im so upset!
i need some help to figure this out. theres this young girl aout 20 or so and she was dating my boyfriends friend. they had started fighting alot around the time my bf and i did too. my bf and i broke up for about 20 or so days. but still loved eachother.
we got back together yesterday and then he got a text from his friends gf saying shes pregnant! and he admitted to sleeping with her. they apparantly slept together december 27th ONE damn time and were both VERY messed up. i get people make mistakes and he feels horrible and wishes he could take it back.
anyway, the whole time shes actually dating her bf. so she was having sex with him the same time.... like the next day...GROSS. but ive also heard that she sleeps around for drugs.... so really she could be saying it may be one of two guys when it could realllly be more than two!!! her story is she thinks it MY bf's because her bf anf her have unprotected sex all the relationship and NOTHING.... her bf states that he doesnt think its his because he has low sperm count???!
her bf(EX now) only sees red and says he doesnt care, where as im trying to figure this out because i still love my bf, i mean im very hurt....because this just isnt like him at all, but i understand you do sh*t sometimes when you get messed up and TECHNICALLY we werent together. although my bf states that he still feels as though it was cheating bc he loved me at thetime.
im so upset. also this girl LIES about everything and im wondering if shes lieing... i mean wouldnt she HAVE to be Ovulating pretty much the day or day before they had sex?? he isnt even sure he finished they were so messed up! so wouldnt it be more that its her BF's baby since they only did it ONCE...i mean i know theres a chance but COME ON she ALREADY has positives on test??? i dont know... thats not long from dec 27th to jan. 11 or 12 to know youre preggo?
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In order to think you are pregnant, a missed period is usually the first indication. A home pregnancy test could well be positive a day after a missed period. So if she missed a period expected on 11th Jan and took a test on 12th, it would presume ovulation 28th, so she would have been fertile 27th. However, it seems unlikely that one would take a test so soon after a missed period unless pregnancy were expected. I am suspicious of her claims. Find out the date of her last period start, and how long her cycle is (typically 28 days), and also the date her period was expected. Also find out the date of the test. Was it a home test, or a blood test result?
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shepherd thank you SO very much for your response. I am also suspicious because WHY would she take a test so early unless she already thought she may be pregnant??? and thats ONLY IF she was due the 11th and it does depend on her last period.
unfortunatly I have no way of finding out her period.... ive asked her (now) ex bf but he doesnt know... my BF says the test was very dark.... and she was suppose to get her monthly the 8th i guess, so she was like 5 days late?? its not really adding up to me?
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Lines are dark? what test did she use?
If she is on drugs, it may affect the reading (e.g. methodone), but also unless he saw the reading within 5 minutes, it could be a false reading. Did he see the test being done?
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he claims she took three.... one by herself... one in front of her bf, and one in front of mine? i dunno im so very very confused and upset... i mean the odds are soooo slim of this happening its insane to me!!! it was one night drunken and she is disgusting ive heard horror stories about her meth / heroin/coke / pills/ suboxin, use and it freaks me out.
my bf has told her he doesnt want it to be his.... it was a total mistake and first one hes ever made, she would be an awful mother and actually id be SO suprised if shed even carry to term the way she does drugs....... especially since she has no idea who the dad is. and we think shes been with more than my bf, and her bf as well we think shes trying to pin this on him to get him.. but it could also be his like 1 percent chance! ughhhh.
i have looked up that certain drugs can affect the test results, also if she has a tumor on her reproductive organs but this is also wishful thinking...
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Yes, it sounds very suspicious.
- Did she take all three tests on 12th?
- So, did your bf actually watch her doing the test - watch her peeing onto the test?Ask him what test it was (make) and what were the colours of the lines.
- If she is pregnant, then she needs to have a blood test by a medical practitioner. Where do you live?
At some stage, a paternity test will have to be taken if she persists with her claim. If she had had sex with others a day or so before 27th, the likelihood is that another guy is the father. His sperm would have arrived in her fallopian tubes first, and would likely be the first to have contact with the egg.
- Did he ejaculate? inside her (no condom)?
- Has he tested for STDs? I would suggest that he gets tested.
Either way you have to come to terms with what has happened - the fact that he had sex with another guy's gf! And you say he was very messed up.
- What was he doing - being with her?
- Was he really drunk - why?You both need a heart-to-heart talk about lifestyles.
- You still love him - does he love you?
- He feels he cheated on you - how will he make sure he doesn't cheat again?
- Are you ready to forgive him - completely - never to raise the incident again in an argument?
I hope things work out well for you both, and if you want to talk about any of these issues, feel free to ask (privately if you prefer - but you will have to sign in for that).
Take care.
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