im 15 and its my boyfriends main goal to make me cum because im the only girl that he hasnt been able to make cum and he always gets mad about it and just gives up. i acctually peed one time when i thought i was going to cum...why does this happen and can it be fixable?
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Dreamer&Thumper,
So you are 15? Well, the only thing I can tell you is that you not being able to orgasm, is because your body isnt ready. There is nothing abnormal about it. You might want to consider that maybe you arent having orgasm because you might be nervous or anxious. Does it not affect you when your boyfriend tells you that you are the only girl he cant make do that? You might also want to consider getting tested for STDs..... quite frankly it sounds like he has been with quite a few and proud of it. Pretty gross.
I dont think there is anything wrong with you, I think there is something wrong with him....that sounds to me like arrogance. Your body is probably only reacting to your insecurities.
Please get prepared for STDs if he has been with others. Forgive me but in my opinion, neither of you are mature enough and are not in a committed marriage in a situation where you should be having sex. Sex is a gift, your virginity is a gift. I wouldnt take it lightly.
Sounds to me from what you posted concerning your boyfriend.... that he is very proud of his little "sex tropies". Not such a good thing, as he is not showing you respect or decency either.
Dont try to change what your body is naturally trying to tell you. Your not ready. Dump this kid and find someone else whom will respect you.
Good Luck
So you are 15? Well, the only thing I can tell you is that you not being able to orgasm, is because your body isnt ready. There is nothing abnormal about it. You might want to consider that maybe you arent having orgasm because you might be nervous or anxious. Does it not affect you when your boyfriend tells you that you are the only girl he cant make do that? You might also want to consider getting tested for STDs..... quite frankly it sounds like he has been with quite a few and proud of it. Pretty gross.
I dont think there is anything wrong with you, I think there is something wrong with him....that sounds to me like arrogance. Your body is probably only reacting to your insecurities.
Please get prepared for STDs if he has been with others. Forgive me but in my opinion, neither of you are mature enough and are not in a committed marriage in a situation where you should be having sex. Sex is a gift, your virginity is a gift. I wouldnt take it lightly.
Sounds to me from what you posted concerning your boyfriend.... that he is very proud of his little "sex tropies". Not such a good thing, as he is not showing you respect or decency either.
Dont try to change what your body is naturally trying to tell you. Your not ready. Dump this kid and find someone else whom will respect you.
Good Luck
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IVE ALREADY HAD AN STD TEST ABOUT A WEEK AGO EVERYTHING CAME OUT NEGATIVE, WEVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS NOW AND I LOST IT TO HIM A FEW WEEKS AGO I THOUGHT IT WAS THE RIGHT TIME
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dreamer&thumper,
I am glad to hear the STD test came out negative. Honestly though, I dont believe there is anything wrong with your body. You need not worry about something not working right. The reason I mentioned a "committed marriage relationship" is simply this...... I did not wait until I was married. I went through alot of emotional stress and turmoil (feared pregnancies, std scares, why isnt my body working right) as well.
Trust me, I am not attempting to "preach" at you in any way. I can just remember feeling similar things.
I can also look back now, KNOWING that I was never fully ready. Our virginity and our "special area" are very special gifts, gifts that are meant to give to one person in a marriage relationship.....(my view). It is a "soul bonding" (if you will) that is very precious and special, and wonderful.
Now keep in mind, you are at a tender age... 15. Your body is going through changes, your body has been going through changes for a while. These "hormone fluctuations" are TOTALLY normal, and a very beautiful thing, however; sometimes, they dont "feel" like a good thing, because I can remember at that age feeling a little "awkward, different, confused, etc.". I would feel very strange being the "virgin". This is actually a beautiful change for you, and a time when you are growing into the wonderful young woman you were created to be.
TRUST ME...... I remember the hormone "flush" and remember the thoughts about sex and wondering how wonderful it would be, but I didnt go through with it until some time later.
If in ANY situation.... you feel confusion.... more than likely that is your "inner angel" giving you subtle little hints. I was once told... if you dont have ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY about something, and it isnt clear to you..... DONT DO IT. Your virginity IS STILL a very precious part of yourself, something that you will ABSOLUTELY want to share with the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with. I used to think that notion was "old fashioned" I only wish I had not had sex, I am here to tell you that I would have saved myself A WORLD of turmoil and broken hearts, sickness and confusion. It never goes out of style.
You said you lost it to him a few weeks ago. Now you know what it feels like. Your body is more than likely trying to tell you (and your heart) that you arent ready and that perhaps something isnt right with this relationship.
I know EXACTLY how the delicate age of 15 is... it was a while ago for me, nonetheless, these changes you go through, these perhaps "odd" feelings, these possible bouts with being unsure.... they will pass as you grow into the fine young woman He intended you to be. Please do yourself a favor, and confide these feelings and worries also with a truly trusted peron ... I would say your mom first and foremost, but if not her, a person who has a good head on their shoulders and who is unbiased and can lovingly be truthful and encouraging to you.
I would be more than glad to have you "vent" to me or post if you have any further need.
Hugs to you,
Hizgrace
I am glad to hear the STD test came out negative. Honestly though, I dont believe there is anything wrong with your body. You need not worry about something not working right. The reason I mentioned a "committed marriage relationship" is simply this...... I did not wait until I was married. I went through alot of emotional stress and turmoil (feared pregnancies, std scares, why isnt my body working right) as well.
Trust me, I am not attempting to "preach" at you in any way. I can just remember feeling similar things.
I can also look back now, KNOWING that I was never fully ready. Our virginity and our "special area" are very special gifts, gifts that are meant to give to one person in a marriage relationship.....(my view). It is a "soul bonding" (if you will) that is very precious and special, and wonderful.
Now keep in mind, you are at a tender age... 15. Your body is going through changes, your body has been going through changes for a while. These "hormone fluctuations" are TOTALLY normal, and a very beautiful thing, however; sometimes, they dont "feel" like a good thing, because I can remember at that age feeling a little "awkward, different, confused, etc.". I would feel very strange being the "virgin". This is actually a beautiful change for you, and a time when you are growing into the wonderful young woman you were created to be.
TRUST ME...... I remember the hormone "flush" and remember the thoughts about sex and wondering how wonderful it would be, but I didnt go through with it until some time later.
If in ANY situation.... you feel confusion.... more than likely that is your "inner angel" giving you subtle little hints. I was once told... if you dont have ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY about something, and it isnt clear to you..... DONT DO IT. Your virginity IS STILL a very precious part of yourself, something that you will ABSOLUTELY want to share with the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with. I used to think that notion was "old fashioned" I only wish I had not had sex, I am here to tell you that I would have saved myself A WORLD of turmoil and broken hearts, sickness and confusion. It never goes out of style.
You said you lost it to him a few weeks ago. Now you know what it feels like. Your body is more than likely trying to tell you (and your heart) that you arent ready and that perhaps something isnt right with this relationship.
I know EXACTLY how the delicate age of 15 is... it was a while ago for me, nonetheless, these changes you go through, these perhaps "odd" feelings, these possible bouts with being unsure.... they will pass as you grow into the fine young woman He intended you to be. Please do yourself a favor, and confide these feelings and worries also with a truly trusted peron ... I would say your mom first and foremost, but if not her, a person who has a good head on their shoulders and who is unbiased and can lovingly be truthful and encouraging to you.
I would be more than glad to have you "vent" to me or post if you have any further need.
Hugs to you,
Hizgrace
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