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I just have a general question.. i recently started having sex and i find that it feels much better for me when my clit is being rubbed at the same time. if i am having sex with my guy in doggystyle or any version of that, he will reach around and rub my clit but in other positions i tend to just do it myself during it. Is that a turn off to guys? making them feel inadequate? i'm not sure what to do or think

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Most woman cannot orgasm simply by penetration, MOST woman DO rub their clit during sex! It just makes it feel so much better, and will get you to reach your orgasm. Chances are he probably thinks its hot that you're touching yourself, anyways, but if you're worried he'll get the wrong impression just tell him that it feels better when you're being touched there.

You can also find positions (like girl on top) that allow your clit to rub against his body when you thrust.
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agent10ve is right, and personally I like it when a girl knows how to take care of herself. I'm happy to do the honors when it's easy for me to reach, but if I can't, I feel very relieved if she does it for herself. I don't even mind if she breaks out her sex toys. I don't feel threatened by it at all. If I had to describe what goes through my mind, it's like she's saying, "whoopee! I'm going to have a great time and I want to make the most of it!"

When it comes right down to it, there is nothing I like more--and I'm sure most guys will agree with me here--than having a woman come while I'm inside her. Women with sensitive g-spots tend to do this without any special effort, but as agent10ve points out, these women are the minority. The rest need a little help, and if they know how to help themselves, I admire, respect and greatly appreciate that!
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@Upton I completely agree. My fiance sometimes says she thinks this is a bad thing. I for one think its hot, and since most women cannot orgasm through penetration alone, having her rub her clit exactly how she likes it (which is harder for a man to do since we cannot "feel" what a woman feels, nor can we simply rely on a woman's body language to tell us exactly what works best) is perfectly fine by my me. In fact, I encourage it. That way she can have multiple orgasms, and get as much out of our sexual experience as possible.

Finally, I have noticed that there is "usually" a direct connection between the emotional bond and orgasm intensity. The stronger the emotional attraction between the two people, the better the orgasm. If the two love each other, orgasms for the woman are much easier, come much faster, and are far more intense. For us, sex is completely different than it has been with any other woman I've been with. She was unable to orgasm before she met me, and now she has multiple every time. Instead of simply "having sex", we seem to go someplace else--similar to what I've read about tantric sex--and it feels completely different and so much better on so many levels: physically, emotionally, etc. I just worry that she thinks something is wrong with her because she touches herself during sex. It's just not a problem for me, and if it is for any guy, that just means his ego is far too large.
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my gf of 6 years never used to touch herself in front of me (we were both our first) when the topic came up she always denied it until recently. thats around the same time when she started rubbing her clit during sex. i dont think im self centered but yes it does make me think.. why now?
people might say, "well it finally came out so now she feels comfortable enough to do it in front of you." i would like to believe that but we been through a few rough patches lately (cought her chatting it up with a random guy from the internet, their conversations were pretty sexual on skype) but thats a whole other story.
so anyways i think its because she isnt quite there emotionally and need that extra bit to get off, she seemed to be pretty easy to please before but hey what do i know.
in a normal dating situation i can see how all the previous posts make sense i just dont think they apply in my case.
yes to let her do her thing, nobody knows her body better than herself,
my relationship is just a sh*t show so dont mind me lol
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its very normal to do tht during sex and if anything a guy who truly loves uwill find it kinda sexy
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When I'm on top I just ride really hard until I reach klimax. But if my man is on top I sometimes just can't resist to rub my clit, it feel so good and makes us come together in wonderful orgasms. 

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I've been with a few different women and have had different experiences, most of the women never touched themselves, I think it's a comfort thing and I honestly love when a girl rubs her clit while we are having sex. I've made my girlfriend have an orgasm without her touching herself and while she did. Making a girl orgasm is a challenge, when she rubs herself she orgasms faster and it feels better, men can't hold their loads so it's much easier for her to touch herself and to have an orgasm together and it's just sexy to watch. In the end, if you are both enjoying yourself, you've reached the orgasm and you look at eachother at the end of the session with smiles on your faces that say "I enjoyed your genitals, let's do this again" than hey! you're doing something right.
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It's simple; it helps us climax. Also, when we are being teased, we rub our clits because it's usually throbbing by then & needs some release! My ladyfriend LOVES having her toes sucked & she goes insane when I tease the entrance of her vagina with my finger. One night we were having sex & I sucked her toes AND teased the entrance at the same time. I looked & she was rubbing her clit. It was so hot! That was just a sign to me that she was loving what I was doing. For you guys, it's like being so aroused that your penis is throbbing BUT having your hands tied behind your back; wouldn't it feel better if you could free yourself and stroke it? I totally didn't mind that she took matters into her own hands. Just means I was really turning her on. Always a good thing!
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No I do the same thing in doggy. It just feels like something I should do, so I do it...and it works.
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For me. I like to do all the work. Playing with the clit, and nipples all while making love to my wife. Some women like to play themselves. I just want my wife to lay back and enjoy every moment. Married 14 years to same woman. It all depends on each other's emotions, and mentality. So have safe fun.
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Okay I need help I currently have been with my boyfriend for two months now and after the first few times haven sex I rubbed my clit I have always done this when I found out it helps and feels really good. But one night he told me it made him feel like he was doing something wrong that he couldn't get me off with out me rubbing and that I was not attracted to him. And know I feel like it's wrong to rub and that I should be able to get off with out rubbing. And know I have a hard time getting off and I dry out fast during sex time. I feel really bad because most of the time I'm the one asking for it. I'm the one turned on but once we start all I think about is him thinking he's not good enough for me and that there is something wrong with me.
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I think the previous poster "guest" said it best. You need to do whatever works for you. If he feels he isn't doing a good enough job he needs to work on learning how to do you better. It takes both of you to figure out how to make it work well. If he's not willing to try perhaps a new bf is what you need. You certainly should find out before you make any lifetime commitment.
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Try laying on your back and take his hard penis in your hand and rub the head of it on your clit until you cum, your man will go wow she loves penis
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I used to be against it in my early 20's. I put it down to my own inexperience and insecurities of not being able to perform. Things are very different now, I have the opposite problem and have to rub my partner's clit as she won't do it herself. I would love nothing more than my girlfriend unable to resist doing it to herself. It feels like a routine now and very one sided.
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