Couldn't find what you looking for?


Table of Contents

If you ask teenagers whether they suffer social media anxiety, chances are they will tell you that they do not. But if you ask whether they care whether their peers "like" their social media posts, chances are they will admit they do.

Counselors and psychologists talk to teens and preteens about social media. These mental health professionals want to find out how much teens know and don't know, and maybe even if they have advice for their moms and their dads.

A diligent parent may be logged into a teen's Instagram or Facebook account with them at all times. These social media accounts let parents know who their teens are with, who has sent them pictures, who they have sent pictures, and what is posted on their walls.

Usually parents accept a rule that they are not allowed to post on their children's walls or to comment on their posts and pictures.

Many American parents take the point of view that once you hide social media, or make it unavailable, children are challenged to find ways to access it behind their backs, so they opt for openness--at least for their children's social media accounts.

The result is that teens and preteens learn to think "Is Mom online?" when they post to their social media accounts. Most adolescents would protest that there is not really anything going on on their Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter accounts, and when there is a problem, it's what some other kid has posted. So what usually goes wrong with teen and preteen use of social media accounts?

Social Media Focuses the Fear of Being Left Out

As one teen known to the writer of this article put it, "I guest you could say, like, you see, you get on Facebook and Snapchat and you discover that all your friends are hanging out somewhere and you're like, 'Oh, I'm home alone right now.' Then if there is no way you could get where they are you just feel lonely and sad and bad."

Teens and preteens typically don't characterize this experience as "anxiety," but they also usually would say "It sucks." 

An 11-year-old the author knows put it another way, "You find out you didn't get an invitation to a big party, and you feel really bad."

Freaking Out Over "Likes"

Another issue many teens and preteens have with social media is using social media as a metric for popularity. 

The more "likes" are recorded when the child changes a social profile, the more popular he or she believes herself to be.

Many young users of the Internet have very high expectations of their likeability measures on Facebook and Instagram. They may expect to be members of the "100 club," users who receive 100 likes on their profile changes (photo, relationship status, and location, for example), or they may even expect 200 or more of their "friends" to log on and "like" their online activity.

Counting "likes" becomes a competition. Children may say to each other, "Check this out, see how many likes I have on this post," when failing to take into consideration that many of the people clicking on a photo or a post have never met them, would not recognize them if they did, and have no interaction with them except online.

Continue reading after recommendations

Your thoughts on this

User avatar Guest