10 year old naked in a shower with parents-yes or no?

yeah I agree with you

I remember locking the bathroom room door so my Mum could not come in at age 13. My Mum didn't wash me but used to dry me to exfoliate which I didn't like. Anyway I felt a little guilty as I could sense that she was a little hurt that I locked her out. I guess I had just wanted privacy and to not have anyone in the room.

ENJOY IT WHILE YOU CAN

Good for you

Cheir19437

Why is this any discussion?  I know that I am a year late to this discussion but… If this has been your normal, why are you questioning it now?  As a nudist mother of 2 (a boy 13 and girl 10) Shower times were always a great time of sharing what happened during the day or what was going on in their little minds.  I was washing them they were not washing me. Same for their father if he was the one bathing them. We were usually there to watch and monitor as they go older, most definitely washing their hair and backs, as they were washing themselves

Your son will be the one to tell you when shower time should stop.  There is no reason to feel guilt or shame for a beautiful act of love that had years to grow and formulate.  Question? Does he see you nude outside of the shower?

My son started to pull away when he was about 11, (I’m in my early 40’s)  Asking if it would be ok to shower himself.  Of course, it was.  But I never closet the possibility for our continued shower times.  We have a very large walk-in shower in the master bedroom even though there are two other full bathrooms one with a tub/shower and the other a smaller shower stall in the lower level, everyone wants to us our master bath.  If the door is shut it means who ever is in there wants privacy.  The same is true of bedroom doors, shut means privacy rules apply open well mean come on in.  Probably Sunday’s are the most chaotic days as everyone is hustling to get showered and dressed for church.  Son usually goes first, followed by either my husband and daughter or me and our daughter, while the son is toweling off, brushing his teeth etc.   Once the our daughter is done she steps out to towel off, brush her teeth, comb her hair etc and the other parent will join the one still in the shower. 

Those here that immediately reject the mother/son shower have the problem.  They either one have no kids and therefor do not recognize the benefits this offers in time savings as our days are stretch to the max.  Or two are discussed by the fact that you two are naked. together.  Something that their little minds can not grasp.  As this has to be some weird sexual thing going on,

Why have you put this doubt in you mind that some how your body has become something to be hidden, ashamed of?  Have or did you ask your son about his feelings.  What does his father think?  Just wondering that’s all.

I applaud your honest, no-nonsense appraisal of the situation of showering/ bathing or being nude with your children. Of course, humans are a highly sexual species, having traded our estrus cycles for other capabilities, so that (in western societies, at least) sexuality has become so pervasive, so bound up in what should be everyday, non-sexual behaviors and routines, that it becomes very difficult to stop sexual thoughts and awarenesses from "creeping in", which petrifies most adults these days. The real trick, in my opinion is knowing what to do -- or NOT do -- next, when these conflicting feelings arise, as they will likely do. In any event, the onus, I would suppose, is on the adult in the situation to keep things on a non-sexual track. It is likely that the child is not the one worried about it. And as you point out, the child will surely indicate when they are desirous of a more "private" arrangement, either verbally or by their altered actions.

A tip for people submitting comments; Some of these leaving me asking, "Is this a guy or a girl?" I'd think girl, but guy isn't out of the range of possibility. Others leave me asking, "Is this the mother or the father?" About 20 key strokes would give us readers more a handle on your perspective. Giving us a handle on how long ago this was can also give us a handle on your perspective. For the above, I am left asking, "Was this last year, or was it 50 years ago?"

By the time a girl is 16, she has been a young woman long enough that it has been years since she left the age where I would ask, "Isn't she old enough to bathe her own body by herself?" It's now time to say, "If they enjoy each other's company while bathing together, then they should go ahead and do so."

On the question of when I would decide to let them bathe themselves, I'm a little uncertain. Certainly once I know they can be left in the bathtub alone with no fear that they would drown, and once they have learned to wash their most difficult body-parts correctly, but after that, probably sooner than later. Assuming they've gotten to this point, once they indicate they want to bathe themselves, it's, "Congratulations! I'm turning command of the tub (or shower), the soap, the shampoo, the washcloth and the towel over to you. Just leave them in good shape for the next person in. You're not the only one bathing in this house."

My mom showered with me until I was eighteen. The older I got, the less it happened. I always thought that all mothers did this. My Dad was never home, he was always working. My Mom always reminded me to pull back the foreskin on my penis and give it a thorough cleaning. Many times she did this for me. As I got into my teens I would often get an erection when showering with Mom. She would always say, "you are growing up right before my eyes." My Mom and I always had a close relationship, and still do.

Sometimes, you get a zinger like this. From the "reply to" and the first line and a half, I think I am reading the words of a girl/woman, then I hit "foreskin"?!!! A GUY'S mom was not just bathing him, but still SHOWERING WITH HIM until he was 18? Usually, for this to happen, dad isn't in the house at all. Even if it only happened rarely by the time he was 17, that's a very unusual mother-son relationship. I hope mom had some very well defined boundaries for their shower-together times. About mom's advice to "give his penis a thorough cleaning" I'd say, "If you do it every shower, it will be thoroughly clean clean without giving it a thorough cleaning. 'Giving it a thorough cleaning' is an excuse for masturbating. For your reproductive health, you should do that too, but be honest and realistic about it and don't just claim that, 'It just went off while I was cleaning it'." Then, there's mom's erection comment; If he was a typical teen boy, by the time he was thirteen and a half, his penis was about as grown-up as it was going to be. Mom should have been saying, "I'm glad you are getting an erection when you see a naked woman, but you shouldn't be getting an erection when you see me. If I need a progress report on your package, down there, I'll ask you for one, but no more showering together."
I would have liked this submission to end with something like, "Today, I am married with children and my wife and I have a wonderful sex life." It would be nice to know his unusual relationship with his mother didn't undercut his relationships with potential spouses.

"Mom should have been saying, "I'm glad you are getting an erection when you see a naked woman, but you shouldn't be getting an erection when you see me. If I need a progress report on your package, down there, I'll ask you for one, but no more showering together."

 

I suggest that with that kind of statement, the mother in question has just informed her son that having an erection in front of her --or, at all -- will be punished by the taking away of what had been a pleasurable, innocent, and expected routine between them. He will feel that his body has betrayed him, when all it did was respond as it should when in close proximity to a naked female, regardless of WHO that female is. The libido, the urge to procreate, knows no such distinctions. Nature doesn't care one whit about your sense of morality or propriety. His body is responding exactly as it should. The idea that one's naked parent is "off limits" and should never be allowed to trigger an autonomic sexual response such as an erection in boys, or lubrication in girls, is a ridiculous denial of the facts. It is a construct of (mostly Western) societies -- societies that have been bound and gagged by a Puritan ethos that has caused more torment to young people than any other plague I can think of.

 

If you wish YOUR children to be so hamstrung, that is your prerogative. But families that have established a less guilt-ridden or fearful pattern of behavior hurt no one by conducting themselves AT HOME however they wish, provided that no harm is coming to the members of that family as a result. I can see no reason to think that sexually mature members of the same family must run from accepting the nudity of their parents, children or siblings. I will grant you that imposing one familial style on the other will likely cause confusion and conflict, but if children have been raised with the idea that members of their family seeing each other naked is no big deal, how then do we have any standing to say they must behave differently?

And what, exactly, is the purpose of asking a question like that (even if your English leaves something to be desired), except to titillate your own puerile desires? Hmmm? Please enlighten us.
The question was NOT about getting an erection, but whether there is anything wrong with bathing with a 10 yr old child, yes or no.

It's post like this that really disturbs me.  What a Sick and perverse people we have become.  And no I am not talking about parents that chose a different life style were nudity with in the home is a normal common every day occurrence.  I as a mother do not see the need to be confined in clothes 24 - 7. Same for my husband. Clothes if worn at all in out home is a matter of choice.  Where we chose not to have them on, completely butt naked most of the time!.  Our children are well adjusted even high achievers in their school, community, even church. Our children a free to bathe with either their father or mother.  Our son doesn't as much as he use to.  but he does come and go when we are showing,  And no there are no erections, with him or his father.

Being raised in a nurturing loving environment where nudity is a common practice has killed what societies sex pushing agenda propagated on TV, in books, magazines and music videos.  

Are you crazy? This guy has been showing hard in close proximity to these young gurks. Furthermore, he has been staring at these young girls and getting really, really hard. They are not just young! They have barely reached puberty and he is getting an erection from looking at them naked!He is obviously thinking about having sex with them. He is just waiting for the right opportunity to stick his stiff for into them! Your trip leaving him alone with them is just the çhance that the pervert ia looking for. Plus the girls seem file for the piçking; they have been purposefully rubbing up against his erection and giggling like their playing some child's game. This is obviously arousing him and increasing his urges to ravage their young bodies! Don't go, unless you want to facilitate their registering even more than you have with your degenerate child sex role-playing. If that is the case, you might as well stay home and witness first hand the end product of your degeneraçy.