What's WRONG WITH ME, I JUST CAN'T CUM

hi!

man i can totally understand where your coming from. im 18 also, my bf is my first , and we do both greatly enjoy sex. BUT . this is kinda opposite, i can orgasm, all my muscles tensing and loosening, all that jazz. but ive never been able to come. EVER. i can get wet, have sex, and orgasm intensley. but none of that typical "coming" i came (haha) across this topic because my bf and i just had sex, and i had to pleasure myself a lil. and i came! i was building and building to my orgasm, but none of the muscle stuff, just a sense of relief, and um, 'evidence' all over my self and the sheet! it was so wierd and i was looking for some kind of information, but its good to know im not the only one!

Hey, im a 19 year old male and i used to be in this situation. i couldn't get my girlfriend to cum either and i felt like she wasn't satisfied, but we talked about it, and decided we need to spend more time with foreplay and setting the mood. i think this really helped, things were alot easier when we wre both 100% ready for sexual contact and we have never had a problem since that. i think the extra time spend fooling around really makes things easier.

Hi everyone.I was browsing the internet to try to find out why certian women cannot cum?I am 26 years old.I've expeirenced many diffrent things.I have tryed relaxing and everything from A-Z.I still cannot cum with a partner.I have found that if I use a vibrator on y clit while having intercourse I do cum. It is difficult because your partner has to be patient with you.And its embarassing when you have sex the first time with someone and you either lie and say you did or you tell them the truth.Its hard for a man to exept that you didnt cum after intercouse.He doesnt feel he has accomplished his job.Some have thought it was them with the problem.It would be nice if I turned 30 and could :-)

Hi im 17, i lost my virginity last year and was VERY surprized that i was able 2 make the person who i was having sex with cum it dose give you a sence of achivement but at the end of the day if you both enjoy your selves dose it matter?

Hi,
I didn't think i could cumm either, i was getting really frustrated.
So i took some advice off of other people, who said ''watch porn and just lay on your bed and finger and let your mind go blank''
so i did that and then it happened, i came. Why don't you try that?
Hope it helps.
<3

First things first!!! Somethings I would recommend for you is as having different positions such as Upside down and stuff like if not then also try some kinky things, I am not saying that you should but some people should try other than regular sex to achieve their orgasms it is not about being young or old it is about Nirvana which is the ultimate feeling that you get from your mind that passes to the spots that you need. So all I am saying is either try some things during sex or at least try to find your spot or the position that makes you there how you imagine it even imagination during sex is a must to achieve that goal. Some say that you can hit the roof of the inner p***y to achieve it yet I hardly recommend the feeling or where to find it that is what will make your orgasm there.


Cheers I hope it helps...

wat about if your a lesbian that cant cum at 16?

Okay, whoever that was who gave step by step details on how a girl can get herself to cum...............
THANK YOU! I'm also an 18 year old girl, never have been able to cum before...tried this and it worked. =] I'm so excited to tell my boyfriend!

This blog is very nice... I read a lot of things that might or might not help... We'll see in future time :)  

Ok I am 24 and I used to have that problem, the key to a great orgasm and being able to cum is focus on what your doing...clear your mind and look at your partner while he/she is doing you...some girls clits are on the inside others are outside, if your an outty like me focus is key and getting a good vibrator or penis ring may help...dont freak out and think what if my man thinks I am weird because I want to try that, just suggest it to him. I promise that sex toys can do wonders, I used to be optimistic of them too, but after using them to spice up my sex life, now I can cum like a porn star. Remeber focus is key, just clear your mind and think of nothing but the pleasure your feeling

new1 wrote:The way the body works!

I am 25 now but One of the dudes on here has it right, Ive seen one girl take a vibrator to her clit for over 20 minutes before finally being able to give herself an orgasm. I had some kind of issue for a while where I couldnt make myself ejaculate its an actual condition, for me it was over masterbation, or simply over stimulation, it happens when you have sex for too long too (went for 2 hours once before the girl decided to kick me off) Well ya that is life I laugh at it now but my point is that for me it was all in the mind, so focused on trying to reach climax, that I wasnt enjoying myself, that and combine condoms that were oversized and felt like a super rain coat in the shower and you have issues. So for most people it is training you mind and body to become one, masturbation is the tool for this, if you can focus on the feeling and then use that to drive yourself to the next level then you can eventually cum, always remember what it feels like just before you got there and use that as a focus if you are having trouble concentrating or your partner just sucks. IT is also critical when you run into something called plateauing. A difficult word for some I understand but what that means is your body and pleasure are like exercising. If you keep doing the same routine your body wont get anymore results. Thus you have to mix things up for example tongue flicking works great at first but if you keep doing that your girl will get used to it. So try fingering if she likes that, or change speed, intervals, or patterning with your tongue. These are just examples. But sex for some people will be easier then others, most men or woman are sensitive in certain areas more then others> it is why you can have a girl that can have a multiple orgasms or different levels of orgasms, some that can make her whole body shake while the ultimate just knocks her off her ass, for this one girl it made her pop a blood vessel in her eye. The g spot is a good place if you can get your fingers or a large enough penis up there, I here cow girl works good for this, but it depends upon your anatomy (the girl that told me this was 5'1 so not certain if it affects things). So just focus on your own pleasure and enjoying the feeling of sex, make certain your lover isnt a douche and just laying there, get them into the action as well, the more you two get involved and can metaphorically feel the other and their excitement level the more sync you two might be in. Also be aware ladies that your sexual body is like a machine, if it isnt properly warmed up you will have to wait for that before you can get any serious satisfaction, thus foreplay be good thing!  Most guys are built to last for just that by the time u are ready to go they are done so try pacing yourself or get a really good cunnigulis going so that you are ready. Also dont be afraid to tell your man how you like it, cause if he dont listen you will be left unsatisfied.

hope this helped to shed some additional light!

binnyjinny...

i know EXACTLY how you feel. Im in the same boat. im 18, i lost my virginity to my current bf, and i cant lose it either.

i dont understand...

i hope that at least makes you feel like youre not alone.

Yeah. I'm having that same problem and I'm 19.XD

I only recently lost my virginity and it just irks me that I can't cum for the life of me. I don't have a bf, but I do have a "friend with benefits" and I have a feeling that he thinks that it's his fault as to why I can't cum. I still never came and it's VERY frustrating to me. Don't tell me to relax cuz I've tried to and I can't seem to do that either. Help?

Hi BinnyJinny, I can assure you if spend a night with me you will know how to cum afterwards. I have helped so many girls to cum and reach orgasms, it is a pleasure for me to see my lady cum & orgasm before i do. Keep trying it will cum soon ;-))

Hey xD I am 17 and to be honest I have never came before... It bother's me because I want to experience it... I feel kinda left out when my friends are saying "OMG sex was amazing blah blah blah" and I'm like geeeez what's wrong with me...