Very often, in my sessions with clients, a person will want to try something new but is stuck in not taking the loving action. "What are
Since we never know what is going to happen from one moment to the next, not knowing what is going to happen is not really the problem. The real problem is that we often inhabit the unknown with scary thoughts and images. We make things up that scare us into doing nothing.
Strange, isn't it? We can just as easily make up wonderful thoughts and images, but instead we often make up frightening thoughts and images. We allow our wounded selves to take over, filling the unknown with all the bad things that can happen instead of all the great things that can happen.
If you are stuck wanting to do something but not doing it, it is likely that you are inhabiting the unknown with thoughts and images that scare you. For example, let's say that you always wanted to learn to fly a plane, but you just can't seem to get yourself to take the flying lessons. You might be telling yourself things like:
- I will make a fool of myself.
- I will fail.
- The instructor or others will end up thinking bad things about me.
- I will find out that I really am inadequate.
- I will get rejected.
- I will get hurt.
- I will die.
Obviously, as long as you are filling up the unknown future with these thoughts, you will likely stay stuck.
You could just as easily fill up the future with exciting thoughts, such as:
- This will be really fun and exciting!
- I love learning challenging new things!
- Imagine all the places I could easily visit!
- I will get to meet a lot of new people!
- I am going to feel so great that I finally learned to do this!
Even if you do go ahead and take the lessons with the scary thoughts, it is likely that you will not have nearly the wonderful and exciting experience you could have if you focused on the exciting thoughts.
It is the wounded self that is deeply programmed to fill the unknown future with negative, scary thoughts. Do you really want to continue to allow this ignorant, programmed part of you to determine what you do? Remember, the wounded self has NO access to a source of truth, no access to your Guidance. It can only think what it has been programmed to think. Because its thoughts are not based on reality, but only on what has been taught, it really knows nothing. Basing your choices on the programmed thoughts of your wounded self will keep you scared and stuck.
At any moment, you have the choice to move out of your programmed left-brain and into your right brain - into connection with your Guidance and with truth. You have the choice to fill the unknown future with excitement and joy.
Which person is happier in life - the one who allows their wounded self to be in charge or the one who is willing to allow their Guidance to lead them?
Next time you really want to do something new but find yourself stuck not doing it, recognize that you are allowing your wounded self to fill your unknown future with all the bad things that can happen. Shift into your loving Adult and consciously fill the future with all the great things that can happen and then take the loving action!