First of all, let me thank in advance anyone who might help me with this. I know it's going to be hard for a lot of people to give strictly facts and no opinions, but I do not wish for this to become a debate on the topic, I am simply seeking advice.
I am seventeen years old, and became sexually active in early December of 2012. He has been my only partner to this day. We've used protection every single time. I have taken emergency contraceptive twice - the first time, I was just being paranoid, I think, because the condom slipped off but I don't think he was ever inside of me without it. The second time, the condom broke, and we did not realize this until after he'd pulled out after ejaculating. That time, we drove all night to find a drug store open late enough to purchase Plan B immediately.
I wasn't ready to tell my parents I was sexually active, so the few times I'd gone to the doctor's and asked her for birth control, she told me "no", because I "needed to be sexually active", and she said "once you're sexually active, come back and ask again". I thought this was b.s. so I tried to make an appointment with my local Planned Parenthood twice - once on my own, once with my mother - but neither worked out. I know I should have waited until I was on the pill to have sex, and that condoms are not 100% effective, but we have discussed potential outcomes and have agreed that we trust one another enough so that in the event anything bad does happen, we can count on one another to act responsibly and supportively.
Well, the cat crawled out of the bag a few weeks ago when my mother spotted a condom wrapper in my purse and she then demanded that my doctor put me on the pill. I had told her it was used for only oral sex, to try and keep her wrath with me to a minimum (my mother is mentally ill and takes medication for both bipolar disorder, depression, and paranoia bordering schizophrenia).
So I am in possession of a months worth of birth control, but the package said not to take it until either the first day of your menstrual cycle or the first Sunday after. Well, that first day should have been a week ago, around the 21st, and the Sunday would have been on the 24th, but I'm late.
Prior to the week of the 21st, my mother kicked me out of my house for unrelated reasons. I stayed with my boyfriend's grandparents, who were kind enough to understand the situation and allow me to stay in an empty bedroom. I returned two days later for three days or so before she kicked me out again, on the 22nd. During this, I was spending a majority of my time rehearsing and, beginning the 21st, performing in my school's production of Beauty & The Beast. This was a tontonton of fun, but it was very stressful and strenuous on my body as I am not usually that physically active (it was super dance-intensive). I felt as though I would get my period on the 21st, and these feelings were so convincing that I wore a tampon. But alas, no cigar. I am back in my own home, regretfully, and I am still experiencing breast tenderness, mild cramps, and intense fatigue (I slept for way more than usual yesterday, it was peculiar). Now, my late period could just be from the stress. Or maybe something happened that we didn't observe?
I am wondering, as I live in Michigan where parental consent is required for an abortion, that in the case this goes wayward, what would be the best method to achieving an abortion? Having a child is not an option for me, as I am responsible and intelligent enough to know that I could not take care of a child, and that my elderly father and sick mother cannot take care of a child, and also that I am slightly underweight and the pregnancy would be immensely unhealthy for me (I weigh only around 90 lbs, at 5 feet tall). My boyfriend, who is sixteen, is supportive and knows that we are not in a position to take care of a child, but we are in a position to prevent the child from being born into a bad situation. We just want to know what the best way to do that would be so that we have a set plan. Can I drive to say, Illinois, where parental consent is not needed, and have an abortion? Do you think the condition of my parents is grounds for judicial bypass approval?
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