Hello,
My wife had a baby via c-section 3.5 months ago and we're having a lot of trouble with sex. We've tried intercourse just once about a month ago, but it was too painful for her so we stop immediately and haven't tried again. I've used by hand on her maybe 5 times total, but even that has been an uphill climb, and she hasn't had the slightest interest in that for the past couple weeks. I've tried everything I can think of, I do tons of house work, taking care of the kids, etc. to preserve her energy and earn her favor, but nothing is working. I've tried talking about it calmly a few times, but it's basically either, maybe in a few days, or, I just don't know what to tell you. Even when we had a week by ourselves on vacation, nothing much happened. After this, we had a nice talk about me not pressuring her, which I think I've done well, and she says I've done well, but it's not working at all, no matter how little interest I show in sexual activity. This is our second child, and the first wasn't anywhere near this difficult. It's getting extremely frustrating, concerning, destructive to my self-confidence, and I have no idea what to do, other than to continue being patient with no end in sight. Any advice?