It seems no matter what I do he doesn't get completely erect. Oral sex(no matter him or I doing it), finger play, kissing. I have never had a problem with a man before. He is only 38. Because of this I'm just wishing for sex to be over. I'm actually not even turned on because when you are doing everything and it don't work. I don't think I'm the problem at all. We have been together for 9 months now so the anxiety to perform should be long gone, I think. We have a good relationship its just he isn't cutting it in bed. I find myself thinking of the past boyfriend just to keep going. It just really sucks when you are all hands or mouth on and it only gets half hard.
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Hi Awesome,
Aw, hugs! That sucks bigtime.
When mama's not happy the ship starts sinking...time to pack up and set sail. You've tried hard.
Have you guys tried talking about it at all? Does he have and attend regular male physicals? When was his last doctors exam? ED is very normal among males and too many men are embarrassed to see a doctor about it, it's their manhood/virility and for it not to be working properly makes him uneasy. IF you want to save the relationship you will need to talk to him about it. If you don't care about it and you have put in enough time already and don't want to invest anymore - leave now before you are more emotionally involved then what you are.
If you chose to not talk about it and stay with him I am scared that you will go out and cheat - this will devastate him more than you talking to him about the problem.
Hope this helps
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Its always more severe when he has been drinking but but not just when he is drinking. It like he denies it. he will have problem putting it in and keeping it in because its soft but denies it at the time and says its hard. It kinda pisses me off. He doesn't have insurance and who knows when his last check up was. I think I will just try to avoid sex with him unless he is totally straight. I told him before its the alcohol and he denies that too. Thank you for your input.
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It certainly could be the alcohol but it could also be an indicator of a circulatory problem or heart disease. He really should get a physical and tell the doctor about it.
Does he ever get a good woody when he wakes up in the morning? If he does occasionally get good morning wood that shows it does work from a physical point of view. Then it may be his attitude or the alcohol that's getting in the way.
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Yeah, have sex with him when he is straight? BUT, what kind of life is that for you or relationship? How can you be happy with that, it's a halftime relationship or commitment. If he can't be honest with you then what do you have left? Don't waste your good looks and charms on someone who is a deadbeat - you can do better!
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I know he loves me. He has treated me so good in this relationship. Trust me I have had some jerks in my life.
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