Hi there! I am 23 years old and I am single. I have wanted a baby for years but I knew I couldnt have one until the time was right so I made the choice years ago to stay a virgin until marriage. My 2 older sisters' marriages ended in nasty divorces and in one case a horrible, emotionally draining custody battle which ended when my little niece came home with bruises all over her butt and they finally granted my sister sole (soul?) custody. That said I do not feel ready to get married but I desperately want a baby. I am in a position in my life financially where I would have no problem supporting a baby but I wanted feedback on whether I should have a baby even though I was saving my virginity for marriage or should I wait to have a baby until I find a husband. My main concerns are 1 that I will get too old to have all the children I want (4 maybe 5) and 2 that it would rush in to a marriage just so I can have a baby. Obvoiusly I have thought about this a lot lol! any comments or constructive criticism is welcome thank you!
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First of all, I am so proud of you for saving your virginity until marriage. I am also so sorry for what your sisters have gone through, but just because your sisters have had bad luck doesn't mean you will. I have to tell you that I am on my 7th year of marriage, and I am deeply in love with my husband. We didn't live together before marriage as most couples do now, so when we got married, our first year was extremely difficult. We couldn't stand each other. Both him and I thought we had made a mistake. The good thing about the both of us was that neither him, nor I, believed in Divorce. We stuck through it, getting closer to God, and reading a lot of self improvement books. Had we been the typical couple and lived together before marriage, we would have separated that first year never knowing how loving and wonderful our love could have been.
Everything takes work in life. If you do things the correct way all the time, I can guarantee that God will bless you. That is not to say everything is always going to go smoothly. My marriage was Hell the first year, but we worked through it, and God blessed our marriage.
Studies show that children from broken homes, and single parents tend to have a harder time coping with life in general, vs children who are in a loving home with both parents. Of course, this is just in General, there are a lot of single parents who do a great job, but I bet the majority may tell you that it would be a lot easier with a spouse. You can find someone to share your life with. Someone who will value your pure spirit. Then, you will find how fulfilling the whole pregnancy experience will be with the love of your life. This is my opinion. Best Wishes
Everything takes work in life. If you do things the correct way all the time, I can guarantee that God will bless you. That is not to say everything is always going to go smoothly. My marriage was Hell the first year, but we worked through it, and God blessed our marriage.
Studies show that children from broken homes, and single parents tend to have a harder time coping with life in general, vs children who are in a loving home with both parents. Of course, this is just in General, there are a lot of single parents who do a great job, but I bet the majority may tell you that it would be a lot easier with a spouse. You can find someone to share your life with. Someone who will value your pure spirit. Then, you will find how fulfilling the whole pregnancy experience will be with the love of your life. This is my opinion. Best Wishes
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