I really need another way to get her to get want to have sex with me?

For me alot of times just hopping on me and doing what you need to do doesn't work. You need to get her in the mood. Give her a massage and get sensual with it. Start kissing her neck or something while your massaging her shoulders. Tell her she's beautiful.. how much she means to you.. how much you wanna make her feel so good. Make it about her. Give her some foreplay. Sometimes we just need to know that its all about us. That your only goal is to get us off and make us feel good.. Tell her your at her mercy.. to let you know what she wants. Ask her if she likes what your doing. Tell her you want her to get off for you. If you concentrate and make her see that you really do care about how she feels in bed she might be more willing to come back for more. Us ladies don't get turned on at the drop of a hat. We are so in tuned with the stresses of life and our emotions and sometimes our libido gets put on the back burner cuz we got so much on our mind. Make her forget those stresses for a night. No distractions. 

Having an orgasm without the foreplay is amazing. My wife could/would never do that. She doesn't like to have her clitoris touched without being fully aroused and I certainly wouldn't insert anything until she is aroused and well lubricated.

I begin by laying beside her facing her back so my hands are free to work on her whole front side. She likes to have her breasts manipulated gently. No squeezing or nipple pinching but that's something you have to find out from her how she likes it. I knew one woman who always wanted her breasts scratched. She started out by asking me to rub ner shoulders and moved my hands to the front to give them a good workover. I mean she really wanted the SCRATCHED. Sp hard I was afraid I was leaving marks but I never noticed any.

Back to my wife, I began on her breasts and then slid my hands down and up over her belly. I don't know if that did anything for her, that was for me. I loved the feel of her belly and abdomen. Then I ran a finger up and down in the crease between her pu$$y lips and her legs. and letting it lightly slide up and down on the center crease where her lips met, not touching anything inside but just teasing a little.

Then getting a little more serious I rubbed the outer creases with a split finger action with my middle finger poised over the center split and touching it lightly once in a while as I applied pressure with the other two fingers. Stop once in a while to just sort of squeeze the lips together and play with the lips being sure to squeeze them over her clit several times. Back to the split finger rubbing and using the middle finger see if it's getting wet in there. When it gets wet allow the middle finger to slip in between the lips and rub whats in there being sure to pay special attention to the clit. If she has a hood, now is a good time to lift it and gently touch the bare tip of her clit and do whatever she likes to have done to it. Of course if oral is on her/your agenda nows the time to have at it.

By this time I have usually had a wet dream without ever doing anything with/to my penis so now we work mainly on getting to her orgasm and I can insert it and go for a second one for me. With experience we managed to work the timing on that so we came together.

Or this is a great time for her to get on top but that was so erotic for me that I came almost instantly as she lowered herself down onto me so we would have to make it happen again while she pleasured herself on top of me. Being the second or third orgasm for me, I could just sort of lie there without getting into it and let her work as much as she wanted and when I wanted to cum I just got my head into and it would happen. She was usually ready for me to do that after she had her second orgasm.

So if you make it all about doing her, you will have a great time in the process but you need to figure out what works for the two of you.

Just jerking off inside her vagina was not any fun for me and it surely did nothing for her. When you're with someone you love you have to actually make love to her.

Hope this helps you AND her.