on me every time. but its definitely most of the time. if you want my thoughts. i say if your guy isn't making it happen it's time to walk. not because your not getting oral but because if he loves you he'd do anything to make you squeal. those men do exist. and my God if you haven't found that guy your selling yourself short with anyone else