o you think a guy like me could have a fulfilling relationships?

O yea you deffinatly can. how old are you? did something happen that caused you to need a walker? There are tons of girls out there and many who dont care about physical handicaps.

dont worry man. you just have to go out and look ;-)

man, im 15, when i was 11 i was nthe kewlest. i had brain surgery, when i awoke from operation, i couldnt move. Now, i can w3alk a lil clumsy. i think my eyes freak some people out, for my eyes shake and if i try to see someone/something. I make a weird face. i had surgery when i was 12, the surgery caused me to lose self-confidence.

Then i read these forums, and so many people are in love and made love. I have never truely kissed a girl. I did once, but it was during a play.

alright man,
the first thing to know is that you are who you are ok? and at you age that can be hard to get as well as for others to get. ITs important to remember that there are others out there in a lot worse position than you.

surly you have talents and enjoy doing certian things correct? there are girls out there that wont even bat an eye at your issues.

can I ask what happened and why you needed that surgery? have you talked to doctors about your situation and is there any treatment or therapy to help?

I have a friend and I believe he has muscular dystrophy or cystic fibrosis (not sure which one) anyways he was in a wheel chair then one day he was using crutches to walk. his legs are very weak but his arms are strong. he is now married and has a kid.

there are girls/women who marry men who are paralised from the neck down. there is always hope and you should never give up something you believe in.
as for making love kissing ect. dont worry about any of that YOUR 15. there are A LOT of kids out there who havent kissed or made love at that age and older. im 22 and i still haven't made love heck i've barley kissed a girl.
you are still a kid and need to take advantage of it because once you get older its not as easy to do the things you once could do as a kid. you have to get a job pay bills take care of others ect.
making love should be one of the lowest prioraties for you. have you been on this site and noticed how many of these posts are of kids worrying about having STD's or getting pregnate thoes are things you dont want to have to worry about. there is just so much risk.
I guess what im trying to say is be who you are and dont worry about what others think of you. you can not help what happened to you and there is plenty of time to get with girls.

does this help at all? let me know ;-)

Biomajor'10 wrote:

alright man,
the first thing to know is that you are who you are ok? and at you age that can be hard to get as well as for others to get. ITs important to remember that there are others out there in a lot worse position than you.

surly you have talents and enjoy doing certian things correct? there are girls out there that wont even bat an eye at your issues.

can I ask what happened and why you needed that surgery? have you talked to doctors about your situation and is there any treatment or therapy to help?

i had to get surgery because I had a cavernoma on my brain stem. It is sorta like a stroke. Like I said, i couldnt even move. ive been doing physical therapy for a few years. Now, i am the way i said previously.

My biggest problem is, I can become very insecure. but, other times i am making people laugh. itr varies based on my enviroment, teachers, etc.

Also,in class i talk, and a few people said theyll hang out, out of school (i asaked them). But they all abandon me when it comes times. I dont really have friends, except my neighbors, who is two grades below me.Sometimes it feels as though, i dont have a fair shot.
I do things that mAay be boring to some, I modify xbox 360 by modifing the xex and the ffs.

i really enjoy talking to you

well im not sure what all that technincal stuff is with the x-box but thats what makes you unique. do you play online or have other friends who enjoy playing x-box? I know how the whole ditching thing goes
I have had friends in the past who make plans to hand out and i got all excited then when the time came to hang out or go do something they would always have some sort of excuse.

it really felt terrible sometimes. do you talk to girls or are you more on the shy side? if you do talk what types of things do you say or talk about?

sometimes knowing what to say in different situations helps.
I have a friend (well actually he is my room mate in college) but he will go talk to girls and sometimes he just tries to hard ya know? like he doesn't try to be creepy or wierd but sometimes he just is.

so that can affect your social life depending on how you act

Biomajor'10 wrote:

well im not sure what all that technincal stuff is with the x-box but thats what makes you unique. do you play online or have other friends who enjoy playing x-box? I know how the whole ditching thing goes
I have had friends in the past who make plans to hand out and i got all excited then when the time came to hang out or go do something they would always have some sort of excuse.

it really felt terrible sometimes. do you talk to girls or are you more on the shy side? if you do talk what types of things do you say or talk about?
see, they just dont call or anything, they dont even make excuses. I talk to girls in world history or english. in english, i comment to her about the teacher, making her laugh sometimes. in whistory, i talk to girls but its all bs to make them laugh. i.e ill ask a question. listen to their answer and theyll ask me. i say bs, they laugh.

i men maybe i should be more serious, so we can connect? tell me what i should alk abouit. and yes i play online, with "with friends" i dont know irl.

so that can affect your social life depending on how you act[/

can you elaborate more, please

ok well you should be your self.... if you were to talk to a girl with out using all the bs what types of things might you talk about? what types of "serious/real life" conversations might you have. you know not just a bs conversation to make them lah.

knowing this will allow me to better understan the question that you want me to elaborate on....

as for me Im really not shy at all. well i guess in a new situation with people i dont know I am shy at first but once a conversation starts then i get all into it. but when i'm around people i dont know i dont like to be the one to start a conversation ya know?

ok well you should be your self.... if you were to talk to a girl with out using all the bs what types of things might you talk about? what types of "serious/real life" conversations might you have. you know not just a bs conversation to make them lah.
i mean.. i dont even know what tot talk about

as for me Im really not shy at all. well i guess in a new situation with people i dont know I am shy at first but once a conversation starts then i get all into it. but when i'm around people i dont know i dont like to be the one to start a conversation ya know?

yea, thats kinda like me; if they talk to me z.z


i think i get self concious if i do something dumb, it gives more reason thn my walking to think im slow

ifixing mistake, sorry

*i get self concious about people thinking im low, for i cant walk.

ifixing mistake, sorry

*i get self concious about people thinking im slow, for i cant walk. and i might make a dumb face trying to see; i have bad eyes.

I canceled the page when it was submitting to fix a mistake. Then submitted it and i double posted, sorry.

Sorry quad post, but do you knmow what its like to not go out with actual friends for five years?

hey matt,

No, I have to say I don't know what its like to not go out with actual friends for 4 years.

I can only immagin and it must be Terribly lonely and hard. no one to talk to about issues or have fun with.

I watched a TV show a little bit ago called mystery Diagnosis on Discovery Health Channel. (have you heard of it?) anyways there was a 16year old who had a rare genetic disorder causing ALL sorts of medical problems including some neurological symptoms he was short and looked kind of aquashed. he had a voice that sounded something like a robot and his bones are extreamly brittle which prevented him fom playing contacts sports like baseball football basket ball ect.

but he did find he was an awsome dancer especially with hip hop.

he is much worse off as far as his condition goes and i saw him with a lot of girls and friends around him. so it proves that there are accepting people out there. especially if they know you never use to be/look like you do now.

also do people ever make fun/bully you or is it they just dont talk to you?

if you go to start a conversation try talking about either things you and the person your talking to have in common. same likes or dislikes. also try just talking about things like school or classes/lunch simple little topics which start up conversations. if its a girl and you notice her looking nice or wearing a nice shirt/sweater/ pants jewlry ect comment on that "That's a nice______ shirt, earings, neclace, bracelet, whatever.

if someone talks to you just go with the flow and dont try to make every conversation in to something funny.

does any of this make sense?? ;-)

I have heard of that channel. i have decided to ask thi girl out, after i finally get in touch with her via facebook. She is beautiful and Ive knownher for like 5 years. shes funny and she accepts me. she has a bf, but im gonna say "do you want to go ton lunch, as friends?" Ill talk to you again later, i have too much adrenaline gping to think.

hahah Happy New Year!!!! has your adrenaline settled down any..... i think talking to this girl is a great thing but be carefull as you say that she does have a bf. as long as its friends then you should be fine. its a start and will help you with your self-confidence especially since you already know that she accepts you.....
Remember its the start of a new year.... you can make this one awsome and start to have a fuller social life like you use to !!!!! ;-)