is it true that paranoia and low self confidence actually could prevent an orgasm?
Because I have had sex many times with different guys and have never even remotly felt any sense of pleasue from sex.
I have an extremely low self esteem, I think I am fat and ugly and I have horrible paranoia problems fearing getting pregnant.
I had originally thought it was all about stimulation but then I heard your mind AND body has to be right.
If that is true I suppose that's why I don't find sex pleasurable.
Because I have had sex many times with different guys and have never even remotly felt any sense of pleasue from sex.
I have an extremely low self esteem, I think I am fat and ugly and I have horrible paranoia problems fearing getting pregnant.
I had originally thought it was all about stimulation but then I heard your mind AND body has to be right.
If that is true I suppose that's why I don't find sex pleasurable.
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Your mental state plays even MORE of a part in sexual pleasure than stimulation does. As long as you take precautions to prevent pregnancy, such as the pill and/or condoms (preferably both), getting pregnant shouldn't really be an issue for you. As far as self-esteem goes, there isn't much I can tell you because I, too have such extreme low self esteem that I pretty much avoided contact with girls for the better part of my life.
But, my current girlfriend has helped resolve that part of my mentality by... well... wanting me to have sex with her (when we actually can lol). The way I see it, if someone wants to have sex with you then you aren't ugly or inadequate or whatever. To me, having a girl want me in that way is a total ego boost, and you should see it as such too (with guys though lol). Mind you, a lot of guys are just out for a 'booty call' kinda thing, but if you really love a guy and feel a real connection, it makes all the difference in bed. Its not just sex at that point, its 'making love'.
Enough with the corny clichés, just relax and have a good time. And be sure to be safe. Sexual pleasure is (I would say) 75% dependent on your state of mind.
But, my current girlfriend has helped resolve that part of my mentality by... well... wanting me to have sex with her (when we actually can lol). The way I see it, if someone wants to have sex with you then you aren't ugly or inadequate or whatever. To me, having a girl want me in that way is a total ego boost, and you should see it as such too (with guys though lol). Mind you, a lot of guys are just out for a 'booty call' kinda thing, but if you really love a guy and feel a real connection, it makes all the difference in bed. Its not just sex at that point, its 'making love'.
Enough with the corny clichés, just relax and have a good time. And be sure to be safe. Sexual pleasure is (I would say) 75% dependent on your state of mind.
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