Does bigger make sex better?

Hi lillyrose, I was listening to a doctor on the radio the other day who said when women come to her wanting labiaplasty it is never their boyfriend's/male partners who suggest it or who are dissatisfied with their partner's labia. I don't think men care much either way. That's not where their pleasure comes from. It comes from the vagina not the vulva, and labia are part of your vulva, not your vagina (which is internal). I think this obsession girls and women have with labia size is recent. I'm in my 40s and none of my friends care or even know whether out labia are big or small or otherwise because we didn't have access to porn growing up so didn't go comparing ourselves to unrealistic portrayals of women's genitalia. Please rest assured that its all good. Don't overthink this. And don't even consider labiaplasty. There are too many horror stories of mutilation out there. If it ain't broke don't fix it. And you ain't broke. You are perfect just how you are. As for big bums and anal sex, I don't know that a big bum makes it feel better physically, but lots of guys like voluptuous women and find big bums a turn on and its the psychological aspect that makes it so hot. But a guy might be better qualified to answer that part of your question. I hope that helps.

OK Sally, a guy here. I think nature gave us the visual liking of larger buns or the shape of them. There are many things about the shape of girls that turn us on. I prefer tiny boobs but nature designed us to like the appearance of that cleavage. You girls wouldn't be wearing clothes that show it off if we didn't like it. The shape of the bum is also attractive as is the "V" of your crotch.

As for the appearance of the genitals, I love them all. All the different types. Actually I prefer hairless so I can see everything better and smooth is so nice to the touch. Besides who wants hair in their teeth? Everything in there is so much fun to kiss and lick and play with and those labia are divine.

I have to disagree with you about our pleasure coming from the vagina. I get mine from all the bits in the vulva and manipulating them to give her pleasure. I get my biggest pleasure from giving her pleasure.

Hi njoynlife, I take your point on vulvas and vaginas. I didn't express myself very well. What I was rfering to was pleasure during intercourse not all the other wonderful things you can do with a woman's vulva. Great to get a guy's perspective. And great that you get so much satisfaction out of pleasing your lady. She's a lucky woman, but then so am I. I said to my partner the other day, "why don't you ever let me know what you want sexually (coz I can be a bit bossy in bed and he's not unless we're in a mood to be kinky)" and he replied that he doesn't feel the need to because his greatest pleasure is in getting me off. Small wonder that I am head over heels in love with him. ok, its not all about sex, but its important.

Sally, I wasn't criticizing, it's nice to hear of some women who have men who get their pleasure out of pleasing them. I always figured I must be a freak or something. As a teen all I heard the other guys say was "Boy I'd like to slam one into her" and that wasn't what I wanted to do with a girl at all. I wanted to love her and be loved in return. Now that I'm old(er?) guys still say the same things when they see a sexy girl and I have to wonder how they keep their wives. I imagine it's mostly posturing for the other guys just like teenagers. I sure hope it is for their wives sake. Guys don't sit around and describe what they do at home like we do here.

Bossy isn't bad, I love it. My first real GF when I was 19, used to take what she wanted, when she wanted it. I asked her why she liked doing that to me so much and she said it made her feel powerful. She could grab it and make it perform and I couldn't stop it from working and that made her feel power over me. I loved it. I let her have all the power she wanted. She also grabbed my head and stuffed my face where she wanted it, for hours at a time. I loved that too.

After having heart bypass surgery my wife jumped my bones the first night I was home when all I could do was lie there, and rode me like a cowgirl on a cutting horse. That was the first time she ever got on top and I loved that.

I'm not sure I came across the way I wanted to either. I certainly do get pleasure out of the vagina. It took years of practice but we found some really deep pleasure in there when we do it just right. There's a feeling of togetherness that can't be beat and it lasts for a while if you just stay connected.