I fell in love with much younger man

I can share part of my story. Last year I ended up in a casual relationship sort-of with a 42 year old woman (I'm 27). The relationship was more like a friendly-based coffee talks and discussing. Some of the topics of discussion were past relationships and experiences etc. She would reveal a lot about her divorce, problems as well as I would about mine. One day, it happened and we ended up in bed out of nowhere, and only once. She conceived twin boys and I was like a stone when I found out, didn't know what to do. But however, as seeing someone happy like that, it would be greatly unfair for you to disturb that state and cause discomfort and therefore, I felt happy as well. We don't live together and I'm in a relationship with a girl of my age now, but I sometimes visit the woman and the kids, do some work around the house as much as I can and try to live in good spirits. Life's too short for us to spend it in troubles and problems. At least, when you're facing difficult situation, simply accept it and be happy, for that's the only thing life is worth living.

I like a man that is 23 years younger he was married his wife left him. I would love to start a relationship with him. I’m way to ugly for him, I think. I’m not sure if he would even look at me we go to the same church. Please give me some advise.

I am attracted to a young guy at church too. We stared into each other's eyes once after church and I was mesmerized. I think he was too. Anyway, he's probably in his mid-20's and I'm much older. I don't even know his name and he doesn't know mine either. So, I can sympathize with your dilemma. I don't know what else to tell you except that I wish you the best.

I am in a very similar situation, one little difference is my 25 year old ( he’s 30 years my junior) also has a learning disability- which doesn’t matter to me but apparently it’s a big deal to some people. Also love my husband of 27 years but he can mean and miserable but I know he loves me very much too. Would love to talk more.

Torn, Its becoming more and more common that women are entering relationships with much younger men. I am 49 years old and have younger men come right out and ask for dates! Things at home between my husband and I haven't been good for some time and sex is rare. I am now in a relationship with a 29 year old and its done wonders for my self esteem and for the first time in years, I am happy. I realize that he could be gone at any time but I accept that and have decided to enjoy him while I can. When we meet and have amazing sex, I feel so wonderful and recharged. Sometimes there is just nowhere else to turn and bringing in another man was the best fix for my situation. If he leaves I will find another as long as I stay attractive to those young guys!

fafa, Why not make a move? Take it slow and use that smile! Every woman deserves to have love and there could be something beautiful between you two. Remember, if the husband is not interested then plenty of other men will be. Dona

WOW! I realize that this is a post from a year ago, yet I stumbled on it for so wild reason. My story almost to the tee! Glad you shared this unusual exchange. I even tried to wreck it this Valentines day and I almost did. We only went 1/2 day confused. Love comes in many disguises!

I am in love with a 23 year old guy. I am 37 and look younger than my age and have good looks. I was actually his university teacher. The moment we saw each other, there was direct chemistry and though I denied my feelings but his intense passion made me give in and develop love for him. We spent three years on and off in this relationship because though he loves me but is hesitant because of age gap. Several times I blocked him and tried to forget him but every time, he comes back and hurts my feelings. Two days ago he decided he ddnt want to continue with me. He couldn’t even look me in the eye or bear the thought of me touching him as this would make him vulnerable. We still communicate through messages after the harsh break up which broke my heart. Maybe it’s not meant that we be together even as friends since he asked for that and I replied that I could not be friends with a man I love. Weird is this life and totally unfair most of the time but for sure love is the most wonderful feeling if not charged with lots of pain and misery. Love knows no age if and only the man is capable of making decisions.

im in the same situation or almost....i was with a youngeer guy for almost 2 years (him 24 and me 42) and now he decided to live his own life, he wanted for us to remain friends and we have been exchanging messsages almots in daily basis..for him it seems ok but for me its so damn hard cause i still love him so much! I wish he could just Forget our age gap :-( and fought for me!

i need help or at least some guidance, im 42 and ive dated a 24 ypung boy for almost 2 years and we have talked about marriage, he even got me preagnant but unfortunately ive lost it, but he kept bringing on the subject he would love to have kids with me or try agan, see if things could work out this time in terms of achieving a healthy pregnancy.....ive started taking all kinds of suplements to help rejuvenate my eggs cause i dont have any childreen of my own and i would still love to have one...! on august 2017 my mother found out his number and text him a message saying both her and my father would not accept our relationship and asked him to moove on and find a woman his age and not to tell me a word :-( he was devasted and he felt betrayed by me cause my parents did not even met him, did nit gave him a chance ! So he did what my mother asked ne broke up with me ....knowing i was madly in love with him still..:-( for the record im 42 and right now unfortunately Currently with no job and had to moove live in with my parents who are control freaks !! My ex wanted us to remain friends and so we did up to this point but i feel he still has some feelings for me but he just doesnt have the strenght to fight for me or stant to my parents ...and that kills me :-( what shall i do ?? Is it right my mother behind my back texting him to moove away from my life (due to age diferences and race, he is black) ...i love him so much :-( i cant moove i just cant....i havent been with any other since he broke up with me ....

What annoys me is if we're a man say 45 (my age) in love with a younger woman (say 33) NO ONE would have a problem with it..so why is there a problem for an older woman dating a younger man? Your both adults..I certainly don't have a problem with it...so I wish you well.

thanks!!!! Thats what i feel...why on earth does society still sees this has something out of this world or me as being silly and crazy....if we keep seeing the opposite and hardly no one talks about it...(younger woma older man) its no fair...and than we talk about respect and having equal rights...woman are the worst in judging this kind of relationships...i mean the people who are most critic of this relationships are woman...:-( from my own personnal experience

I know this feeling. He’s 15 years younger than I am and he loved me. I loved him too. But in our community, we will be judged like we did something very wrong. It’s tiring to go thru it and he’s not as strong as I am and so we separated.... he’s still a good friend and he’s happy now with his girlfriend. I am okay, but my heart couldn’t mend. I treat him well nowadays.... it’s all I can do for him.... and it’s all I can do for myself.

Wow...so overwhelmed here. I wish i can tokk wit you. Me married. Husband is selfish. I hv been treated bad on bed.
Since dec lastyear I fell so in love wit a younger man single. Now i am 44 and he s 26. Then me nd him decided to change for religious reason tht apparently on the other hand making us realized that we both are ...perfect match. So heartbreaking ...blabla. can i talk wit yu?

First of all, I see some replies here making judgments such as *if this, then you're sick* and as long as both are adults *over 30... and I'd like to say, that's rubbish! So what if one person is 29? Wait a year? Love... doesn't know boundaries. There is only ONE boundary with love. ONE! And that is, it's between consenting adults. Whatever age you consider someone to be an adult, that is the line. It differs between cultures too. 2000 years ago, as soon as children hit puberty they were adults and got married. So.... here's my opinion. And I think it's sound, and based on life experiences, and traveling. LOVE is LOVE. We can't choose who our heart falls in love with... and we can't make anyone fall in love with us. So when it's reciprocal, mutual, full circle... that is a blessing, that is a gift. The chances of finding that are about 1 in 560!! I am a 57 year old woman, and when I was 50, I fell in love with a 24 year old man. He also fell in love with me, but his culture was so different from mine, and the expectations of him carrying on the family name did not allow for us to stay together. He married another younger woman who could give him children. But that didn't stop our feelings for each other. So we simply had to end it... for the sake of our emotional health and his blossoming marriage. I didn't think I'd ever feel that way again, but I recently did, and with someone much younger again. I didn't plan to, I didn't want to. I was hoping for someone closer to my age. I haven't expressed this feeling to him, because I love him enough to know there's probably someone else out there for him. But that didn't stop me from falling for him! There were 6 years between the first and second man... and the feelings of true love. And I meet a lot of people. So Love is very special, and these people come into our lives and stir our hearts for a reason. We humans love to judge, analyze, put in a box, give rules, and state our opinion. But it's between two people who experience the magical and beautiful attraction... it's up to them to decide if there's too big a gap in age for them to connect, grow, learn and be blessed. Harold and Maude is a cult classic movie that may be a bit of an exaggeration... an 80 year old woman and a man in his 20's. But still, it's funny, it's a beautiful love story, and its message is timeless. :)