I lost my mom just eight months ago. Whenever I see her belongings it reminds me of her. One of my friend told to get rid of everything of my mom's stuff and belongings and rearrange my bedroom so that there won't be reminders. I am really worried and depressed due to this. It is affecting my emotional health. Should I consider taking any independent psychological assessments in Toronto like the CBT Associates. This stage is terrible and I want to get rid of this. Any words of hope will be appreciated. Thank you.
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I just noticed that your sadness has gone un answered, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't get rid of your moms things. Pack them up in a tote, label the tote and just put it out of site, temporarily. I'm not trying to minimize your pain but I lost my daughter 9 months ago, I know how you feel. I have a ton of her belongings in my home, majority I have safely packed away for now. I have a few pictures of her and I on display, also a pink vase of hers that I always loved. I do wear a few of her sweatshirts and I have a couch throw that I keep out. That's all. In the attic I have at least 10 totes full of her stuff that I will never get rid of.
These treasures that you have are your beloved moms things and I don't think she would want you to "get rid of them"..... But I do know it breaks your heart which is absolutely normal. Your grieving and it may take a long time before you'll be able to embrace her belongings. It's OK tho. Just pack it away and in time you can allow yourself to pick an item from the tote, hold it and think back to what was going on at the time that this item came to be. This is good therapy, tho it's sad. Let your self cry, cry your heart out, it's OK. Eventually you will find that you can look at all your beautiful moms things and smile, even tho you may be smiling thru tears you've reached a point where your not running from the sadness.
Look into some grief counseling, that it a HUGH help. Reach out to family, talk about it, embrace it, look to online counseling as well. I found a few excellent sites that I find helps. I have interacted with several amazing and compassionate people to the point where we now talk on the phone. Just don't get rid of your moms things, just put them out of site until your ready.
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