Well I've posted about this woman before. Long story short, she is much much older,was my boss, my moms freind, and I fell in love with her. She doesn't love me the same way. She doesn't love me the same. She loves me as a person and looked at me as a son. When I left to get away when I first told her how I felt I had to wipe her tears from her cheeks. She thought she was never going to see me again. I came back to continue working for her. She led me on. Said that I have to wait a year, "I'll known if your for real in a year. Let's just take it very slow".She said this because I'm in my first year of sobriety. She would always let me kiss her on the lips and she knew that it was coming and never avoided it. I love yous where always dropped back and forth. She said she loved me very much as a person and that I'm very special to her.No one has ever loved her like me. The man she thought she was gonna marry over 20 years ago when she wasn't sober killed himself. Keep in mind she is 49 and I'm 23. Yeah I know but love is blind. I fell for her for who she is. I was never remotley attracted to her.I looked at her to be far from sexy and was always about looks until I saw this woman inner beauty. She has an adopted 4 year old son and know that I love them both. She's been single for 20 years so I probably freaked her out. She even asked my mom for approval. They are freinds.Anyway I couldn't work with someone I was in love with I left. Then she became pretty distant. Yeah I was probably a little to agressive but she knew how I felt before. Well I left her a voicemail telling her that I miss her and want to see her after I hadn't seen her I a month. Didn't hear back so I sent a text saying I know I was a jerk before I left but it hurts when you can't take a minute to call me. She called me upset because she doesn't want me to think that she holding me leaving over my head.We had a normal convo and agreed to lunch then I had to hang up and said I'll call her. I did and left a voicemail tellng her how i felt about her once again. I get a text the day before we where supposed to go to lunch. It read " we need some space. I can't give you what you want and it is getting uncomfortable.please understand and I will speak to you soon-Alison. My heart was destroyed and I wanted to die. This is my first love and in my first year of sobriety to top it off. One thing that makes me feel better is that she was asking my mom how i was doing everyday for a week. Also it's not every day she's gonna have a young guy pursuing her like me. I'm not full of myself but Ive had women tell me that I was very good looking. I'm not looking to kick her to the curb. I'm proud to love her. Will she come back around? I know most would say to move on but I don't want her to come around when it's to late. I love her so much.
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Oh daniel, now i feel like an ass. I'm the one who told you to profess your love for her and allow her the option. I checked back on our past conversation and i thought i gave you some great advice, i guess not. I don't know what to say now, exept that i'm sorry. I hope she did not lead you on, but maybe she needed some kind of ego boost and your kisses and kind words and obvious attraction could have been what she needed to validate herself, i'm just shootin in the dark with that one.
A broken heart has got to be one of the worst emotional pains that one could experience, i know all to well. I will not tell you to move on and i certainly will not tell you to forget her, because you won't. Just go about your business like nothing has happened. I don't know if she will come around, i don't know if you two are meant to be. Love is weird sometimes, we don't understand, and we give ourselves headaches trying to figure it out. I'm going to be 53 years old next month and i still don't have it right. Just don't call and whine to her, don't leave her texts that are sappy and needy. You can not let this control your life as you just a had a rough go of it with your sobriety, CONGRATULATIONS by the way.
I'm sorry Daniel, i could very well tell you to chase her and beg her back and act a fool, or i could tell you to go out and look up an old girlfriend or possibly find a new one, or i could tell you to worry about you for now and let the chips fall where they may, which i think that one is what i'm gonna tell you. We can't make someone love us, we can make them feel sorry for us and we will mistake their pity for love, we can hear someone tell us they love us but only because they know we want to hear it, they can always put us in a false sense of security, but at the end of the day we know the real truth. Please don't allow yourself to be at someones mercy, that is not fair to you at all. Your so young and you have miles of life ahead of you. You can love her, that's fine, but please don't let this one way feeling control your life. Don't start questioning yourself because by the sounds of it, i think you may have been led on, maybe just a tad. Please don't let my comment upset you as i know you are fragile right now, but this is how i see it from a womens eyes.
Just know that i am here for you if you want to vent or chat or complain, it's all good. It helps to unload.
A broken heart has got to be one of the worst emotional pains that one could experience, i know all to well. I will not tell you to move on and i certainly will not tell you to forget her, because you won't. Just go about your business like nothing has happened. I don't know if she will come around, i don't know if you two are meant to be. Love is weird sometimes, we don't understand, and we give ourselves headaches trying to figure it out. I'm going to be 53 years old next month and i still don't have it right. Just don't call and whine to her, don't leave her texts that are sappy and needy. You can not let this control your life as you just a had a rough go of it with your sobriety, CONGRATULATIONS by the way.
I'm sorry Daniel, i could very well tell you to chase her and beg her back and act a fool, or i could tell you to go out and look up an old girlfriend or possibly find a new one, or i could tell you to worry about you for now and let the chips fall where they may, which i think that one is what i'm gonna tell you. We can't make someone love us, we can make them feel sorry for us and we will mistake their pity for love, we can hear someone tell us they love us but only because they know we want to hear it, they can always put us in a false sense of security, but at the end of the day we know the real truth. Please don't allow yourself to be at someones mercy, that is not fair to you at all. Your so young and you have miles of life ahead of you. You can love her, that's fine, but please don't let this one way feeling control your life. Don't start questioning yourself because by the sounds of it, i think you may have been led on, maybe just a tad. Please don't let my comment upset you as i know you are fragile right now, but this is how i see it from a womens eyes.
Just know that i am here for you if you want to vent or chat or complain, it's all good. It helps to unload.
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Nice reply bbfeet9, I endorse it 100%.
DanielG.... it's been a while. If you're still around let us know what happened..!! :))
DanielG.... it's been a while. If you're still around let us know what happened..!! :))
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