I'm 20 (Girl), never masterbated or had sex before, help?

First - theres nothing wrong with you for being grossed out by porn. masterbation is about you making you feel good. No toys or porn needed.

I just get in bed, cover up, and explore myself, you'll know when it feels good better best. You dont need to have vaginal penitration either.

Sitting on your knees on bed with a couple pillow between your legs and a little finger/hand stimulation can give you the pressure and pleasur u need.

Hope you have a private bedroom.

Also dont feel bad or gross or ashamed for wanting self pleasure. many women masterbate and most men do too.

if your living in a apartment with your younger cousin im going to asume thats shes probly near your age and chances are she probly masterbates as well so i doup shell think less of you.

4liner has given you great advice!

You might consider two other things about electric toothbrushes. First, if you have a unit that you share, and just attach your own brushes to, you might buy either a new one just for your private parts, and keep it someplace safe... or, you could buy a disposable one and keep it in your nightstand.

Most women will use the BACKSIDE of the brush...the smooth plastic head or the vibrating handle, for something less intense.

***** have sold a special smooth head for some brands of electric tooth brushes.

Not all women do masterbate, but you can bet that those that do are a lot more familiar with their needs and wants than their inexperienced sisters.

You might look up "Sex for One" by Betty Dotson also. It will help give tips.
Good luck.

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ok Let address this from a man's view point here. I am 43 a father and a grandfather and I have been married for many years. I have a daughter about your age and this is the advice I would give her. First of all there is nothing wrong with giving yourself pleasure. Exploring your body and you own sexuality is not wrong or bad no matter what anyone with wild religious convictions tells you. God gave you a body and God expects you to get to know it . Yes, even the sexual aspect of it. As long as you don't hurt yourself , this should be fine. Don't let anyone tell you that you need to have sex. If you want to wait until you are married, then do so. No one and I mean no one is dumb, lame, or odd or any of those things for wanting to wait. However you need to also know that you are not going to burst into flames if you find a nice person that you are in love with and that person is in love with you and you decide to have a sexual relationship. Adults do this. Everyday adults make decisions to have sex or to not have sex. It is a decision and nothing more. Of course all decision carry a risk or consequences of some kind. Therefore your decision to have sex, should you decide to, needs to be thought out. Plan you birth control with a doctor well in advance. Get a woman's wellness exam if you have not done so already, but be sure to let the Dr. know you are a virgin. Ask the doctor any medical questions you have in regards to sex. You will be surprised that the doctor will answer you in a very formal way, with understanding and genuine information that will settle your possible unanswered questions about the mechanics of sex. Then, with those key items in place and your decision made to share this special gift with someone you love, I would tell you to let nature take it from there. In order to have a sexual encounter you must be willing to allow yourself to be in a situation and climate that is comfortable for sharing your body with someone. Know that it is alot more than sharing your body, it is sharing a very deep and meaningful part of yourself and your partner should respect this and not push you or spurn you on. They, like you, should be willing to go slow and let things happen naturally. At some point you will just have to let go and open up to the experience, but only do so if you feel you have made the right preperations and decisions. To be more at ease, talk to your potential partner about things and let that person know your fears and cautions. When in the moment expect a certain amount of ackwardness. You could not ride a bicycle well on your first try either. Know that some discomfort is sometimes felt when you have sex for the first time. Ask you doctor what to expect and pay close attention to what you are told about how to minimize the dealings with this discomfort. You can always change your mind at any point and remember that it is ok to do so, should something not feel right. The is alot to be said for not having sex at all until you are married. However know that once you are married all the same suggestions that I have made here still apply to your new spouse and the sexual relationship you may start with them. Planning and being able to be open with yourself and your doctor is essential. If you can talk openly about sex and your sexuality, then chances are you may not be ready to have sex. Also if you can't go out and buy protection aides for sexual encounters at you local drug store, then you may not be ready for sex... and all of that is perfectly ok. Remember, many things inlife that define you as a person will come with risk and will demand that you take active action in. This starts with a firm decision that this is really what you want. Be sure of what you want beforehand. Sex is really a wondeful thing. Not something to be feared. I can't quote you statistics here, but most people in the world have sex- many starting out younger than twenty and some as late as 40 plus years old. No mater when or if you ever decide to have sex. Make sure it is YOUR decision. Lastly my I want to tell you that if you do have sex...enjoy it. Don't walk away from the experience with shame or self loathing... Sex is like wine it gets better with time and experience. Avoid being to hard on yourself about performance. The fact is we all start out feeling a bit awkward and uncomfortable and a little puzzled about what just happened. Reflection and meditation on the event should proove to be a good teacher.... Blessings -I hope that this does help...A dad

You and i have a lot in comment like we are virgins so how about me and you chat maybe get to know it other. If we chat and get to know each other than we might solve both our problem so how about me and you chat somtimes. If you are then here my email _[removed]_

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@20years old without sex and masturbation: I am 29 years old male and shortlyto turn 30 and have never had sex before! There is nothing wrong with you being a virgin! you are good and there is no reason to tamper with yourself. Don't listen to all these people talking about self-pleasure or knowing your body. was or is masturbation knowing one's body? those who have done so know that it is sexual deviancy but they have managed to sear their conscience to that. I sincerely support you and I have tood tallest amongst people and I have come to be a role model for lot of young-adults! Bravo to you sweetheart. I will marry before having sex! 

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