I have trouble with experiencing orgasm with my husband, but get a definite orgasm when I'm alone. The way I masterbate is different from every woman I've ever known or heard of regarding masterbation. I have been using a method of crossing my legs and squeezing in a rhymic way since I was around 7. I can't do it infront of anyone, but it's a definite good orgasm. I just want to be able to have one with my husband. Any suggestions?
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I am the same way. I am 49 yrs old and I have never been able to have an orgasm with my husband. I am divorced and single now. I have a boyfriend and guess what .. no orgasm there either. But I can have great ones crossing my legs and squeezing in a rhythmic motion. It doesn't take me long to have 3 or 4, but I don't know how to do that during intercourse. It makes me feel so inadequate. If anyone has a answer for me I would be so happy. Also, I have been doing this technique since I was a little girl. Didn't know what I was doing at the time.
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the squeezing that you describe is considered a kegel exercise. the most common way to learn to identify and control those muscles is to try to stop urine midstream. if you are successful, you are using the right muscles. once you are able to do that regularly, you should be able to control them during intercourse. i have found it fairly difficult to do it while my partner is thrusting, but it works well to be on top and squeeze for awhile before continuing. after the first orgasm i am much more likely to receive an orgasm from the penetration.
also, most women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. try rubbing your clitoris during intercourse. many women find that it is the only way they can orgasm.
also, most women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. try rubbing your clitoris during intercourse. many women find that it is the only way they can orgasm.
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Why not just get together with him and experiment with this until you find a solution. That could provide you both with many hours of pleasurable intimacy.
When we were first married my wife never got an orgasm from penetration and I was so quick gunned that we didn't know if it was my fault or hers. After much experimentation we found the best way for us was for me to work (well, I never considered it work) on her until she came once or more. I discovered I could make her come almost as many times as I wanted, until my hand or tongue got tired, and I loved it. She sounded like she was loving it too but I'm never sure if she's telling me the truth. This is the woman who told me she never masturbated, not long after we got married. I always figured girls had just as much fun as boys, they just didn't let us know about it. I asked her because I thought it would be fun to watch each other do it.
I always derived most of my pleasure from pleasuring her, so I would usually come while doing her without her having to touch me. (Something that she never liked to do anyway.) After we both came once, we found that I could get inside her and last long enough to bring her to a climax too. With a little practice we were able to climax simultaneously nearly every time. That is a really wonderful experience.
When she was about 50 she "remembered" that she had been sexually abused by her father when she was a young teen. So she is sure that explains why she doesn't like to touch me. After much persuasion she got her younger sister to "remember" that she had also been abused by him.
The only problem I had with this idea was that this was the hot topic for TV talk shows at the time she "remembered" it. I had already spent my life being diagnosed by her many times as having whatever the popular psycho babble thing was at any given time, on TV talk shows.
When we were first married my wife never got an orgasm from penetration and I was so quick gunned that we didn't know if it was my fault or hers. After much experimentation we found the best way for us was for me to work (well, I never considered it work) on her until she came once or more. I discovered I could make her come almost as many times as I wanted, until my hand or tongue got tired, and I loved it. She sounded like she was loving it too but I'm never sure if she's telling me the truth. This is the woman who told me she never masturbated, not long after we got married. I always figured girls had just as much fun as boys, they just didn't let us know about it. I asked her because I thought it would be fun to watch each other do it.
I always derived most of my pleasure from pleasuring her, so I would usually come while doing her without her having to touch me. (Something that she never liked to do anyway.) After we both came once, we found that I could get inside her and last long enough to bring her to a climax too. With a little practice we were able to climax simultaneously nearly every time. That is a really wonderful experience.
When she was about 50 she "remembered" that she had been sexually abused by her father when she was a young teen. So she is sure that explains why she doesn't like to touch me. After much persuasion she got her younger sister to "remember" that she had also been abused by him.
The only problem I had with this idea was that this was the hot topic for TV talk shows at the time she "remembered" it. I had already spent my life being diagnosed by her many times as having whatever the popular psycho babble thing was at any given time, on TV talk shows.
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