cocaine use and impotency

I'm in a similar situation...I've been living with my boyfriend for 5 years..been together for 6...I told him from the get go..I don't want to be with anyone that does that sh*?..
We entertain quite a bit and I find blow on my bathroom floor..I find remnants in his pockets..I'm so over the lying and sneaking and him telling me that I'm being paranoid..what do I do? I need to approach this for the last time..

I need your advice

Some people became temporarily impotent while hi (It happens to me every time. As much as I try I can't get erect while on cocaine).

Other people can get erections just fine while they're hi.

Everyone is different I guess. As long as you can get erections normally while sober, you should be just fine.

After what period of time should the erection come back (max)? I tried it second time after a year and it was much different and scarier. First time was like a lot like I have red about it, but from this time the high was very low, teeth didn't get numb and for about 12h and counting can't get it up. Is it often that cocaine dealers give you a bad surprise for the first deal just to mess arround or do a permanent damage?

This wasn't a problem for me when I was younger (in my 20s), but now (I'm 36 yrs old) a few lines and I'm completely limp. Doesn't matter how hot the girl is in front of me. It's not a matter of being "mentally" there, physically my junk is asleep. It takes at least 8 hours to be remotely "normal" again. Of course, things affect everyone differently. Like I said, in my 20s this didn't affect me, but back then, a stiff breeze would give me a boner. There are natural suppliments that you can such as L-arginine or DHEA. These help a LITTLE, but you're definately not 100%. DO NOT mix in persciption strength drugs such as viagra unless you want a heart attack. Best advice, just don't do coke if you plan on having sex (if you have a penis and want it to work).

correct about the whiskey, it's like a cleanse

Read the book codependent no more by melody Beattie. Focus on yourself, but realize if he doesn't do a genuine recovery program you will be in this awful cycle for the rest of your marriage. You must find some safe people you can discuss this with or you will go crazy. Even if you have to travel out of your town to do it. The addict wants you to keep all this to yourself. You can't.

Oh, as an "old-man" I'm sorta' looking back at all this stuff. So, fifty-plus years ago I first
smoked pot (as we called it then, "Tea, Pot, Maryjane, Hash etc," -- and then, for a short while,
a "little bit" of "O" -- smoking "Oh, or O or whatever you want" was, of course, smoking Opium!
Great stuff!! Did if for less than a year, 'cuz it kinda got in the way of the "rest-of-my-life."

By that, I mean, I was -- well, I don't really know how to simply explain it...I was living in New York
City, and in Greenwich Village, and had a Great Job and just LOV'N LIFE!! Early 60's and used
to go over to the West Side docks and get aboard (as anyone could) the soon-to-depart trans-
alantic Liners! Anybody could and just going deck by deck it was non-stop "bon-yoyage" parties
in cabin after cabin. Free drinks, free food and the most interesting people!

And then later, to jump ahead a whole life time, I had reason to "smoke coke."

Of course, I'd tried snorting it years before...in New York City...but it never really did anything
for me. Understand I'd long before stoped smoking pot...and all the rest. Didn't really like
drugs, as they -- well, how do I explain this?? -- They just kinda' got in the way of enjoying
real life! Don't know how to really say that -- I like life more, I guess, un-impaired??

So, years later I had a reason (sounded really good at the time) to try smoking coke! I wanted
to understand why a friend was addicted to it. Figured I could deal with it!!

Well, it went on for a long time ( almost a year) and I lost everything -- my job, my savings, my
tools, my house (home) and, almost myself! But now, years later, I'm still alive and know how
bad the hold is .... and even now 17 years after I stopped, I'd still, well, yeah--I'd like to
"do another hit" !!!!! Not going to, but still, its there.


In answer to your post ..... First thing that happened was I couldn't get a "hard-on."

My friend (a girl) said that was "normal." And so its been....haven't smoked in, oh maybe
17 years, and still have never got it hard again. Doesn't mean that I can't have an
orgasym (or however you spell it), as I 'kinda do .... but never again, I guess, will I ever "shoot
it" over my head -- or even 2 inches. Kinda' oozes out, if you know what I mean.


Bottom Line?? DON'T SMOKE THE sh*t!!!!!!!!

Please!!!!!

WOW, Great High!!!! And not worth it in the LONG RUN!!!!


my thoughts.

This is a late respose to your post. My bf goes on coke binges. More frequently lately. He gets so turned on over everything. Weird neighbour ladies he fantasizes being with me. He just wants to masterbate together as he is high as f**k. It goes on for hours & days. I feel detached from him & I don't know what to do. He does hve anger issues especially today after his latest binge Is all gone .

Thank you i used the drug once today, went to my gfs house and almost started crying cuz i couldnt get an erection. I just needed to know if it was going to be a long term affect

Leave his ass, simple as that

My husband has been smoking crack and spending alot of money on that and the crack whores. I want to know if he can still get an erection while he's on crack. He says yes, I think he's a liar. I have moved out, he moved the crack w**** in. I'm pretty much done, this has been a on going thing for a year and a half now. He has a great job but is not paying the bills. Can somebody give me a picture of what the heck I'm dealing with. After 30 years with him I am in disbelief.

I hope you left that situationship to take of yourself first. You can't help anybody else if you are not taking care of yourself.

Good decision for living a full life with joy.

Yes you spoke the whole truth..its devastating