tocophobia: fear of pregnancy or childbirth

aaahh.. wel i thought i was the only onw who z hvng such phobia... though, i neither hv ny boyfrnd nor em married.. infct em virgin... bt still.. everytym wen it comes to my mind...i jus cnt help getting depressed... i guess its because of the such open media n liberty tht our minds are nw filled with such c**p...

hope to cope up with it!!!

I feel like this is my story...I've been through the same thing. Wanting a baby and feeling OK the first few weeks and then the depression and fears seep in. I have the abortion and within weeks start imagining what it would have been like if I hadn't. I feel so mixed up and KNOW I'll regret it. I can't afford to adopt or have a surrogate. What ever happened to you?

Oh my gosh! I am a vigrin and im terrified of being pregnant! Seriously i actually believe im pregnant without even having sex for the first time. How do you get rid of it? I hate being so scared all the time.

I share your fear, but I am a married woman with two little boys. If I got pregnant it would really be no big deal, but I dont want to because my two children keep me busy enough; it really isnt a selfish thing, it is more like a its not the right time and I dont want children when I am older becuase I want to eventually sleep again in my life. This fear has take my life over to the point I am a shiveled soul of a woman due to never getting laid. I am too paranoid although I counted days. The bad part is my husband thinks he is too young for the "snip snip" and I am terribly allergic to birth control (seriously, my mother too) I know its strange by my hair falls out and I am so ill I am unable to get up. I am scared a tying tubes would send me into menopause. Now my periods are there ever 15 days and being well in tune with my body I know I am ovulating twice a month. I am scared and law up at night thinking about pregnancy and cry on my way to work worried. My second child birth was natural and my clitoris ripped in half, my p***y looked like it had braces. I am not saying this expierence is what turns me off as much as the lack of a villiage to raise my children I already have. I am not nuts, so I dont know if this is an actual psychological issue, but I know I am physically stressed in every way and my husband lacks the love he deserves. I am at a loss for what to do.

I am 25 and dont want children EVER.

i feel the EXACT same things as everything you have listed I think I am pregnant all the time-no matter what I do or don't do sex or no sex i am on birth control and not even in a relationship i think about it so much it drives me insane. people think i am crazy its resorted to me having to go talk to someone which i hope helps because the thoughts wil not go away you are not alone, though

oh dear.. you are not alone..

Yea, to the point that I have gone to lady doctor 3 times. And had to be extremely drunk. I hysterically cry when anyone talks about P topic around me :/ this is characteristic of the true phobia, as my boyfriend has pointed out. People don't believe me... Until they have been in a situation around me and the topic

What if, I have two children under the age of two, and i have a nexplanon implant in my arm, my husband and i have sex probably once a week if not less, but i feel kicking sensations and my periods aren't regular due to the birth control. I just cant regulate my periods anymore and im terrified (literally i will have an anxiety attack, in fact my hands are sweating at the thought) to take a test. This is ruining my marriage and my relationship with other peopel because they think im crazy when i talk about it. I dont know if im just scared to have another c section (both mine were) or if im scared of the financial aspect. Or what. But this has got to stop. Someone help!

So sorry to hear this I have tockphobia and a beautiful husband how want a child so I can relate to how u feel

IM 13 years old never had sex and never want to i suffer from severe anxiety and ocd and i feel anything could get me pregnant i don't want a pregnancy

I know no one has wrote on this board in a long time, but I cannot say enough how great it feels to know there are so many people who have the same fear as me. I have NEVER and i mean EVER liked or wanted kids. When I was a young girl and played 'house' with the other girls on my street and I would pretend to be someones sister or aunt (no relation to motherhood) according to my mom, I would get very upset if someone wanted to play the baby. I never wanted a baby doll, if it came with a barbie I'd throw it away. When I was 10 my aunt had my cousin and I remember she placed her on my lap and I had my hands up in the air, I didn't even want to touch her. I know to some that sounds awful but I have never held a baby nor do I ever want to, I don't want anything to do with them. I was a camp counselor for a few years, I have no problems with kids that can talk/ walk etc, but infants just remind me of pregnancy. I know birth is by definition natural but to me I can't and don't ever want something growing inside my body. I do not find this to be selfish, if I was the last women on earth then yes it is selfish in that sense but I'm not. There are plenty of women who want children and even multiple so I always say they can have one on my behalf. I didn't loose my virginity until I was on the pill for at least a year, although I have had quite a few sexual partners, I have trouble getting in the mood due to my fear I know its something all men want and can hurt your relationship so thats one of the main reasons why I did it. I do enjoy sex just a lot and can orgasum, but what I don't enjoy is the constant anxiety and fear in the days leading up to my period.

I'm now in a committed relationship with a man I love very much, and I'm very lucky that he never wants kids either. In the 1st year of are relationship we had sex reasonably often but I became traumatized after I took my 1st pregnancy test after we had unprotected sex in the heat of the moment. (I'm still on the pill and condoms are a MUST) After that it become only once a month. Its now been 4 months since we last had sex, (the condom fell off and I got a UTI, my 1st with him and saw it as a bad omen) I'm now terrified that he would be the guy to get me pregnant and I know I'd get an abortion, but now a days that might be getting harder, the topic of abortion really does NOT belong in government esp in the hands of men deciding what a women must do. I believe that if we would never force a woman to have an abortion she didn't want (like china does for example) then we should also never force a woman to have a child she doesn't want.

My main fear now is getting the courage to start having sex again, he agreed to have the operation but his job is so demanding that finding time to take the necessary week off to recover is hard. I would have already had my tubes tied if not for the amount of pain it causes women. I'm hoping to find ways of coping with my fear, I have no desire to try and want kids, but I do have a desire to control my fear of having sex. I'm scared that it will ruin our relationship he says he would never leave me for such a silly reason and our relationship is still very strong and loving, we take baths together, perform oral acts on each other and even communicate better. I have a lucky one, but I still feel like this cannot last too much longer. Theres been multiple times I've really wanted to have sex with him but my fear kicked in. I wish I was infertile and could give my fertility away to a woman who wanted it. I'm also SO SICK of my friends telling me this is a phase, like um no its not a phase hell I passed out watching the last twilight movie where bella gave birth right in the theater haha, Tocophobia is VERY real and I think it should be shared.

Thank you for sharing. Our fear is very real to us. I understand where you are coming from.

Yes, i feel you..all you have said happens to me right now. please help

Did you have a baby yet?