I have been seeing my boyfriend for six months now and we have been trying to have sex for the last 3. He is very attentive etc but as soon as he enters me he cums. He said that i turn him on alot and this is why it happens i am 25yo and he is 33yo. I tried turning the lights off and he lasts about a minute. I like sex and i am worried this is it and it will improve. He pleases me in other ways but i need the real deal. He masturbated the same day and he said he only has weird half orgasms if he has more than one in a day and he ejaculates but does not really have the pleasure side of the first one, can anyone shed light on how to improve this? I find it very flattering but super frustrating as i like alot of intercourse and i have never had this effect on a man before. All my past men have been able to last 10 to thirty plus minutes. I really like this guy, he is sweet and kind, loving and attentive but this may be a deal breaker for me if i cant find a way to better this. I am worried to talk about it and put him off me or embarress him or think he is not good or anything. HELP!!
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My dear
Dont be a jerk because of that. Instead understand him . And help him relax. Because i to suffer from this. I can shed some light from personal experience. As a kid , not sure about most male kids. when first start to masterbate we tend to do it fast. Why? because we never want to get cought by our parents. So it stays imprinted in our minds when it comes to masterbation do it fast because we might get cought. After a while of masterbating we get use to it and then we notice that we can last longer because our penis is use to the touch of our hand. I can guess that your BF started to be sexually active really late maybe in his late 20's. Thus he does not know how to go longer.
As for me when i started to have sex, also in my late 20's , i had the same problem , i soon as i entered her vagina i ejaculated with in seconds, my GF at the time said whats wrong, i told her i dont know why this happened , because when i masterbate i takes me for ever to cum. So her and i staryed to look online to better my self. I started to let her masterbate me to the point i would cum then stop her, This way i would get use to her hand, she would help me relax give me back rubs etc.
But what really helped was A trojan condom with numbing cream. OMG after i let the cream do its job it let me have sex for more then 20 minutes, the cream took about 5 minutes to kick in. I was so happy and she was happy. After that thats all i used trojans condom with the numbing cream thats inside of it. Give them a try. Its gonna feel weird at first for him, make sure he puts it on the right way if not, it can numb your vagina instead.
Report back good luck
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