SEX is PAINFUL!

Sorry for butting in Bio! BUT I suffered from this condition for years so I will just put in my 2 cents OK?

Hi Guest! What I would like you to do is go to your doctor and ask for the following

1. A pap smear - to rule out Vaginitis 2. A Pelvic Internal Vaginal ultrasound - to determine if you have the beginnings of an ovarian cyst - which is VERY common honey so don't panic 3l Also when you are having the ultrasound they need to be looking for signs of endometriosis! The symtpoms you are describing CAN be from mental hangups, but due to the pain and also you not even being able to get a tampon in I am sure it is one of the above 3.

Please let us know how you make out OK? Good luck honey! Also do you have enough natural lubrication - as in do you get at all excited and lubricated through foreplay!? IF not this might be from what I call "Pain Anticipation from the Enemy" What I'm getting at is this! When you have a VERY painful time with having intercourse, your brains main job is to stop you from hurting! So it will see your boyfriend as the enemy and start the ball rolling so that he CANT do what the brain knows he wants to do! And thus will not allow you to become aroused or "Ready" for penetration! Also take a deep look into how you feel about sex - nationality or religious reasons! Your brain is your biggest sex organ and if it feels uncomfortable with the act then you have to overcome that BIG obstacle! Also do you think you are ready for sex?

Hi., i seriously understand how frustrated urs husband would be. But i promise, you dont have to worry for this any more. b'coz, my wife also had this problem and we are having sex very easily now... so, first of all be relax and have hope and faith that you will come outta this problem. It is called vaginismus as somebody here said. and i'm very sure that it is this problem that makes u feel so.. Actually to say, it is first of a psychological problem., you have to feel very relaxed while doing your fingering, and apply any gel that will numb the vaginal area( we use 2% xylocane jelly) check out your local doc for such kinda gel. apply this and try fingering.. slow and steady within weeks you will succeed. and to be honest, i waited for a long time before not knowing the problem, but after that.. it was very very easy. trust me. it is vaginismus.

Hi Guest! That is a EXCELLENT point! But just to clarify this is the last thing to be mentioned after finding out if there is anything wrong! Painful intercourse can be from MANY physical and mental/emotional problems! So she still needs to get a check up to rule out the 3 things and then they can concentrate on the Primary Vaginismus!

OP! As the guest mentioned you could be experiencing Vaginismus! And this is VERY treatable! Depending on where you live you can actually be sent to a Vaginal/Rectal Physio Therapist! BUT lets rule out everythign else first OK?

Thank you everyone for being so nice to me and replying with very helpful information. After researching on the net and reading other peoples storys my first thought was Vaginismus. So i had a talk with my friends and my mother and I have made an appointment at the doctors to make sure I don't have any physical problems. I am really hoping it is just my mental state of mind as i am a very negative person and of course being told by everyone that sex is supposed to hurt the first time makes me think ok this is going to really hurt.. lol. I'll let you know how everything turns out. Hopefully everything will be ok and I will be trying one of those helpful solutions soon. :-D

Thank you!!