My boyfriend and I have only been sexually active for a month and we are in our 20's.He has had sex only once before our relationship, so he doesn't have much experience and that is ok with me. The problem is though, every time I do something sexual like hand jobs/blowjobs or even sex ,he cums early and doesn't feel anything. Before we dated he told me he didn't masturbate really and when he did, he cummed early. When we had sex for the first time he cummed 5 times in 3 hours. He kept stopping because he was trying not cum and when he did he said it felt kinda good but it wasnt an orgasum.While the other hand Blowjobs and hand jobs he cumms within a few minutes and still feels nothing. Is there something wrong?...I know that guys can Orgasm without Cumming but why is he not feeling anything at all?please help :/
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may be he is not passionate about sex...
if he is not enjoying it den he might be in some tension or worries...
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sounds like he premature ejaculates. There is a host of things he can do to prolong the feeling of ejaculation whether he feels it or not.
Its possible that an accident or a congenital problem could prevent him or limit his feeling of an impending orgasm or the sensation, although rare.
If he says that he hardly masturbated as a kid then it to me sounds like the sensation is just to much for him and hasnt "built up a tolerance" therefore doesn't last. Boys who experiment and do masturbate frequently are more intuned to their body and the sensation and grow as well as learn about their bodies during this time in their life. Those who neglect or pay little attention to it are going to be far more inexperienced and often times perpetuate a cycle because they do not feel anything or cant last long and so they again neglect themselves.
This all leads to him probably ejaculating early and or not feeling how it should feel (if you rule out nervous system disorders or nerve damage).
I always attribute experience in these cases; guys who did experiment in their early years of sexual development (in puberty) are going to "know" what to expect, how it feels, etc. Those that don't often times "blow their load early" or even feel guilty about the act they are doing and feel nothing.
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so he premature ejaculates alright ok... is no orgasum a side effect of this when they ejaculate prematurely?so? this is common
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You might want to try prostate massage. I'm sure you can find many places that will give you direction. This is the G-Spot on a man, and it doesn't matter if your straight or gay, that is what can intensify orgasm for men. You may start with a very small vibrator, your finger will work, but having fingernails can cause internal bleeding. Not bad, like your gums bleed when you brush your teeth. If he is practicing what is called "edging", where you keep stopping just before you ejaculate, it can cause retro-grade ejaculation. He would have an orgasm but nothing would come out. Instead from holding off for so long, it will go into the bladder. Men can have more than one orgasm, so thinking a premature one is a bad thing, isn't really the case. As long as he gets aroused again, he can have another orgasm, which usually takes a little longer. Doctors say that retro-grade ejaculation is the same as a regular ejaculation are very wrong. The sensation of the semen coming out the head of the penis is much more intense. I assume he is circumcised, does he wear tight underwear? or none at all? There may be a reason that he isn't having a sensation. It would be a good idea for him to see a urologist that specializes in E.D. and sexual dysfunction. If it is physical, then the mental anguish you are both going through is unfounded. And there are treatments (even ointments) that may help.. And if anything gives him a better orgasm, once he knows the feeling you may not have to continue the other things.
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