10 Things You Need To Avoid If You Want Your Date To Be Successful | Emotional & Stress Management slideshows | Emotional & Mental Health center

Too Much Texting

Texting is a fun activity that keeps us in touch with the people that we hold near to our hearts. It can be a simple way to inform our friends and family of how we are doing, so that they do not worry about us. The problem is, when we are texting, we are splitting our attention from our date and concerning ourselves with matters that may not need our immediate attention. This makes the person that we are on a date with feel like they do not matter to us. It is very important to keep texting at a minimum during the date.

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Paying The Tab

If someone has asked you out on a date, you should not have to pay for that date. Paying for the date is something that the other person should be doing, so that you know that they are capable of handling their part of the bills. If you continuously pay for the dates, the person that you are dating may get the impression that you are too-lenient and that they can take advantage of you. If you do end up paying for the date, make sure that the other person pays for the next time that you go out together.

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Too Much Talk

Talking too much can be a serious problem on any date; relationships are about give and take. If you are talking too much and not listening to what the other person is saying, you run into the same issues of if you were texting too much. Granted, the person is there to get to know you, and you have a right to say what you think. However, give the other person the respect and courtesy that they deserve as well. Let them express their thoughts and ideas too. Get to know the other person by listening so that you can decide whether or not you want to be with that person.

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Drinking Too Much

Drinking is never a good idea when you are going out on a date. Even though drinking is socially acceptable, alcohol is not good for you and can cause you to drop your guard. People who drink are less likely to think their decisions through before making them. You are more likely to be persuaded into doing things that you normally would not do. Alcohol also is a cancerous substance and shows your date that you do not care about yourself. Show your date that you have self-respect and do not drink on any of your dates with them.

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Be Polite To Staff

Being polite is one of the best ways to encourage your date to continue seeing you. Having good manners means that you are concerned about how other people see you. People that care about how others see them show that they take care of themselves. This also shows your date that you care about their thoughts and feelings. Show your personal flair without going over the line. Be conscious of how you may be perceived before you speak. Make sure that you show your personality so that your date can decide whether or not they would like to continue seeing you.

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Don't Look At Other People

Expressing an interest in someone who isn’t your date is a one-way trip to disaster. People are emotional creatures who need to be assured that you are with them. If you are checking-out another person, you are sending a message to your date that you are not really interested in them. Your date wants to know that you are going to pay attention to their needs and wants. If they catch you drifting over to someone else, they will be certain that you are only looking out for your own needs and could not care less about them. Make sure that you keep your eyes on only them throughout the entire date.

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Don't Be Too Pushy

No one likes to be pushed around, especially when they are dating someone who they love. Being pushy is a sure sign that you do not care about the person who you are with. You send them a clear signal that you should not be bothered with their concerns. They will see you as self-centered with no room for them in your life. If you want a long term relationship, you should be willing to place their needs above your own. They should be the sun that your world revolves around and you should make sure that they know that.

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Never Be Late

Being late is a sign that you are not considering your date’s feelings. If you say that you are going to be there at a specific time, be there. If you are going to be late, let them know as soon as you are aware that you might be late. Do not leave your date waiting at a table, wondering if you are going to show up. Make sure that you give them the option of rescheduling, if they need to, so that you show that you care about their needs. Make sure that you are late for the right reasons: do not make yourself late, because you had to play a video game for three more minutes.

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Talk About Your Ex — The Worst Conversation

Talking about your ex is never a good idea on any date. You broke up with your ex for a reason. Talking about your ex makes your current love interest feel like they are unimportant. If you are speaking negatively about your ex, you show that you are still not over them. Make sure that you avoid answering any questions that may lead to talking too much about your ex. If the subject does come up, make sure to show that you are more interested in talking about your date instead of your past. This will show that you are more concerned with their emotional needs rather than your own.

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Bad Breath Ends The Date Immediately

Bad breath is never a good thing on a date. Not only is it disgusting, bad breath shows that you do not take proper care of yourself. People want to know that you have things together. Having bad breath can also give the impression that you do not live a healthy lifestyle or you have a disease. Bad breath can also be caused by smoking cigarettes, which is not a healthy or appealing habit to have. People who smoke cigarettes have a lack of self-respect and dignity. They also do not show that they care about the health and well-being of the people who they have in their lives.